ANSWERS: 14
  • Doesn't matter to me. The thing is that I don't want the woman to think I can't make a decision on my own.
  • It is ok if they are having the same thing.
  • sure as long as it doesn't become a habit showing the other person that their s/o is a control freak
  • Good question! I suppose Miss Manners would say it's the proper way for the MAN to order for the WOMAN. But I really don't care one way or the other. I prefer we each order for ourselves. I remember taking my wife to a reeeeeal nice restaurant (Roberts, downtown Charleston, SC) for Valentines Day while we were dating. It was one of those restaurants where you have a BUNCH of silverware laid out, candles, cloth napkins, who-knows-how-many-glasses, and a guy walking table to table playing a violin. I had NO clue what the proper ettiquette was for dining with so much silverware, much less what to order for her. So we each ordered our own meals. And I copied what she did with the silverware out of the corner of my eyes so she wouldn't know I was totally clueless! That's how I also discovered how you're SUPPOSED to eat the bread they bring out, too. You take a piece, put it on your little plate, tear a small bite off, butter it with a dab of butter, and then eat the bite. I missed pulling a classic Hoosier-style bread-eating faux pas right there by waiting to see what SHE did first...and thus avoided an embarrassing scene where I would have otherwise slathered butter over an entire slice and munched away in blissful ignorance!
  • It doesn't actually matter, but if you're a woman and you want to order for the man, speak up. The waiter or waitress usually looks to the man to order because it's customary, so they'll probably give you an odd look. But that doesn't matter if you're comfortable with it.
  • I would assume order for myself and let him order for himself.
  • In this day and age I don't think it matters who does the ordering, just so long as the person doing the ordering is clear about what the other one wants and how they like it cooked.
  • I order for myself always, but this is the US so I don't know how traditions go in other countries.
  • I think a man is a wimp if he lets his wife order for him. I think its fine if they both order or if he orders for her, but I personally don't have too much for a man who can't even place his own order.
  • That would annoy me. I don't even know what I want so how is he going to know. Plus I'm not a kid. I'm perfectly capable of ordering for myself. Everything else that would be considered sexy and chivalrous I'm down with (opening doors, pulling out chairs etc), its just that one thing.
  • when we go out for sushi (blah), i let him order for me. I trust him to pick the least disgusting thing they have. I dont feel at all inferier about it; he, on the other hand, wouldnt allow that for a second.
  • Boy!!! I must be a oldtimer. Because I've always ordered for myself, & let the lady do likewise......I guess I am a pure old redneck......LOL
  • My understanding is that the man would relay the ladies (pre-discussed)preference to the wait-droid. [polite] My further understanding is that, in this way, the man displays his interest in the ladies decisions, and interests/desires. [romance] As to "does it matter", I'm sure the wait-droid would just as soon that you tip him/her, and GTFO. [finance]
  • I don't suppose it particularly matters, but I really like it when he orders for me. For some reason, ordering always makes me feel a little nervous, so I feel very cared for when he does it. Although, I'm just referring to communicating with the wait staff; I wouldn't want him to choose my food for me all the time.

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