Is it your place to tell a mother to discipline her child when the child is doing something wrong and she never does anyting about it or just let it go
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if the child is in public and disturbing people, I think it is your right to say something, or call it to the attention of security staff, even better.
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I will probably talk to the kid in order to call the mother's attention. I will not talk directly to the mother,it will probably create more trouble.
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I would actually say out loud to the kids, "DO YOU HAVE PARENTS!!!"
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Yes. It may not be appreciated, but there is never anything wrong with constructive criticism. Besides, how can a bad parent know how bad they are if nobody tells them?
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I gave everyone here points. It absolutely is NOT my place, but who can resist? I will tell her that when my boys were small, I did this or that, and if she becomes defensive, I try to explain that we want people to LIKE our children, that they will not be treated well by teachers and others if they continue to act up... I could give a sh*t what she thinks- if the kid is Interfereing with my rights, then the kid needs to be controlled. They WANT training and disipline, it shows we care and love them. 5 boys, and all I ever got was compliments on their behavior. Animals at home, behave in public. That's all I ask.
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If what the child is doing is directly affecting me then yes I absolutely would tell the mother and I'd also tell the child.
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You see this so often, kids running riot while the mother sits blithely by, seemingly unaware of their little monsters antics. It drives me crazy and I have commented in the past. they usually say "oh leave em alone they're only little" to my mind the best time in their life to start teaching them right from wrong, and proper behaviour. Once they get older it is often too late and the said parent then is stuck with an out of control kid and will bleat where did I go wrong?You went wrong by not setting boundaries from the very early formative years love!
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I always hate confrontation.. as much as I love to say something I hate to cause bad feelings, and it depends on how well you know the mother too. I always have to look at how bad the situation is, and how I think the mother would react, if it will even make a difference or not. That's a really tough call for me too.
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Well, I must disagree with most of you. If I do not know the parent and they did not solicit my advice, then it is not my place to tell them how to parent. If the child is putting themselves or others in danger then it is okay to say something, but not in the manner of mocking their parental skills. I learned this after working first hand with Autistic children. You never know what their situation is. More than likely, there is no behavioral disorder and they just have no clue how to discipline children. But youre not going to change them with an unwelcomed comment, either.
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If they are in my home and the child is doing something I don't allow my children to do and the mom doesn't say anything..I wouldn't hesitate to reprimand them so the child and mother understand I have rules.
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I would say very loudly so the parent(s) can overhear me "My some children are so rude and disruptive. Too bad their parents don't see fit to discipline such behavior".
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It depends- a relative, i will take aside and make a remark to - if they don't know better. I won't tell a stranger...
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If you know the mother VERY well and you are comfortable saying so. If it involves something of yours, always. If it's just something that happens in public, risking! If you don't have children yourself you better watch out for possible retaliation. Most moms think they are doing okay and that it's their right to do it their way. You can tell them something but it won't change a thing as far as the kids behavior goes, 98% of the time.
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I would tell them in a minute.
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Yes. The mother is probably very inexperienced in parenting and if she can't be the mother, you have to act. The child NEEDS to learn. Selfishness and rudeness are not things she should encourage her child to learn.
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No it is not. BUT...you can drop very subtle hints and hope for the best.
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IF THERE IN YOUR HOUSE OR IN PUBLIC ID SAY YES OR CAUSING HARM TO YOUR PERSON OR OTHERS I SAY YES. YOU NED TO INSTILTHAT FEAR WHEN THERE YOUNG SO THEY DONT MIS BEHAVE WHENTHERE OLDER. I HAVE A LOOKTO I GIVE TO KIDS I WORKS WHEN THERE LITTLE ALL YOU SHOUD HAVE TO DO IS SAY NO IN A FIRM MANNER AND MAYBE A LITTLE PAT ONTHE HAND WHEN THEY KEEP GETTING NEGATIVE REACTIONTHEY'LL STOP BUT YOU HAVE TI GIVE THEM POSITIVE REACTIONS AS WELL TO KEEP THINGS BALANCED
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Our children are all of our responsibilities.
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I stopped telling children in public to stop misbehaving when parents started yelling at my like I was some sort of perv for talking to their child. However, if you just watch the child, they know they are being watched and often they will straighten up. In my own home, children who had no discipline at their home, understood the rules of my home. And rarely did i have to make a statement twice about unacceptable behavior. If a mother asks for advice regarding discipline, then I give it. Otherwise, they are not ready to listen.
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If it is in my home YES - If I can walk away and not have to "witness" the outcome of their parenting skills (or lack there of)I don't say anything to them. I just keep it as an inside joke and go along with my daily routine.
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if the child is in your home, yes. If the child is doing something dangerous anywhere, yes. If the child is misbehaving in public, then it is the mother's responsibility or the store's to bring it to her notice.
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I have strong issues w/ this because I see so many children w/o boundaries. The parent who loves their child thinks it's a phase or is so passive w/ their discipline. They want to be their friend. Good for when they are 2 and later on in life but not in the developemental years. If it could hurt the child I feel I have to say it for me AND the child.
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It depends on the circumstance/situation.
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I think it depends on the situation. If the child is in your house, or touching your things, or affecting your child in some way then I see nothing wrong with asking the parent to stop the child from doing whatever it is that you don't want them to do. However, under any other circumstances, discipline is up to the parent.
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If the child is misbehaving in my home, I TELL the mother to discipline her kid or I WILL. I don't have to put up with anyone destroying my house or generally making a nuisance of themselves while I am entertaining them. If it's in a public place, then I let it go since they are not my children and if the mother is oblivious to what good behavior is, it's not my problem.
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I don't know. That is kind of tough. Most parents get mad when someone tells them how to punish their children. I would. Just put it the right way.
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If the child is destructive (through noise, touching, eavesdropping, etc.) or it is somehow negatively affecting you then it is okay to ask the parents to control the child. That is Not the same as telling someone HOW to discipline, but the result is the same.
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