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ANSWERS: 40
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No problem there. Good to know someone well before you're married.
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Sex is not sacred anymore.
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think it's a good idea. in trouble, if can't live with each other after marriage.
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it has actually been proven by psychologists and scienctists that if partners live with each other before they get married, the chance of divorce increases. that doesn't mean you will definatley get divorced if you live togther before marraige, just that the chance of a divorce is increased. personally, i did like living together before marraige before i heard about this in my pre-med psych class.
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I have known 2 couples in my neighborhood, they lived together for more than 5 years (happily?), then they got married and both marriages only lasted less than 1 year. 5 and 6 months to be exact. I wish they just stayed together without getting married.. perhaps they were still together.
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Well my husband and I lived together 4 years and then got married. We have been married almost a year and are as happy as the first day we started dating. There are times when I want to kill him and probably vise versa, but we both appreciate and respect eachother. Also, we did not kill eachother when we lived together so we are good now. :)
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Wonderful idea.
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Sometimes I think its just an excuse. My gf and I are of the same mind that if you love somebody enough to have them live with you, you should marry them. :) My .02 anyway :)
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I think it's a good idea. Some of the best advice my mama gave me was to live with someone for at least one year before marriage, so I knew what to expect. You set boundaries, expectations, and really find out if your fundamental beliefs are compatible. My current husband I lived together four years before getting married. Even if we never got married, we're mated for life.
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Good idea..You can determin if your sex life will or will not be compatible.
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It can work if both people talk about their expectations beforehand. They should decide whether they want to marry, and if they do, then they should plan to do it shortly after cohabitation (in 6-18 months). Otherwise, one person (usually the woman) will feel cheapened because she moved in expecting a marriage to result, but she's been waiting for five years without so much as a proposal.
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its a great thing, because its then you could experience how its goin to be if u r thinkin bout marriage in da near future.
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Honey best move you can make. See what you are getting before you buy. You don't want to turn into http://www.google.com/search?q=spousal+abuse&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
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dating is more fun.
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Aw come on how many of us save ourselves for marriage anymore. I want to test drive before i buy so to speak.
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I guess it depends on your values...for me, cohabitation IS "marriage", whether there's a legal document involved or not. I think "marriages/common law marriages" would last forever if people could each go to a separate home a few times a week. I do believe that you get to know someone fully once you live with them (friends/family included). BUT, the catch is you give up so much of yourself when you live with another person. I guess you have to make sure the other person wants to give up a lot too, and pay attention to their actions, not their words.
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something that nearly every1 does my partner proposed b4 we moved in but no way would i have agreed 2 get married and thats the day we live 2gether! yes you can get 2 know some1 without living with them but its a whole different ball game when you do!
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I think it is a bad idea, unless the two are engaged and are making serious efforts to live as one.
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I think it's an excellent idea.
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Cool with me. It's considered standard behavior.
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Cohabitation IS marriage if you're speaking from a biblical standpoint. There is no marriage ceremony anywhere in the bible period. No requiremrnt for a state sanctioned marriage in there either. A man simply "takes a wife" **POOF** married!
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I dont see the problem with it, its good to know how its like to live with one another before getting married.
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It never works out, cause its not taken seriously between the two people..Marriage is serious, they make commitments in front of God..There is a difference in it..
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I think more people should try living with their s/o before taking the plunge. It helps cause you get to figure out if you can tolerate this person on a daily basis.
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It's not for me and it kinda kills the transition from boyfriend/girlfriend to husband and wife. If you're already living together before you get married what changes when you do exchange vows? The idea that you'll learn more about a person before you live together is probably true, but how bad could it be? socks left on the floor, toilet seat left up... these are minor things that can be adjusted and discussed like adults. WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET TH MILK FOR FREE!!
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+5. I always know that when I speak from my heart I will be downrated but I have to speak for me, not you. I am not judging, making claims that America should change, no I am speaking for me. Living together is sin. It is wrong and it should still be against the law. That is just me.
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A "fact finding" mission!
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Okay but insane if entered in to within three weeks of meeting.
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Gotta make sure the shoe fits before you buy it.
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I think more people should do it.
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Normally i would say not to do it because its against gods wishes but theese days it really is true that it takes a lot of time for the false faces & pretenses to come off. To be able to feel like you really know that person & feel just as comfortable in a bathrobe on a bad day to dressing up on the good. Good things sometimes just can't be rushed.
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It is so common now. I'm older and it just wasn't done much. It doesn't bother me. Why waste all the money on a wedding and have it end in 6 months. I've seen it happen in my family. Live together.
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I think it should be required, and nobody should be allowed to get married unless they are going to have children. Marriage should be reserved for those with children or the old who don't want to die alone.
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Don't have a problem with it. It can be fun and you can find out a little better what you are potentially in store for. There are howvwer certain legal issues that could arise if there is a split, all of which are financially related.
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Sex a biological needs of human being and to enjoy it in his own right even before marriage is not a question.
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It worked for me.
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I think its a way of avoiding committment. Either party can leave at anytime as there is no committment and basically no strings attached. Why marry if you are living together? Any problem you will have you will say, "it is a good thing we are not married". Marriage is a committment and requires a lot of compromising, sharing, communication. In marriage you work to solve the problems, in cohabitation, you can just leave and leave the problem behind.
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I see nothing wrong with it.
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I don't see a problem with it. It depends on the two people involved.
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OK, provided that there is no sex.
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