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  • I'm so very very sorry to hear about your loss Major Tom and I wish you the best for your days and hope you manage to keep from falling too far. ((hugs)) +5
  • My heart goes out to Major Tom.
  • Oh my gosh! I can never express how very sad this makes me. I am SO sorry & will keep her family & friends in my thoughts. ~Positive Energy~
  • That's horrible. I extend my condolensces.
  • Suby, I am so worried. That man worshipped that girl. She was his life. He has been so down lately. I am so sad, worried and pray to God he is okay. There are no more words.
  • I am praying. I heard the news, I am praying.
  • I extend my condolences. My heart goes out to Major Tom. I will keep her family & friends in my thoughts. I wish her the best for your days.
  • I wish I had any words that meant anything in this kind of situation, but I don,t. I'm really sorry to hear this, seriously. :(
  • This breaks my heart. My condolences go out to you Major Tom. I am very sorry for your loss and I wish you the best in getting through this horrible tragedy. Vanessa
  • Tom,I am truly sorry to hear this,I understand the depression is an issue already,,I hope you have support at home for this tragic loss. I am here for you if you ever want to chat, Ken
  • I am so sorry, Tom ♥ my condolences.
  • You have my regards, Major Tom. know that we here at Answerbag are here for you, if you need us.
  • Sorry to hear this terrible news, i sincerley wish you all the best.
  • I am so grieved for you, Major Tom. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. No words I can say at this point. Come back when you can. We can talk then if you want. Sincerely, Tom
  • i am in utter shock !! i was just chating with him last night . i cant accept this ! i just cant . i am ... just.....i dont know .. i am shattered ! .. i....
  • That is so very sad,my heartfelt condolences to you Major Tom.
  • What?!? That is so shocking! Tom, I am so very sorry for you, I've got no words to express this.. I can not imagine how you must feel right now... what a terrible tragedy! Every word you wrote about her was so filled with love.. she was one of the few very lucky people who had found someone with so much respect and love for her.. you have been such treasures to each other.. Tom I can not even begin to understand your pain! My heart goes out to you in this horrible nightmare.. what you are going through now is my biggest fear! I wish you and your/her loved ones all the strength you need!
  • I don't think any words will help you at this time, to be honest. But the best people can do is offer their sympathy and tell you that they're here for you. Whether I know you personally or not, I am still deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my mom a couple of years ago due to a brutal, intense, tragic car accident... so I can't say that I exactly know how you feel. But I do know what it feels like to lose the most important person in your life. Right now these words will not subdue the pain but they are just out of kindness. I won't say that God willed it; but to each his own for beliefs. My well wishes Major Tom. -Anmol
  • I am so very sorry to hear of Tom's loss. I could tell he and Megan were soul mates and had a lovely life together. My thoughts are with him and his family as he deals with this tragedy!!
  • Major Tom...I am just so sorry for your loss. Please know we are here for you. Please let us extend our arms and shoulders and hearts out to you. We are here for you. I am here for you. Im so so sorry......
  • Major Tom's love for his lady shone out in so many of the things he has said here. I am deeply saddened by his loss and wish him the strength to get through the trauma of her loss.
  • So sorry! that's all I can say,words fail me!! :-(
  • My sweet Major Tom, my heart weeps for you and your lost. It is so shocking to hear and sad. I wish that I could be there for you right now to help you through this. I loved Meg so much. She was such a joy and so are you! Please know that we love you and want to help you in anyway that we can. Here is a great big hug to you and much love.
  • No words anyone can say could possibly make you feel better Majot Tom but know that the AB people are here for you to talk to in your time of need...and feel peace in the fact that she has gone on to a better place and waits peacefully for you there!
  • This is tragic and so sad...they will be in my prayers.
  • There are times we all somewhat forget that sitting behind the monitor are real life folks, with real life situation. So long as you have the memories, your wife maybe departed in the physical sense but never from your heart and soul. God Bless you in your hours of need.
  • shes a angel, My condolences.
  • Major Tom...I am very sad for your loss. But please rethink this tragedy my friend. If you had been killed by a bus would you want your Meghan to give up on life or would you want her to continue on, keeping you forever alive in her heart? She is still here watching you and sees your pain and weeps for you. Doing anything to yourself would hurt her so. Please think of her and what she would want for you and carry on my friend. That would be the very best way to honor her and your life with her. As long as you live, she lives.
  • My thought's are with Major Tom. I can't imagine his pain.
  • I'm so sorry Major Tom. I know from personal experience, life can be so bloody cruel my good friend. You are a true Gentleman Major and my heart goes out to you for the loss of your Good Lady Wife Megan. I'm sure I can speak on behalf of the whole of your friends on A/B when I say if we can support you in any way - we are here. JUST FOR YOU.
  • I'm sorry for your loss Major Tom. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
  • May the Lord God help you through this time of greif. Know He loves you and will care for you. Bless you.
  • I'm lost for words, Major Tom. You have my deepest, sincerest, condolences.
  • Oh suby, it's such a tragedy. Just a few days ago we were speaking about friends or lack of them and how much Meg meant to him, so happy and complete they felt together. This news breaks my heart, wish I didn't feel so helpless. There isn't anything we can say other than we're there in spirit and heart but I know that's not enough, it's not enough. Major Tom, there are people out there that care, believe that, I'm so sorry... I don't know what to say. Don't give up, Tom, she'd want you to be strong, live for her, keep her at your side in spirit, don't let your dreams die. ((((hugs)))
  • I am very sad to hear about Megan in that way through your thread.I wish to give strength to Maj Tom and pray that he recovers soon and finds joy in her memories.God bless and take care!
  • Major Tom, I am so so sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful wife. My thoughts and prsyers go out to you and your family. May God watch you and keep over you.
  • Thank you Suby for this post. Gave Tom my condolences under a member's post. Life is so fragile. Hopefully, his family and friends will be there for him during these very difficult times.
  • Major Tom - I am truly sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you at this time.
  • Major Tom, my heart goes out to you. I have NO idea what I would do in your shoes, but I will definitely pray for you while I'm still in mine. I weep for you. : ((
  • Major Tom, there are no words to express how difficult this time must be for you and your loved ones. My heart goes out to you. Please let us know if there is anything that can be done to help you. Your local hospice can help you with making arrangements, and dealing with this tragic loss.
  • First thing that came to my mind: Oh. My. God! Major Tom, I simply cannot wrap my mind around this terrible tragedy. I've suffered terrible losses myself...lost my first wife and children when she left, lost my Mom suddenly when we were expecting Dad to die of cancer at the time, and lost my Dad later. I do not want to think about what I would go through should I lose my wife. All I can offer you is this: 1. Family and friends are where it's at...use them, because that's what they are for. 2. Keep yourself occupied...DO things! This will focus your mind, give it purpose as it figures out how to cope and adjust. 3. Give yourself time to grieve. MAKE it happen. Death, even tragic death, is part of life. It f*cking sucks. But you learn to cope eventually, because the alternative isn't pretty. And this is the part where I get blunt, Major Tom: If you consider doing the alternative (like I know you have...been there, done that), then you had better remember this, my Army pal: The Chief stands ever ready to show you just how badly this Sailor can whoop your Army *ss. I'm not about to turn my back on a fellow servicemember. The Services stick together...and I KNOW the Army has Chaplains just like the Navy does. If your brain has gone to lunch on all the other services the military has to help you, just remember the Chaplain. This is HIS job. Let him help you.
  • I know nothing I can say can ease this pain for you. If you need to talk, I'm easily tracked down. My deepest sympathy.
  • Major Tom - Please accept my deepest sympathy on your tragic loss.
  • I'm just speechless. Take care Major Tom.
  • Major, you know how I feel. I have e-mailed you. You have many other friends here who also care about you. Please take care of yourself. Words cannot express how truly sorry I am that you have to go through this pain. Life is simply not fair. My heart goes out to you now. Crying with you.
  • Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss of someone very dear to you..my heart goes out to you and all the family and friends who are close to your wife..although words never seem enough in these situations..I wish for you to have the strength and courage you need not only now but in the future..
  • I am right here, Tom. Talk to me as much as you want, but start talking. I care very much about you. Talk to me. Remember a few days ago when I gave you a hug? I remember your response, because you didn't just give me a hug back. You gave me a hug from you and Meg! It was the only hug of it's kind I have ever recieved on AB.....I've never seen anyone honor thier spouse in a hug like that before. I know the pain is blinding and runs to your core. I get that. The chaplain said that there has not been a suicide in over 100 years. Do you remember him saying that? In case you lose sight of it, I am reminding you of those words. He was telling the truth. He meant it, Tom. Hold onto your honor.
  • I'm so sorry to wake up and have this be the fourth thing I see today!!!! So early!!! My condolences and best wishes for you and your late wife Major Tom. My email is in my profile. I have never experienced anything like this but use it anyway if you need to.
  • Major please except my apologizes on the loss of your wife. My prayers are with you in your time of grief.
  • Tom, I am so very sorry about your wife. I remember just the other day you mentioning her in a comment to me. You have many people here on AB that care for you and will be here for you if you need us. My e-mail is browneyedgirl1689@yahoo.com if you ever want to talk. I really hope you have friends and family to help you too. Take care Tom. I will keep you in my prayers. Remember that you will be together again someday.
  • Very sad. He spoke of Meghan often and lovingly. My sincere sympathies.
  • Major Tom - I am very sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers go out to you.
  • Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss. There are no words on these occasions I am sure to ease your grief but I hope the thoughts of this little community give you some comfort in the days ahead. -Wyn Ann
  • My deepest sympathies. Just remember, we don't mourn the death of others, we mourn for those left behind, this is a time when we must embrace each other and support each other. Take comfort in your family and friends. Sending my love. Xo
  • I'm so sorry for your tragic loss, Major Tom. :( Do you really think that Meghan would want you to join her in oblivion?
  • I am so very sorry.
  • Tom, this is shocking news, I cant fathom how you must be feeling right now, but I do empathise with your sentiment. One day at a time my friend, thats all you can do now. Just make sure every day would make her proud until you see each other again. You're a good man!
  • Major Tom, I'm very sadden to learn of your loss. It's something that no one wants to go through. I lost my lady 9 years ago this coming Monday, and I know the pain you're feeling. Think of the good times, keep your faith and when the time comes, you'll be with her again. :-)
  • Major Tom, I am so sorry for your loss! I have been trying to write this for the last 20 min but I just don't no what to say. I am truly sorry, I don't no what it must feel like but I no you are a strong solder and you well fight this pain inside you. I wish I could be their for you and not just typing on this damn computer.
  • Wow! Suddenly all my problems seems so trivial. My condolences to the Major.
  • You have my sincerest condolences Major Tom, I'm so sorry for your loss.
  • I'm very saddened to hear of his loss. I can't even imagine the sorrow he must be feeling. I offer my heartfelt condolences to Major Tom and his family. =(
  • My sincerest condolences Major Tom
  • Major Tom I am so sorry. I awoke early this morning thinking of you and crying on the inside for you. I should know what to say to you since I am a therapist but I don't. I know you loved her very much and I know she was your life and the reason you existed but I also know that she loved you very much and would not want you to suffer like you are. I do believe you will see her again. Please know that I care about you as well as many ABers do. We are here for you and you can reach out to me or any other ABer at any time. I know you can't see it but so many ABers are crying for you right now. You have a lot of friends. Please don't forget that. I am here and you know how to reach me.
  • Major Tom, today I came to know you by our mutual friend Suby. He gave me several links, I just have perused the threads in between you both. Besides having learned more about the private life of Suby I was introduced to you. I only wish it would have been under different circumstances. My sincere and heartfelt condolences! Agewise I could be your mother - please accept a big hug from me, and Yes, you can cry on my shoulder! Please, don't bottle up your emotions about your loss, crying is helpful when grieving.... You have the right attitude about suicide and made the decision not to do it. You both will be reunited anyway when the right time comes. Working and going on with life is a very good remedy in this case. Make your wife proud! The saying in German goes like this: Der Mensch denkt und Gott lenkt. It means we can make plans but God is the one to allow it to happen. We never now what the meaning of our life course might be, but one thing is sure, we all have to endure losses of loved ones and have to go through cycles which seem to hard to bear. That is human life! Laughing and crying goes hand in hand or follows closely. It seems that the more one endures the stronger his/her soul emerges. I send you all my positive thoughts and think of you so intensely you must almost feel it.....Love - Karin.
  • I am deeply sorry to hear that my friend, Major Tom, has lost the love of his life. Seems that every answer he ever gave me expressed his deep love for her. They had so many future plans. She was a wonderful and loving partner. I will put him and his family in my prayer list of friends on AB that certainly deserve much of our support. Love you, Major, with sincere sympathy, Marguerite. ((((((HUGS))))))
  • Oh, fuck, honey... *hug* ... ...I don't even really know what to say. Jeezuz. ...I'm sorry.
  • Condolences to you and your family. May your wife rest in peace. Rip Washington (SABOTEUR)
  • Major Tom, I do not know you but wish to express my sincere sadness for your loss. My friend was sent the following quote when her husband tragically died. I hope it helps (I have change 'he' to 'she' to fit your circumstances') 'Rest assured that in her dying, in her flight through darkness toward a new light, she held you in her arms and carried your closeness with her. And when she arrived at heaven, your image was imprinted on her joy-filled soul. -- Molly Fumia Take care, K
  • ...and so she came like a fire in the cold, warming his soul and spreading her flame threw all his being. Nothing reflected more in his words then the passion he felt for this Phoenix of love.She was a pillar of fire in his world and now his life is dark and cold. . Tom...I can't say sorry for your pain as I have no comprehension of what your going threw. Your love was spoken to strongly for idle words to be a comfort to you. No words I can say will help you,I can only hope you come out of this intact. . My thoughts are with you . Ian (Reptar)
  • My sincere condolences on your loss.
  • I am so Sorry Major Tom. It must be awful but I am reminded of my Favorite quote; "Don't give up, don't ever give up" that was from Tom Valvano in a speech only a few weeks before he passed away from cancer. You have to be strong and I know you will...
  • I am so very sorry for the tragic loss of your wife. My condolences to you and your family, as well as thoughts and prayers go out to you during this terrible time.
  • My heart goes out to Major Tom during this time of so much sorrow. I can certainly empathize with anyone who has lost a spouse. I recently became a widower this past July when my wife left me after 18 years of marriage. I offer Major Tom most sincerest condolences and I hope that my words of comfort will somehow help him through these dark hours of mourning. I will be here for him and help him as much as I can--just as so many of the people here have helped me over the past several months.
  • This is my 3rd post on this thread. Your beloved Meghan would really want you to continue whatever plans you had together. I don't know her but from what I gather she is a good lady. She would want that farm for you and help a lot of hungry people in this world. The last thing she wants will be for you to give up.
  • My most sincere condolences, Major Tom. Debate and opinion aside, this is a community of good people who care about each other. No words can come close to touching this loss. Just know that each and ever one of us feels your loss and has the greatest hope that you will emerge from it healthy and ready to go on. May God or whatever power you believe in hold you tightly in his arms while you work through your grief.
  • Oh I am so very sorry..hold her close in your heart, she will always be there for you. Peace to you my friend
  • deepest appologies tom, may she rest in peace
  • Tom you have much left to do on earth. Your children require the same dutiful service as your country...and more. God bless Tom, I am here for you as are so many others
  • My thoughts are with you Major Tom at this very sad time & your AB family are here to be there for you.
  • Im so sorry Tom, if you need anything let myself or BB know. take care friend..
  • I am very sorry for your loss, but nothing anyone can type in here will take away the pain your feeling, all i can say is i am deeply sad for you, i cannot ever imagine how much this must hurt.
  • oh that really sucks.. im sorry i hear that..
  • My thoughts and prayers are sent your way Major Tom, with lots of positive energy your way, too ~ I know nothing I can say can help
  • My condolenses to you and your family. I really cannot express in words how I feel for you right now. Only know that as a wife of a retiree I have seen it go the other way many times. More than I care too. I'm sure Megan felt for you the way I feel for my Husband and she would want you to carry on and keep near the good memories you shared. You carry certain memories of her that she shared with no one other than you. I know I would want my husband (when hes ready) to share with others the happy times. To do that would be to do my memory honor. This way I would be remembered as the person who bought light,life and joy into his life. And not be defined in the end by just my death. Live on and do her love honor by sharing it with the people you love and who love you. When my father was dieing he got angry at us for crying. He asked that we not disgrace his memory with tears but remember him through laughter. He said he loved living and had a great life and he didn't want to be the person responsible for taking joy and laughter out of ours. He did not want this to be his legacy. I hope this helps. Morn and then when you are ready, carry on the joy you felt because she shared a lifetime of memories with you. I'm sure there are family members who don't know a lot of what you know and vice versa and who will be comforted by the knowledge of all her memories in time.
  • I am genuinely sorry for your loss, Tom. You have my condolences. ((((BIG hugs)))). We are here if you need us.
  • Yes. My condolences, my prayers, anything I can offer. Oh, my God.
  • Major Tom, I am SO sorry! sending you the biggest Army Mom ((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))) I could muster up right now. Take a minute at a time right now; things will be better. And know that you lovely Meghan is watching over you; God needed another angel right now.
  • Tom, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I know, right now, things look bleak, and they will for some time, but please remember that you are now the one to tell the world how wonderful your life with her was. I know you don't want to do anything now but numb or get rid of the pain. Don't give in to that. Use every aide you have at your disposal to get yourself through this. What would you tell a subordinate? ... a friend? These are things you should be telling yourself right now. I also know that they may seem unsatisfying right now, and you may now have an idea of why people may have not listened too well. But you also know that what you told them is good information. Follow that advice yourself. And, Tom, write. You know I am a complete advocate of writing out your feelings, your thoughts, your memories. Write about your life before Meg. Write about your life together. Write about what you are feeling now. Write essays, stories, poems, songs, etc. If it's too painful to write using real names, don't use them... Use other names. But write. When you are done with something, put it in a file, and don't reread it until you wish to feel the emotions in it again... Until you are strong enough to do so. Tom, you have a lot of friends here, and I'm sure, in real life. I'm sure that all those people are devastated by the news. Please "use" us as sounding boards, as shoulders when you need. Mine, and many others' emails are in their profiles. Don't be afraid to use them, if you feel the need. Talk to your real-life friends, your superiors and subordinates alike. Some may not wish to hear it for long, but others, your REAL friends will accept everything you say, and will do all they can to help. Again, Tom, I'm sorry. You have my deepest sympathies.
  • My sincerest condolences Major Tom.
  • Thank you Suby!!! Major Tom, my heart hurts for you! Just know that many many many of your AB friends are with you in spirit!! SO VERY SORRY for your loss!!! +5
  • My condolences Major Tom, Rest in peace Megan xxx
  • I've already given Major Tom my condolances in a very extensive comment. Unfortunately he hasn't read it or acknowledged me. I do feel bad for him; I hope he doesn't kill himself. I feel very bad for him; however; death is NOT the worst thing that can happen to someone. The worst thing that can happen to someone is ending up braindead for the rest of their lives. I know it would have been better if Meg had lived and been healthy; but you can't always have what's best in life. I am very saddened by her death. I hope the bastard that killed her gets the death penalty. MAY MEGHAN WHEELER REST IN PEACE WITH GOD FOR ALL ETERNITY!!!
  • So sorry to hear this awful news Major Tom, sleep well Megan x x
  • Tom, I do not know what to say! It is a shock! I recognize the blank empty stare, your world has been changed and nothing you do can bring it back. I feel for you and this tremendous loss. Anytime, Anywhere, Anything! <Trident>
  • Well, of course. Major Tom, I know there probably isn't anything, but if there is and I can do it, I will to help you.
  • I am so sorry, Major Tom, I cannot imagine the grief you must be going through. My sympathies to you and your family. I am pretty much speechless. I know you are a strong person but please talk to a professional if you need help working through this. Different people handle the grieving process differently. It sounds like you have a lot of support and that your friends on AB are grief stricken and would do anything to help you through this tragedy. My most heartfelt condolences and if there is anything I can do personally, just ask. I am so, so sorry. I am here for you, and you will be in my thoughts. "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, but love leaves a memory no one can steal."
  • I don't really know Major Tom, but my heart goes out to him. There is nothing I can say except that he will need to call upon his strength and friends now. My deepest condolences to you Major Tom. Meghan would not want you to go out that way, Stay strong. +4
  • my heart goes to out to you Major Tom.

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