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  • If your Dad owns the house, then doesn't that allow him to make the rules?
  • Did you tell your dad you are not gay so no it's not like letting a boy stay there. If you had a guy friend who was gay would he let him stay the night?
  • WELL TELL HIM NO ITS NOT LIKE HAVING A GUY BECAUSE A GUY HAS SOMETHING GIRLS DON'T AND BESIDES YOUR NOT BY RIGHT SO JUST LET YOUR DAD KNOW UR STARIGHT AND NOTHING COULD HAPPEN IN BETWEEN THE 2 OF YOU
  • Sorry, but... I kinda agree with Dad. Maybe that's because I had a bad experience at college. At one time I would have agreed with you, and have a couple of gay friends myself, but since the gay roommate tried to crawl in bed with me... yeah, I agree with Dad. Besides, like cletusj said... it's Dad's house, Dad's rules.
  • I am having a lot of trouble going on the assumption that she is a lesbian just based on the way she looks. But I'll drop my contention for the sake of answering your question, or at least, what I am supposing your question is. Your dad is looking out for you in the fatherly sense that he is not going to let anyone in your bedroom that you may become sexually involved with. I can understand that from the point of view that he doesn't want you messing around with anyone, boy or girl, in his house. Oh, parents. I don't think this is an LGBT issue at its root. It's not about accepting/ rejecting your friend on the basis of her sexual orientation. (And as a sidenote: even if she is a lesbian, she may not be interested in coming on to you and could very well see you only as a friend.) But yeah, if there is a possibility that the two of you would be interested in pursuing something beyond friendship, than you two are going to have to work that out. Maybe dad's house is not the best place.
  • It sounds like you're old enough the stand up for yourself and not be 'convinced' you're gay (I'm not saying you're sexually confused) by someone you're 'assuming' is. Even though your dad may not be the one you'd like to 'choose' your friends for you, he is still your dad and you need to respect that. It sounds like your dad is worried your friend will somehow 'turn you gay'... maybe you should talk about that with your dad. =)
  • Your father may be a victim of the religious right fringe "conservatives" who actually believe that gay/ lesbian people are emissaries of the devil. (First, they want you to believe in devils, ghosts, gods, and goblins.) Remind your dad that boys and girls are different, and your lesbian friend can't make you pregnant. Otoh, you know he's going to have the last word, so all you can do is ask. What is he afraid of? Does he fear that gay rubs off?
  • No one knows your friend is gay unless she has told them so, regardless of how she looks. That being said, it is not quite the same thing as letting a boy stay over. Your female friend cannot: 1)get you pregnant. 2)make you gay or bi if you are not. 3)depending on the physical statures of the parites, may have more difficulty physically forcing you to do something you don't want to if she was so inclined. However: 1) You may be gay, bi, or tempted to experiment and are not telling your parents. 2) If something did happen, you can still get a disease. 3) Your friend may be physically attracted to you and not be telling you. Those are all things that are similar to having a boy stay over. Your Dad is likely concerned that you are not old enough to be having sexual relations with anyone and is trying to protect you from a situation that may become uncomfortable for you and also trying to cover himself in case there is something you're not telling him. Try to reassure your Dad that you are in no way tempted to have a sexual relationship with your friend, but if he still objects, respect his wishes. Good luck.
  • I assume she self identifies as lesbian and she's not just being stereotyped based on her appearance? Your dad's uncomfortable with his minor child doing overnighters with people who might find her sexually attractive. As a parent I get that. But he's only half right because it takes two to tango, and I take it you're not lesbian. My kids have done sleep overs with gay and lesbian friends, and it's never been a big deal for anybody. And frankly, for the gay kids it's nice to be included just like anybody else, and to have friends (as opposed to boyfriends or girlfriends) without the backdrop of sexual tension.
  • I agree with your father on this one, I don't think he's being weird about it, I think you should respect the idea that your friend may probably have designs on you, and your father, and I can see them from here. I've know a lot of women I never would have though become lesbian do so, I don't know how they do it, but lesbians are skilled at seduction. My buddy lost his wife to a lesbian co-worker. I would not allow my son or daughter to have a sleep over with a gay or lesbian friend, and i'm not being homophobic, it's just common sense that sex can happen.

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