I'm a waitress, part-time student without a degree, I'm 23 and now I'm 3 weeks pregnant with a man I do not love or want to be with. Do you think I will be okay in life? I really need encouragement because I'm considering an abortion.
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E.J. Nightly
ANSWERS: 23
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I think that adoption might be an option for you. It's an incredibly selfless and loving gift to give a deserving family. Think about it.
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Get rid of this guy quick. Last thing you'll want I assume is this guy finding out and trying to play daddy.
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Of course you'll be OK. You are young, and you have opportunities. I was a waitress for a while and actually put that experience on my resume because it's hard work and great customer service skills. You are going to school, and you are young. As for your pregnancy, that is a decision that you are going to have to make for yourself, and I understand you have a lot going on right now. Just... continue making choices that maximize your options and make you feel good about who you are. You only live once, so you have to make the most of what you are. Do what you do well. Go to school and study hard. Waitress and try to save as much as you can. Get away from the people you don't want to be around. Make a decision about your unborn child, and remember that adoption could be a viable alternative. Again, that is all up to you. You'll be OK if you make constructive choices. Good luck. Don't forget - you are too young to not be OK.
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i had a baby when i was 19 and i gave her to this couple who couldnt have kids and it feels really good to know she will be taken good care of and if i got an abortion i would have hated myself but even giving her away hurt me...
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You'll be fine. Keep up with the studies. Think about if you want a child or not and then what action to take. (that is your personal business) You have your whole life ahead of you.
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I think you'll be okay. Find a support group though Catholic Charities or some such. Consider giving the baby up for adoption instead of an abortion...
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well the guy shld no if he is having a kid and u shld talk about it with him and if u are able to take care if the child u shld or give it up for adoption but the father needs to have a say in this it isnt all up to u if u do not want it than u shld see if its father does but if u can take care of it please do and try your best to not get a abortion unless it is nessary
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Do you want a child? Do you know someone who would want a child? Abortion is a thing that could leave you emotionally and physically damaged. Did this guy rape you? Do you have family that will support and help you if you choose to be a single mother?
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Plae do not abort. There is a precious life in there. Please consider adoption. Adoption can give your child the life that you apparently can't and you can go onwith your life, knowing that you gave the most precious gift -- life.
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It's a classic problem. One that no one can sort out for you. To be okay, you must feel whatever decision you make is "right" for you. While Abortion is one alternative, it carries the risk of possibly loading you up with guilt later on. I echo Lori's sentiment and would suggest serious consideration of going full term and giving your baby up for adoption. It would not hurt to check into it. No matter what, good luck with whatever you decide.
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Will you be okay? Yes. Definitely. Will that happen overnight? I don't know. Is there any way that you can talk to some kind of counsellor? I would highly recommend it. By the way, what you decide to do with your body is your business and no one elses.
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the women i know who've had abortions feel guilt/grief for years because of it. i think perhaps you should consider putting the child up for adoption or maybe keeping it. you will be fine. women have been dealing with unwanted pregnancies as long as the world has been in existence. make sure the father has the opportunity to support the child if you keep it!
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Never ever give up, under any circumstances.
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Believe me, you'll be fine. It will be a little bit more complicated but the life you are carrying will bring you more love than you might otherwise find in your life. Hang in there and enjoy your life.
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start at the beginning: your not in love with the guy or dont want to be with him....leave him will you be ok...Most definately no matter what you chose to do with the pregnancy. Every path we take in life is a lesson and with these lessons if you use them as a learning tool in life you will prosper....stand strong you will be ok
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I think you will be as long as you learn from your past and stay positive about life. Work on your degree so you can have a 'better life' and future for your child if you choose to keep it.
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You are going to be OK. You are young and you will bounce back. I would encourage you not to abort the child. No shame in adoption. You may even be able to do an open adoption where they will send you pictures and updates of the child every so often if you wish. Best of luck to you :)
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Please consider adoption.
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Get the abortion. It's pretty unfair to bring an unwanted child into the world.
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It sounds like all you have done is run from real responsibility. Having your child - believe it or not - will cure that and make you a better person. Please don't kill the baby. It shouldn't have to pay for your mistakes. And please use condoms!!!
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You'll be fine. You won't have an abortion. I know because if you wanted one you wouldn't care to ask for approval. Being a mom is the best job ever-it comes naturally and you will then know what TRUE LOVE is all about. Good luck, even though I know you won't need it. Everything happens as it should-this is no exception.
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There is always a reason for everything. God does not give problems that we cannot handle. Be strong, believe in yourself, trust me that baby is a blessing in disguise. I had my first born same age 23. No work, but I had friends and relatives who help me out. Now my son is 18 and helping me. A LOT!!!
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i didnt think i wanted my baby almost three years ago. I thought i cant do this because i need to fulfill my dreams first.i wished i had had an abortion and then after almost three years, I started to fall in love with him.Now, if my dreams cant include him then i pick another path. No, its not easy getting used to and i hope it wont take you as long as it did me but you know what the right choice to make is so just do it.
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