Why do many couples sleep in separate beds?
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keithold thanks all baggers
ANSWERS: 57
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Good question, the couple I know that do that is because one of them snores.
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Many reasons to answer your questions. Could be from snoring, to stealing the covers, to hogging the bed, to different sleeping schedules, or from being mad at one another. Its known that people toss and turn a couple times a night, and if the other person is a "Light Sleeper, might awake them. To other person having insomnia.
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Snoring is a pretty good reason. Illness sometimes separates couples.
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Snoring. Sounds like he's trying to suck the damn ceiling down. Plus, he can't sleep with a fan on and I have to have one. Hmmm, the fan keeps him awake, but he can sleep through his own snoring--too funny.
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We usually do because I snore.
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I haven't heard of any since the golden age of television. Of course, I'm sure some stil do, especially if they're having a married couple spat.
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Well, for a time, my husband worked graveyard and would come home and sleep on the couch so as not to disturb the baby when he crawled into bed. Then, his snoring would drive me crazy and wake her up when he moved to dayshift. I finally put an end to it when I said, "Let's not be one of those couples that sleep in separate beds".
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Snoring, elbowing, cover-stealer, legs kicking everywhere....geeze no wonder I've been divorced so many times!..lol
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Because at times I get restless leg syndrome and her snoring gets so loud that the neighborhood dogs start barking.
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I read in an article a sex therapist recommending separate beds in order to increase and improve the sexual atmosphere. The idea is that once separated the couple will gradually start feeling the need for his "best half", and will boost the libido. Then one of them will get up and walk to the other bed and....you know...
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Hello Keithold: Thanks for the excellent question. I would think if there was some recent infidelity, there may be some hands-off policies that would have the spouses in different beds. I am a stealer of the down comforter and also enjoy having felines in the bed with me. If there was another bed with a memory foam mattress, I am sure I would be left at night. One guy I know who is living with a married woman has separate bedrooms to give the appearance of "room-mates" to friends and family.
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I snore, louder than she does.
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For the first 16 years of your life (at LEAST tut tut to anyone this does not apply to)you have your own bed - then you get in a relationship and have to share it!!! if only you could have your nookie and then roll the other person off the bed when your done and lock them in the cupboard.
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My husband chose to sleep in the spare room because he snores, LOUDLY. On occassion, he still wakes me up from the other room.
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We have separate rooms. We both snore and keep each other awake. I get hot and need the fan on all the time - he hates it. He insists on letting the cats sleep on the bed - I hate it. I am often up during the night because I can't sleep and it disturbs him. He coughs. It works for us.
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My grandparents have always slept in seperate beds ever since I can remember, on set slept in seperate rooms (they both snored very, very loud). My parents sometimes sleep in seperate beds when one goes to bed first and ends up in the middle of the bed, or the snoring gets bad. The only time I don't sleep with my husband is if one of us is very sick.
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personaly its hard for me to sleep next to my bf. he goes to sleep before me and once he is asleep its hard to get comfy its hard to explain and maybe i have other reasons i dont even know about but im like that with a lot of people i need my space
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Someone snores and the other one is a light sleeper.
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Snoring,body heat,Cover tuggers,kicking,rolling,farting,bad mood,pms,different taste in mattress texture.
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Its much more confortable to be able to sleep in a bed all to yourself. You can move around and not awaken the other person and in the summer, no hot, sweaty body on you. Of course, in the winter, you have a smaller bed for 2 to crawl into and keep each other warm... ;)
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two reasons. i cannot sleep without listening to music very low (this drives her mad) i also snore like a pneumatic drill. it drives us mad that we cant sleeop together but we do spent a lot of 'waking' time in bed to compensate for lack of closeness.
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My mother has been married to her husband for about 20 years now and the reason why she has a separate room is that she can't stand his snoring & that he stays on the internet till about 4 in the morning many a night.
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If its not snoring, it could be that the relationship has problems, or simply that the couple needs some degree of psychological space to be them selves and think / reflect / meditate etc.
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For me its that I feel claustrophobic sleeping in bed with him. Like he's too close or something. To add to that, there's the snoring, and marriage issues. We just started sleeping in the same room as of Monday. So far its going well but I still have the claustrophobic issues so to combat that I go to bed first, then when I'm already asleep, he goes to bed. WHich is how it'd be anyway since he doesn't go to bed until very late.
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Because that's how they did it in the 1950's...but if you're talking about seperate beds in seperate rooms then I don't know.
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My grandmother and grandfather not only slept in seperate beds but had their own bedrooms, fully furnished. I was a teen before i asked why and was told that sex for purposes other then procreation was against Gods will, so they had seperate rooms to avoid temptation. Sadly, this explanation made me happy i was the rebel of the family that went with a different religion "blush"
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Body odor and bad breath
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The most common reason is that one of them snores so loudly that it disturbs the other's sleep.
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many reasons but one that comes to my mind is there are some christian faiths that believe sexual intercourse is evil and dirty and should not be done except for the purpose of creating new life. Many of those couples who follow that sort of religion would sleep in seperate beds to avoid the temptation of having sex just for the saheer pleasure of it.
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many reasons but one that comes to my mind is there are some christian faiths that believe sexual intercourse is evil and dirty and should not be done except for the purpose of creating new life. Many of those couples who follow that sort of religion would sleep in seperate beds to avoid the temptation of having sex just for the sheer pleasure of it.
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Snoring. Having someone snore in your ear all night long eliminates the possibility of sleep for the non-snoring partner. :(
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Maybe one person snores or kicks and keeps the other up. Or the style of mattress is uncomfortable to share. Maybe they really don't like each other. Etc...
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it could be a sign of trouble in the marriage. i have a guy friend who is married and they sleep in separate bedrooms because they no longer have sex or are really 'in love' they just both live there due to financial reasons and their child.
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Maybe they have been together so long they want space at night.=)
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Chay sometimes sleeps on the floor when he can't sleep and is uncomfy in the bed...usually he's on the floor when I wake up! But he'll lay there until I fall asleep!
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He snores loudly, I thrash and kick in my sleep. He likes to sleep where it's warmer and I prefer it cooler. I honestly believe for the first seven or eight years we were married, neither of us had a decent night's sleep. We are much nicer to each other when well rested!
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My husband's brother & his wife sleep in separate beds because he weighs about 450 lbs (no joke) & she is a little Filipino woman who is about 4'10" & 85 lbs. Would you want him to roll over on you??!!
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I thought of I Love Lucy when I read this question...
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A lot of responses are because of snoring. The person that snores should go for a sleep study. A bipap machine may not look sexy, but it sure does make for a good night sleep!!!! :)
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Loud snoring of the other partner
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Snoring from one - Hotflashes from the other.
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my wife and i sleep in seperate rooms because she snores
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I would if I could-,arried 22 years. Hubby snores and smells of cigarettes-YUK!
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I've only known 2 couples like that and both did it for snoring.
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Because the Petries did yo...
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My boss bought a home with her S/O and they have separate rooms. They say they need their own personal space...and it works out for'em :)
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Uh maybe if they have like a nose problem or something. Most likely it would be snoring.
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Don't forget "sleep-kicking". Can be painful.
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My hsb has a sleep disorder, sleep apnea. He's had surgery & it helped, but he still snores a little. Not only that but he still kicks, out of habit. When he had the apnea his legs would jerk, to semi-wake himself enough to BREATHE! So that's one reason.
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I get kicked out when I snore.
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not a couple if they do
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Snoring. My husband had to go to a sleep clinic. He was diagnosed as one of the worst cases they had seen. It is unbearable. At one point I was walking around day to day on 3 hours of sleep or less for days on end. When I finally realized I could die from that I moved him out of the bedroom. I miss him though.
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Yes! In some cases one person may draw from another. Sleeping together takes a lot of practise. Heat. a person can be uncomfortable with the heat the partner throws off. Cold, a partner may find a chilling effect when touching the person alongside them in bed, from feet, to bottoms, to shoulders, these people are just cold cold. In some cases people find more rest, a better sleep when having their own bed. Single beds seem to be the answer instead of single rooms. I have heard of bad carpet wear between single beds. Who knows.
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He came back to bed with us when he switched to dayshift. His snoring kept me up most of the night, so I asked him to go back to sleeping on the couch. Then, after a few months, I just wanted my husband back in bed with me, so I found ways to deal with the snoring.
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Why not?
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Crazychick What's the point in being married, or even being a couple if they are not gonna have any physical closeness in bed?
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I couldn't be doing with that.
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Because they argued and are still not speaking to each other.
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