ANSWERS: 38
  • To me, that is what they imply, which is why we never used them in our wedding vows.
  • yes it does.
  • Well I dont see why you would ever havta be in a miserable relationship, and die in one. IF YOU DONT LIKE WHERE ITS GOING, CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE. Alot of time the person who is making the relationship miserable, is the MISERABLE ONE. There is a solution to every problem......find out what it is, and make the sh*t work.
  • It means that both of you try to work it out during good times and bad times. At least give it a shot before separating for the good of the children. Even the Catholics Church allows separation at some point of the marriage.
  • It doesn't sound as good when you say it like that. I think it's being there for each other through the good times and the bad.
  • No it doesnt it means putting up with each other thru the hard times and the good times.If you are constantly miserable in a relationship then maybe it's time to cut out.
  • What!?!? Now you tell me. . .
  • Yup. You didn't think all those wedding gifts were for free did you?
  • Inconceivable!
  • Yes .I think it does.I think it is a contract of life.whatever the outcome you have agreed to stay put.as sad as it sounds some people do think that when they mutter these words, thats it.For life.I did.
  • Yep. It's a life sentence, without the possibility of parole. The only way out is in a pine box.
  • Yes it does.
  • Pretty much yo...
  • For me it means that. My ex didn't feel the same way.
  • I just cannot believe some of these answers. To me, its not a yes/no answer. My goodness gracious, where has common sense gone to? I believe in the "for better or worse", I really do. However,if I found out later that I was married to an abuser, wifebeater, sexual molester, murderer...(need I include more?), then I would think it was definately time to get myself out of the situation!!!
  • No. It simply means that you love your spouse so much that you're willing to be with him/her forever. If you don't, then don't get married.
  • Yup! You want love, you're gonna pay the price! =P But seriously, you need to make sure you both have open, working, successful communication before marriage, and taking pre-marital counseling is a great way to find out NOW what problems you might run into with each other and gauge if you're as compatible as you really think you are. But once you take that oath, you're in for life! =D
  • Don't be so dramatic. You are 50% of your marriage. You want a good one? Do your part. I'm sorry that you are unhappy but I am betting that you're not the only unhappy one in your house.
  • Basically. Dying a miserable death is not so bad. It's all those miserable years leading up to dying the miserable death that's the rough part.
  • That's not how I would interpret it for myself. It means until I have made my best effort.
  • pretty much
  • There are certainly people who have interpreted it this way, resulting in a lot of abusive relationships. My own interpretation is that you don't desert someone you love when times are bad. That's when TIMES are bad. When PEOPLE are doing bad things and refuse to stop, that's different, and you shouldn't and don't have to live with it. I find myself questioning the wisdom of "to death do us part". People can change considerably over time, and sometimes those changes are unacceptable. If I ever marry again (highly doubtful) those standard phrases will not be avowed.
  • If you are being abused, get out. Otherwise, work on making the relationship better and making it a happy place for both of you. There is no reason to live in misery and every reason to improve the marriage.
  • Yes, it does, but remember that those vows are accompanied by other vows too, like love, honor and respect. If you or your partner don't stick to those, why should you stick to the other?
  • NO! You don't know what cards life will deal you when you are young and making that vow. People get terminal illnesses, have bad accidents that leave them crippled for life, have children that test their patience to the breaking point. These "worse" situations are not under your control. If your situation is worse and it is something that you CAN control, then it means you two will stick it out and fix it. It NEVER means that you will stay with a person who is abusive physically, mentally, or emotionally. You can't fix that, and you cannot stay. All you can do is go.
  • You break it, you bought it, no refunds.
  • well here's the dilemma. If you look at this in a non-religious way..two people went and got a marriage license and find themselves miserable..well vows don't mean anything..they were ceremonial words spoken and by law nothing binds anyone to stay in a relationship if they do not want to except fo rthe marriag elicense which can be undone with a divorce and both are fee of the contract.. But if one looks at marriage in a religious sense, they are exchanging their ceremonial vows in front of god, and as the bible says, let no man put asunder what god has put together or some junk like that. Now here's the kicker, christians make these vows in the presence of their god, for better or worse, through sickness and health blah blah blah..it's supposed to be forever with god as their witness...yet the divorce rate for christians is the same as for non-christians. So in my opinion, there are two people in a relationship...if it ain't working out, don't waste your time trying to make it work out, because it won't, especially if the one of you is not into it..not even with god's blessing can one person love enough for two in a relationship and be truly happy.....and staying in a relationship/marriage just because of scriptural law seems like unecessary punishment and a ruination of one's life.
  • wow, thats depressing. with those kind of rules and that kind of attitude, one might for hope an early death, huh? the marriage vows are intended to be construed as staying with your partner through thick and thin ~ through the good times and bad times ~ and not bailing at the first sign of trouble. its important for everyone who is serious about making a marriage work to remember that it ultimately up to you, not anybody else, whether you are miserable or not.
  • well, that is what I married for... I carried her in sickness but as soon as she got healthy she left... so much for her marriage commitment. if you are not ready to commit to marriage come hell or high water, don't get married.
  • Yes it does because so many throw in the towel just because things go sour and dont wait to see if situations improve .However if it's a abusive relationship then your partner isint sticking by the vows anyways to love and honor and so on . But marrages are gonna have problem and slow points the for better or worse vow is so you stay thru the slow points till it picks up again marrage is work and both of you have to work at it .However if it just wont work Divorce isin't a sin .Even though you took vows sometimes we do make mistakes just don't cheat on your spouse but be open and truthful.
  • I hate when people use that argument. Being miserable is a CHOICE that you make. You don't have to be miserable. Besides, a lot of people I know that are miserable are miserable because of their own choices that they made themselves. If you are stuck in a situation where you have no way out and you are trapped, that's understandable if you are miserable. However, a lot of people who claim to be miserable just are miserable people to begin with, whether they are married or not. I feel more for the person he or she is married to. It must suck living with a miserable person.
  • For better or worse only covers becoming unhappy or dissatisfied it doesn't cover physical, mental or emotional abuse or continued infidelity. If your spouse is abusing you or is a compulsive cheater then file for a divorce and be on with your life. If however you are just bored with your partner and they aren't exciting to you anymore remember this. The grass always looks greener on the other side til you get to the other side and realize it's the same old grass just in a different backyard.
  • u dont have to put it like this. it simply means that there are going to be some bad times interspersed with good times. so dont freak out when they roll by +2
  • At least you won't die lonely.
  • that was a vow you made. you can divorce of course but you are not honoring a vow you took.
  • apparently, for many, a god who loves you indeed wants you to be stuck with someone you hate and you will die a miserable death with...thankfully we options.
  • "Until death do you part"....Aparantly, that's one of the main idea's in the "marrage vows"....yes.

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