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  • JEEZ!!I guess he decided to take the hard way through life. You've done absolutely all you could to keep him out of this kind of situation. Never go back second guessing your efforts. I just hope to God or whoever that this scares him straight. Chin up and not down snakelover.:-)
  • Stand by him. Working in a prison I have a guy who has been in jail for 20 years from the age 15. He has lost all ties to his family and now that he is due out, he cannot face 'real life' on his own. Now he needs his family.
  • I am so sorry to hear that. (((HUGS))) Just be there for him, That's all you can do.
  • (((HUGS))) Don't give up on him! (((HUGS))) Write to him, often. (((HUGS))) Visit every chance you get. (((HUGS)))
  • Hopefully jail will help straighten him out. Just keep telling yourself that it's for the best, and it'll help you get through it. Go and visit him often, so you can "track his progress" you'll start to see the loving kid you know come back through. and remember that no matter what he's done- there's always worse. At least you're not the mother of his cell mate! (chin up, you'll get through this, and both of you will be stronger for it)
  • The best thing to do is prepare for when he comes out and try to help him rehabilitate, something they are supposed to do in jail and do not. While he is in reassure him that when he comes out he will have a home to come to no matter how old he is. That he is loved and wanted no matter what he did, does or is done to him. As for you, why do you need comforting? He's the one going to jail. Maybe that mentality you have is why he's there, like it's about you. Sorry to sound cruel but he was your child and you were in charge of him, to educate and discipline him no matter what, it was your responsibility. For you I ask why would a 15 year old end up like this. What did you do wrong as a parent? NO need for guilt, what's done is done and correct your mistakes, especially if you have other children.
  • I can't imagine what you must be going through---I have two sons; my heart breaks for you. My oldest son works in a prison--heard lots of stories, but what he did say is that, "you need to be there for him--the ones that are forgotten, never get the message---hopefully he will use his jail time wisely and learn to take responsibility and become a productive adult. Ask God for strength and direction--he'll see you through. Good luck and hugs.
  • Just tell him to stay strong and god will always be with you.
  • its hard b/c a parent is supposed to protect their child. its in your blood and nature as a woman and parent. but, if you know he needs it, then i think that should be the comforting part about it. you will be fine. how many years is he going away?
  • Just out of curiosity... Why would you say "He needs it."
  • As a mother who had all sons, 3 of my own, and 2 step sons, I can tell you that it is a challenge to raise children in a world where our leaders (government officials) are the most corrupt and biggest criminals among us. The parents are almost always blamed for their children's behaviour and beliefs that lead to criminal activity, when the real blame lies with the examples that are fed to our kids from day one by the very people that are punishing them! We need to wake up and realize that the young people of today are merely products of the life that we have given them. They are fed propaganda all their lives, and see the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. It's no wonder that they turn to crime these days, looking for 'easy money'. And why not? They see their 'world leaders' do it every single day! Only difference is, they don't go to jail for it, and we do!
  • Marie, im so sorry to hear this.. honey im thinking of you all right now, you know you did your best for him, and hey maybe its the 'wake up call' that he needs right now, maybe this will make him change his ways. Dont beat yourself up, you are a good mother - and yes although he is your baby, he will return, hopefully a better person. ((((hugs)))) email me xxx
  • at least you'll know where he is every night. peace.
  • Tell him to be a good soldier and let him know that he will be in your thoughts and prayers each minute you are apart. God bless you all...I'm so sorry you have to endure this.
  • Better he go through it at 15 then 35. Maybe it will change his behavior. You don't mention his crime but if it was violent this will prevent him from hurting someone elses child, parent, sibling.
  • tell him he needs it to straighten up...
  • Wat did he do o ull be all right ull be able to see him
  • oh no im sry what did he do if you mind me asking please tell now im interested sryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy that would be hard
  • Well, I'm not being mean on this answer, but I will say this: Did you spoil your child, or let him get away with things, or did you just gave up on raising him from learning what's right and what's wrong? I am so sorry about this situation you are going through, but you should at least tell him that this is a lesson in life to learn, don't ever do it again, or else..there will be much more terrible ramifications (consequences) in life than just going to prison.
  • Tell him that it's going to be okay, and ask him if he learned a lesson from this.
  • At least he won't be out making his young life a lot worse. That's comforting, isn't it?
  • A lot of determination on a son....I hope he will learn the hard way.... if that doesn't work then he will later begin to realize that he has done wrong
  • My heart goes to out to you... 15 year old son going to jail. Pray for him. Unfortunately it is a live and learn situation for him. If he was running with the wrong crowd... he will realize they won't be there for him through his sentence. Fortunately the jail system makes them go to school. Encourage him to continue his education and to make the most of his time there to be a positive experience ie, reading. You are not a BAD MOTHER I am telling you this because I am sure you may have blamed yourself in some way. Best of luck to you both.

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