ANSWERS: 40
  • He's still your Father and He Loves you;) Give him a chance;) Everyone Makes mistakes;)
  • Sounds like a homeless girl to me. I would expect that he better get to giving her a reason to respect him, and quick-like.
  • The same thing you do when she don't have any respect her mother. You enforce that she shows respect, but get her counseling to work through whatever she's feeling/going through, and it would be nice to have daddy participate.
  • This is a tough one, because you could say a million different things to her, but nothing is really guaranteed to actually change her behavior and attitude towards her father.
  • "You will see growing up that your father is one of the only men that will respect YOU. So get your priorities on order...."
  • Has her father behaved in a manner deserving of respect? Does he respect her? He is the adult, it is his place to demonstrate respectful behavior and to demonstrate respect for others. There are no magic words to fix this if he hasn't done his part.
  • I wonder why she doesnt have respect for him? How old is she? Age is important on giving an answer. My boys dont respect their dad, however they have every reason to feel that way.
  • It all depends, does the father deserve respect? or is he a low life scum? And does he respect her, there may be a reason. If not just tell her respect others as you wish them to respect you. Give her a taste of her own medicine.
  • You're grounded for a month.
  • "B*tch you betta recogniiiize!" =] Lol, no but it depends on if he deserves respect or not and how old she is. If she's young she won't understand how to treat the people that are older than her.
  • I would tell her to wake up and understand that life is about dealing with people we may or may not like. I think its tough for parents it seems that no matter what you do for kids-its never good enough. I believe that people should respect their parents. I did not have a great childhood and no longer speak to my parents. I am 35 and am able to understand that I will always respect BOTH my parents for putting food on the table, a roof over my head and clothes on my back-even if it is from a distance.
  • There is usually some reason what reason does she think she has not to respect her father. If you cannot find a reason then maybe it is time for her to leave home.
  • "Don't behave like a teenager."
  • i'd say, "go sit with your mother."
  • Don't know all the facts, but I'm assuming he's not around too much. I would tell her in a polite way what you think of her father and why, and let her make her own decision.
  • Mine was learned behaviour from my mother... but every situation is different, you need to get to the core of the issue, it could be they have not bonded and need to spend more time together, this was also the case with my father, he only came into my life when I was 2 years old, the first few years are critical I think.
  • Try and figure out why she has no respect and recognize that you're not going to get the answer over night. Then have them spend more time together and INSIST that the father be patient during that day / week / month together. Real family is about sacrifice. Take it from someone who's relatives sacrificed nothing.
  • First find out why the daughter has no respect for her father, surely there must be a rason? If not then she needs to be told to grow up, and start to realize how much her father has done for her. Again kind of depends on the situation..
  • It all depends on how old she is and If you have done anything to her to make her disrespect you. The best way to get respect is to give respect. Do you respect her and her opinions or do you rule with an iron fist?
  • It would be best if her father spoke with her about it. If he doesn't, you could tell her that it's not acceptable to treat anyone disrespectfully ... especially her father!
  • I am your parent not your friend, you have your whole life ahead of you to someday do all the things you want to do until then, I have certain rules and expectations to abide by in this household and that I will not change. But what I can change is how we communicate. You seem to harbor some issues with me and I would like to discuss these as I feel if we communicate more openly about how we feel, we can improve our relationship. First off, I'd like to ask a few questions and I hope you give me your most honest answers. If there is anything about me as your father you could change what would it be? As your father, what do you like most/least about me? What do I do that disappoints you the most? If you were the dad, what would you do differently? How can I be a better father to you? Let's go out and have dinner together and talk some more.
  • My youngest daughter doesn't have respect for her father...it is well deserved...since she was born he was in and out of her life...when ever he returned, he would make promises of never leaving again, only to do so...I never said anything bad about him because I knew that she needed to form her own opinion...he wants to be her father again and she wrote the most amazing letter to him about the hurt he dealt her from little on....it wasn't vicious but very matter of fact...she left it open that maybe someday they could have that type of relationship but that it would take a very long time...
  • does her father have any respect for her? works both ways. i've found that a lot of the parents i work with in my job expect their children to respect them but they dont give any back. just an idea though :)
  • HIGH FIVE!!!
  • say unless you respect me and my house rules no tv no computer no pocket money and your grounded
  • I will first of all talk to her mother.Usually a child may have no respect for his father since the mother shows no respect for her husband. And then,I will check out if the father shows any respect for her daughter.Showing respct is just mutual in any relationship,so it may be the father's fault as well as his daughter's. And at last,I will tell the daughter,that no matter what's going on between her parents or between her and her father,he's the one who has accepted the responsibility of her birth,and he's the one who does ANYTHING for her ... so,showing some respect is not that hard to this person .
  • Since she's 13, she's at an age where "rebellion" is normal. The trouble is, what is she rebelling against? Is the father overly rigid? Is he reacting to her reactions and accelerating the downward spiral of non-communication? Does he feel a desperate *need* for her respect? It is possible for a parent to set the boundaries and the rules without getting their ego entangled in "getting respect" from the child. Teens have to go through their normal developmental process, which usually includes rejecting the values of their parents for a while so they can define their own identity. It's good for parents not to overreact, but to keep a steady hand on the wheel. It's not about him, anyway. If it is, he should work on that out of range of her barbs.
  • Depends on whether he deserves respect or not. Sorry to disappoint anyone, but I never did believe in unconditional love. In my opinion, you should get what you give; a person who is consistently a condescending jackass (just as an example) doesn't deserve love, regardless of their DNA.
  • Go for a counselling session. Make appointments with various counsellors until you find the one you feel comfortable with. There are various reasons why she may have no respect for him and the counsellor should be objective and be able to see what's going on if presented with truthful facts. It could be the father is abusive or if he is not, it could be the daughter has an underlying disorder (for exmaple, bipolar) that needs treatment. The bottom line: If something is wrong that can be treated, the counsellor should discover it and make further recommendations to get the family feeling much better. Don't settle for the first counsellor you come across, keep going until you find the right one for your family.
  • I would ask if he gave her a reason to respect him.
  • Tell her that a bond between a duather and her father is special. Tell her to ask one of her friends,who doesn't have one what they think of growing up without a father.She needs to see things from all perspectives. If that idea doesn't does not spark a discussion. Maybe he talking to a trusted relative.If all else fails ask the best friends parents.Kids not only pick their friends for their qualities, but beleave it or not if they have alot of sleepovers she thinks her friends parents are cool. In any case you need to get to the bottom of this.I truly hope my advice will help.
  • how old is she is she old enough to live on her own? if not then let her see how much she is supported by him buy cutting her off if she wants a new shirt have her buy it on her own shoes get a job. It is your roof then she should have respect for you curtdude
  • You don't give any context but assuming the father is a normal, if imperfect, guy I feel you should teach your daughter that it is not acceptable to be disrespectful to her father. He is probably helping to provide for her and I think he deserves some respect ...and for her sake its good for her to learn to respect people in general. This is from a poster: It may seem a bit outdated in these modern times and is sure to raise some hackles here... I'm going to post it anyway just so you get the drift... Dear Child As long as you live in this house you will follow the rules. When you have your own house you can make your own rules. In this house we do not have a democracy. I did not campaign to be your parent. You did not vote for me. We are parent and child by the grace of God, and I accept that privilege and awesome responsibility. In accepting it I have an obligation to perform the role of parent. I am not your pal. Our ages are too different. We can share many things but we are not pals. I am your parent. This is 100 times more than a pal is. I am also your friend, but we are on entirely on different levels. You will do in this house as I say, and while you may ask questions you may not question my authority. Please remember that whatever I do is motivated by love. This will be hard for you to understand until you have a child of your own. Until then, trust me. Your Parent
  • One of the requirements of living in this house is to respect your father and mother. If you don't like living here, there's the door. Don't let it hit you in the ass on your way out.
  • Does he deserve respect? How old is she?
  • She needs to go talk to someone and get some help from a counseling unless she has a real, honest, acceptable reason to have no respect for him.
  • I would tell her "what goes around comes around" meaning someday she'll need him and he won't be there for her, but I hope not!
  • Is he a weak parent or a parent who doesn't deserve respect?
  • I can't answer your question until I know how he lost her respect. The more a rebellious kid respects you, the louder they shout. Nobody puts effort into pushing back at an insignificant parent. Maybe you could side step the whole confrontation thing and ask her what the real problem is and what the pressures are with her friends.
  • there are 2 things about respect... it is a 2 way street and must be deserved. if he is a drunken bum or other such piece of crap then you are asking her to blindly worship him. if he does not respect her then you are asking her to adore him when he does not deserve it. if he deserves it for more than JUST BECAUSE HE IS HER FATHER then sorry, I don't know how to help teens can be jacked up... I just wanted you to think about wether or not he deserved it...

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