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  • Exactly
  • Might also mean you misrepresented yourself.
  • You got it.
  • if they reject you based solely on your choice of who you chose to be with, then I would say those arent friends, at least, not good friends.
  • It means their prejudice and pride means more than your friendship. They may need time to adjust and will realise in time, but who needs fair weather friends.
  • They may have been real friends during the time they still didn't know you were a bisexual, since they had a different idea of who you are. They had accepted and loved you for who they thought you are. Now when you come out as a bisexual and they refuse to accept you, then they are no longer real friends. You would be better off without them.
  • That's Exactly what it means. There is some terrible 8Ds song like that - ya don't lose when you lose fake friends.
  • They could be shocked and not sure how to react and unfortunately reacted the wrong way. They should come around soon, but if they don't then yes you are right, they weren't your friends to begin with.
  • Bare in mind that they thought they were friends with someone you are not. I don't see any reason to stress over it, if they don't accept this part of you then screw 'em anyway.
  • If your friends can't accept you for who you are, then there's no point in trying to have a friendship with them. If they don't accept this then who knows what else they're going to judge you for.
  • IF you decide to come out as "Bi-Sexual" ; and your "Friends" do not accept that or you, anymore ... Then; I would have to say that they were not really your FRIEND(s) to begin with and that you are better Off without them .....
  • yep, it means they aren't really your friends. I'm guessing your a dude? cause girls, well they don't care. They come out "i'm bi" some even lie about it just to get attention.
  • They would be friends, but not unconditional ones. Friendship comes in different levels. A true friend would not let something like this influence their friendship.
  • It would mean they WERE your friends... and now that it turns out they are narrow minded bigots, they no longer are, or should be.
  • Maybe or maybe not...why are you "coming out"? Here's the thing....I feel like I should preface my answer with some honesty about me so that you understand why I am saying what I am saying. I am a nearly fifty year old woman. When I was a girl not many gay or lesbian people admitted it publicly. There weren't many people living openly gay or lesbian lives to look to for examples. Me? I was equally attracted to both boys and girls. For me attraction was between the ears and had nothing to do with the package it was delivered in. Those weren't real open times and while things weren't always easy I have to say I never felt either the inclination to change or to hide my feelings. I went forward and interacted with those around me in an honest manner. I think it has been easy for those around me and to those I show affection to to realize that it is the person and the mind of that person that attracts me regardless of their gender. So, is it necessary for your straight friends to say, "Hey everyone I am straight! Do you still like me?" Maybe not... Are you "coming out" to garner attention? Have you considered just being true to yourself and your feelings and building respectful well explored relationships with the people around you? Or are you looking for reaction and controversy? At nearly fifty I joke and tell others I am an equal opportunity luster if they press me for an answer...I like men and women and dislike ignorance, hatred and meanness. My heartfelt advice...forget the declarations and live a free, open, respectful and proud life...the rest...friends and all will fall into place.
  • If I was you that's exactly what I would think. Real friends stick with you through all sorts of changes and confessions.
  • It's not black and white. I would say that they were more strongly attached to their bigotry than they were to your friendship.
  • No, there were still your friends then, they just aren't your friends now. Some people have problems with bisexuality, sometimes even more than homosexuality. Plus same gendered friends may feel uncomfortable, thinking that your normal friend actions could be flirting or something stupid like that.
  • This is a hard question to answer, I recently came out to my friends and some of them never talked to me again. It's really nothing against you, just some people can not stand bi or gay people. And before you come out, I'm just letting you know you are going to get a lot of SHIT for it. The world is a very messed up place, and most people don't understand gay/bi people. So, just be ready for the criticism.
  • no, it means their disgust with what you have revealed is greater than their friendship. they were friends with you as they knew you to be... you are currently know to not be what they knew you to be. because they do not like the change you want to insult them. guess what, they weren't required to like you before they are not required to now. guess what, friends come and friends go. you can not let them be your world and you can not let them impede your happiness. follow what you believe and let them do the same other wise you were never their friend either. just as you are entitled to be bi they are entitled to not want a bi in their life.
  • Unfortunately, yes. if a friend can't take you the way you are, head to toe, they were never really your true friends. they cared about you when you were "straight", so if they just change their mind about everything you've gone through together just because your bisexual means either 1, they need some tolerance training and need to learn to really respect their friends, or 2, they just found it shocking and need a little time to get used to you liking both sexes. Either way, if they don't take you the way you are, all or nothing, they aren't worth chasing after.
  • Unfortunately, yes. if a friend can't take you the way you are, head to toe, they were never really your true friends. they cared about you when you were "straight", so if they just change their mind about everything you've gone through together just because your bisexual means either 1, they need some tolerance training and need to learn to really respect their friends, or 2, they just found it shocking and need a little time to get used to you liking both sexes. Either way, if they don't take you the way you are, all or nothing, they aren't worth chasing after.
  • no i believe they were they were the people you found comfort in and they were your friends but sadly not anymore b/c they were blind to see that you are the same person you have always been

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