Why do middle-school kids even bother with "relationships" in 6th-8th grade? Do they really matter at all?
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Middle school relationships are training for the real thing later on.
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I honestly belive for the most part that its a social status thing.
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Kids are getting knocked up in middle school nowadays. I miss the chastity belt. That would learn em'
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Actually, relationships at that age are important step in the process of social development. Think of them as a training ground for meaningful relationships later on in life.
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I never had one of those 'middle school' relationships, my first date with a guy was right before i turned 15, it turned into a serious relationship extremely quick, we were together for two yrs.. i think the kids dont fully grasp the concept of what an adult relationship is like, and they call it a relationship when they hang out and go to the movies and talk in school and say i love you within 2 hours of 'dating'.. i think theyre just being kids, you gotta learn sometime i guess. i wish i had that when i was younger though, i think it would have helped me not be so dependant with relationships now
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TV and society tells them to act out....
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The relationships matter the the middle-school kid.
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well, im in the 7th grade and i am dating a 16 year old. i guess the reason that im dating in middle school is because i am getting ready for the really serious relationships in high school.
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I Am Dating A Guy I Am Going Into The Eighth Grade I Think They Do Matter Maybe Not Enuff To Be Having Sex And Stuff But Enuff To Get Ready 4 What Life Has Ahead!!!If U Dont Do Them Now Then Ur Gunna End Up Not Knowing What U Want Or What U Like And It Will Be Longer Before u find ur soul Mate!!!
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i agree, i never had a relationship in 6th or 7th grade. and if you do it really is just a time where you can be good friends with that person. i never had a real relationship till the end of 8th grade(15 yrs old). i've been dating my boyfriend for 1 year since then. so until you're ready for something seriuos you dont really casually date someone until you're older
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Of course they matter. With early relationships you learn how to act around the opposite sex. You also learn what you are seeking from your partner to be and what you in turn want. Can you learn without an early relationship? Yes. You just learn differently, watching from the sidelines.
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Oh my Gosh!!! i'm in the sixth grade and this "going out" stuff is crazy!!! it's really pretty amusing though... because somebody will get a note that somebody likes them... they become boyfriend and girlfriend...then the whole sixth grade is talking about it... the next day they break up for no reason at all!!! I think they just do it because they have older siblings and they want to be like them.. also they think that that is what they should be doing.. me and my friends will tell our mom about who's going out and they say " well where are they going?".. HAHA!
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It is a good way to learn how to establish healty relationships later on. Learning through experiance.
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I had the same boyfriend from grade 6-9. I would say that it was one of the most important relationships I have had yet. I learned more from that one, than all my other relationships put together. So, i'll have to say 'yes' they matter.
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I can't really speak from experience, I was a side line watcher until I was 21. But I can say I still learned enough from the sidelines to not screw it up royally when it came to interacting correctly.
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I don't think they matter for the long term, but I think that's where they begin to learn intuitive social skills.
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If they dont get too serious and are merely friendly why worry?
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for some its a social thing but sometimes its bcuz the two kids really really like each other. just bcuz they r 12-14 doesnt mean that they can't love another person. (fyi, i'm in high skool, my little sis is in 6th...) besides, its kinda cute!
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Attention seekers, popularity. It's all about who you know, and what you're doing.
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when i was in middle school i was with one guy for about three months and then we broke up. same day me and hid best friend got together ( he was dating my best friend so we switched boyfriends and she went out with my ex) i dated him for about 8 months off and on. and had my first kiss. they were fun and were like practice.
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Because they are just starting to notice each other more intently. It is the beginning of puberty and this is when the world begins to be about more than your family and your block.
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My first relationship was in 8th grade, and I think that relationship did and still does matter.
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I think middle school relationships can be a little too young, but it's cute as long as it's innocent and appropriate. It's the high school relationships that teach teens how to relate healthily to the opposite sex. I was fortunate enough to have a lovely experience with my first boyfriend, and it really teaches you to have good "grown-up" relationships in adulthood.
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I met my GF in high school and i am still with her now. she works and im in college its been 3 years. So yeah id say they matter. She and i both had our fair share of relationships in high school before we met too.
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Im in 7th grade and I can tell you that we all value our relationships considerably.
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yes they matter LOVE knows no age. Most of the time they end up getting married or sometime they just want to experiance new things and sometimes they got to look for you different options not all guys and girls are the same so when their older they will know what they want in a marriage
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yes and devastating i was dating a girl 4 1yr and six mounths and she broke up with me because my iam in band
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I don't think they're pointless, unless your one of those people who have a new bf/gf each week. Those are pointless.
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its a place to start, i don't think they understand that there not going to last. but its an age were there bodys are changing.
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well im still in school, but i am able to realize that a relationship in middle school is just a fling. as long as it is appropriate, then it is fine with me if other kids have relations in middle school. i think it helps them better understand the opposite gender, and their sensitivity. it helps s to understand that guys sometimes like their space and dont like being emotional, and it helps guys understand that s are much more sensitive than they knew. on the other hand, it is still just a fling. nothing serious or long lasting. so if middle school kids want a relation, let them, as long as it stays clean.
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It's practice. My 6th grader is in love with so many girls while my 9th grader doesn't see any of them unless they play Halo 3. At least the sixth grader still listens to me and asks questions, which I can answer...and warn him of what is not appropiate and what is OK. I slip in there the whole "puppy love" feeling and tell him I can respect that as long as all parties act right. He is learning earlier then his brother how to treat a girl and HOPEFULLY, will get a lot of this stuff (emotions/feelings) figured out before he becomes sexually active ... (in his 40's....LOL)
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They feel that their relationships are just as important as any. Children that age are just beginning to experience love, and it is very real to them. In some countries, they are considered adults when they reach puberty. This whole business of "teenagers" is a fairly recent (since the 1900s)invention.
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because it's cool or because it's a sign of maturity in this society and everybody wants to grow up personally i've never seen a relationship at that age worth remembering, from either my experience or the experience of those whom i know
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for the most part, I think that children in middle school are too young to have developed true love emotions but there are sometimes in which yea they are good relationships that last
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I think that they are very important. I dated a guy from my 7th graded year until my 10th grade year. And I still reminber him. And it also helps people find out who they would like to marry one day and show them the people they should stay away from....
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Of course they do they're like practice. Its like your 20, right, and then you start dating and you kiss a guy. You will most likely be bad at it and yeah. Plus its like saying why do people have bestfriends when they're little? Not like they'll have the same ones when they're older. Bestfriends keep you happy and they give you social skills. Middle school relationships let you exprience something different. Its kind of like a preview of what you'll have when you get older. Also its like you have a boyfriend from 7th to 9th break up because you move away from each other. 8 years later you see each other and old sparks come alive. So they do matter. A lot. You just kind of have to think about it.
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At that age, they're usually experimenting.
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good learning experiences for them. It obviously doesnt matter, but a man has to learn how to treat a lady at some point.
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I think that it can sometimes be to make themselves seem better to their friends or peers. But it can also to get closer to someone, or because there might be something they want to experience. But it also is because at that age it is easy to like someone a lot, and depending on who you are, to love them like nothing else in the world. They do matter a lot I think. As they are there to teach you lessons, I have found that there is something important that I have taken away from my relationships at school. I've found even though there are hard times and all that stuff. That you are better for it in the end. There's always a good side to going out with someone. Hope I helped. :)
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