ANSWERS: 34
  • I think it's extremly disrepectful. Expecially seeing as though he is your husband. Pictures of you on the internet without your permission is against the law.
  • thats...completely and utterly WRONG! LEAVE!
  • To tell you the truth, I see a law suit in this. If you can't work this out in therapy and get your husband to see what a betrayal this is, I also see a divorce. I sure as hell wouldn't stay. I am very, very sorry this happened to you :(
  • This happened to a friend. She told me that it was just as if her partner had brought strangers in to look at her. Yes you are right to feel abused. Yes you are right to feel angry. That was a massive abuse of your trust. Your body should be a sacred treasured thing between the two of you unless you have both agreed to share. Personally I would want to make sure that my partner knows and understands exactly why I was so upset. Exactly how I felt. Then I would study his reaction. And then decide whether or not leaving is the next step. People can be very stupid. But people can learn from their mistakes. I dont know what your relationship is like. This could be the last straw for you or it could be an uncharacteristic act by him. Just please let him realise how badly he has hurt you and then see what he does. Your feelings are justified. It was wrong. I hope you'll be alright whatever the outcome.
  • OMG!!!! that is the most disrespectful thing i have ever heard, personally my husband would be castrated for that in my house!!!!! you are right to feel mentally raped, you have no idea who he has been showing that picture to on the internet and neither does your husband!! he might as well be pimping you out!!! you need to ask your self if you can ever forgive and forget, if you cant try marriage counselling and if you still cant you will have to leave.
  • It's considered being an asshole at the very least.I can't decide for you what to do, but personally I doubt my relationship with the person would go too swimmingly after that.
  • I do not see it as rape at all. It certainly is disrespectful and shows his total disregard of you as a human being. As to the legality of what he did, that would depend on whether you gave him the photo or not.
  • A good warning for everyone. This story is particularly shocking because it was the husband. Don't allow anyone to take naked photos of you. There are countless stories of "friends" who subsequently become estranged and take revenge by posting pictures on the Internet. Once it's out there, it's there forever. There are plenty of legal sites with paid over 18 models, for people who want to look at porn.
  • I don't see how you can stay with a person who showed no regards for your feelings, unless he's just clueless and feels really bad for doing it.
  • I don't know what they would call it, but it was disrespectful toward you. I would leave and then get a lawyer to see if I could do anything to him. That man is thoughtless.
  • its dificult to leave the person you love but its disrecpectful to publish the pic of your wife on the net. One day he can even sell u with someone. You must be on your guards.
  • That should be a law suit and no way would I be able to stay with someone that shows me NO respect that is not love that is B S and maybe he is trying to sell you out for money next , run fast as you can !!! get an attorney and sue his butt off for everything you can
  • in my opinion ,your husband is a sad git ,you are proably the strong one ,get a better life without this type of arsehole around you cramping your style ,i feel sorry and happy for you ,sorry for your ordeal ,and happy that its gonna all be better ,good luck from switzerland
  • What a douchebag..my man would never ever consider doing that to me. It's called having respect, I don't think I would be able to forgive him for that. I can't even imagine what would be worth the consequences for that...you should ask your hubby was it worth it, as you are walking out the door...Good Luck to you ....Karma Karma Karma
  • Your husband has no respect for you and is dirty. Leave him and run and do notlook back. He is mentally dirty.
  • There are a number of ways to look at this; if you allowed your husband to take naked photos of you he believed he had the right to do with them as he pleased and you would go along with it. At one time when women were considered the property of the husband it was his right to do so. This is not the status of things today although many men still have this attitude towards their wife. Because he published your photos without your permission you can bring legal suit against him which may also result in seperation and divorce. Oh the other side of the coin, you could look at it as your husband being very proud of his wife and wanted to show what he had to others. There are a number of websites that do this exact thing and is probably where he published your photos. There is nothing wrong with nudity it is a good lifestyle. Yes, many men probably looked at your naked body; and many may have gotten off on those photos but it didn't actually happen it was only mental. If you want to save your marriage then laugh it off and tell your husband thank you for the compliment but to please never do it again without your permission then let it go and yes your photos will be on the net probably almost forever.
  • I don’t know if it is mental rape, but it defiantly is wrong. This is someone that you loved and trusted and he betrayed you by doing this. I think if I were you I would take a naked picture of him and return the favor. I might go as far as setting up a website with his naked ass on it or something like that!!! Good Luck!!!
  • LOL...
  • It sounds to me that he's quite proud to be married to you and doesn't mind showing you off to others. While you may call it "rape", some women would find it a source of pride... His intent for doing this is what really matters - get to the bottom of it before you throw in the towel on your marriage.
  • File charges at your local mental hospital...immediately!
  • I'm not sure about rape, but if it was done without your permission and you are not comfortable with it then he did something very wrong. If you haven't expressed your feelings to him about this then I suggest you do. If he doesn't think he did anything wrong than maybe you should think about some counselling or something. I'm sorry he did that to you.
  • I can trace back "rape" from Latin "rapio" meaning to plunder or seize. Now it has more closely become associated with the sexual violation of a man or woman. I think you can consider it a mental rape, but in a very poetic sense. I think there can be a more straightforward and less doubtful description for it. Do you stay or leave? Well, I don't, think I'm really in a position to answer that. You should think long and hard about what this violation of trust means to you and if it's worth the lifelong separation and if it really warrants the reneging of the marriage vows.
  • Wrong, wrong, wrong. He definitely violated your trust and stole something you cannot get back. How do you continue to love someone who would treat you with such a lack of respect?
  • this is just all around wrong, but unfortunately in happens. he disrepected you and i waoul say goodbye after that, also i would look into what you can do legally because lets face it, if he does this when he "loves" you, god only knows where those pictures will end up once its over
  • Id call it disrespect! You know the answer yourself I think, a relationship is nothing without trust, get answers from him, then make a decision wether or not your willing to trust him once he earns the trust back
  • I wouldn't choose that term personally. Regardless though, it is very wrong. Both legally and morally. I wouldn't tell you what you should do, but this is obviously (and completely understandably) causing you distress. All I would advise is that you sit down and disuss his reasons for doing this with him. Maybe he just didn't understand that you would feel this way, and didn't have any bad intentions. He has broken your trust though, in such a big way, and ultimately whether you like his answer or not, you have to decide if you can move past that and trust him not to hurt you again.
  • We need to stop making up these sayings like mental rape or rape of the soul. Rape is rape; actually rape REALLY means the pickng up and taking away of some animal or person (see root from word "raptor" from rapt-, pp. stem of rapere "seize"). But as we understand it now, you were not raped. Call it what it is...you feel humiliated and betrayed and need to deal with it as simply as possible without all the melodrama. +5
  • You have issues.
  • No. Stop being a drama queen. While what he did was wrong, it's not "mental rape". You're being demeaning to those people who go through the tragedy of such things. Also, why the heck would you make\allow another to make nude pictures of yourself when you know the possibility of sharing is high? You must have terrible taste in men too.
  • No one ever has or ever will have a picture of me naked...ever. If someone took a picture of me naked without my permission, OMG, that would be the most disrespectful thing I can imagine happening.
  • I'm not sure where "mentally raped" came from (no such thing) but that is a seriously vicious invasion of your privacy. It might be seen as "revenge porn" but this dude should NEVER be trusted again. Questioning if you should leave this guy is ridiculous - YES!
  • that might be illegal to do that without your permission
  • Mental rape? What the hell is that? It just sounds like your husband is an asshole. And don't let people take pictures of you naked in the future. Just sayin'.

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