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For me, it's been going through therapy. I have had to conquer my fears of being rejected, being used and abused, and abusing myself with substances and self-pity. It's not an easy thing to do, but you have to look within yourself as to what kind of changes you want to make, and how you decide to make them. It's hard to change patterns that we're used to, so give yourself some time and don't beat yourself up for being human.
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Stop letting little things bother you. Practice being assertive in front of the mirror every morning. Try to have the last word in all of your conversations.
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You gotta lose everything to gain anything -Brad Pitt.
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Practice....it's a pain....you take a lot of hits but eventually you realize that it's not you, it's them or you learn the ability to realize when it is you.
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By being aware of your own needs, desires, expectations, values, opinions, moods, strengths n last but not least weaknessess. With this honest stock taking of yourself you'll be more in control of your own emotional reactions. Many get pissed or ticked without really realizing that circumstances are just stimulants- there are times different people react differently in a same situation. Why? In our own mind we think and do according to our life maps - our experiences and upbringing. Different maps clashes..so if you are trully aware of your own type of map, meaning understand yourself well- you'll begin also to understand others better too. Knowledge of self is power.
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Be a brick wall. Just let it all bounce off
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Why become emotionally tough? Why not become resilient instead? This is more like being able to cope with all your emotions without them destroying you. Rather than being Teflon coated so that nothing gets in or out.
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i don't know.. i have been trying to work that one out for years..
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get hurt enough and it happens naturally.
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Emotionally tough means calloused, and your skin only callouses when you are hurt. I would say that you need to be at least a wee bit jaded to be emotionally tough.
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Experience and time. No shortcuts.
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You pick yourself up, turn around , hold your head high and show whatever brought you down there who you are! It is possible to find your way again, believing in yourself is the first step, the rest will come!
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become experienced in life, smile through everything and make a joke or find the funny side of anything. many people dont like this attitude...but its not about them
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Be aware of your self worth. When someone disrespects you (knowingly or unknowingly) remember that you have as many rights and priveleges as they do. And if you find yourself dealing with a difficult, abusive person, know that by walking away you are being the better person. If you are facing hard times emotionally, seek out friends and family to help you through it. No one is an island. Love yourself.
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Recognize that others around you are not as tough as they appear either. Some of it is just appearances and sometimes practice of the appearance sinks in to become reality.
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u can be emotionally tough by using a touch of apathy thats how i do it and every now and again just let ur emotions take control when u are alone cry scream yell throw/hit things just do whatever until u feel better
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live a little
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Dont be afraid to take chances and live your life like there is no tomorrow
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WELL YEAH thats what usually seems to make you tough and also like just try hiding ur emotions when ur with other people that way they think that its not easy to hurt you and you'll atleast seem tough!
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Its all about self-confidence. But if you don't have any you can't just pull it out of a hat.
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one way is to be positive even if you get negative or unhelpful feedback
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I'd recommend "self-assured", so that people and situations can't irritate or intimidate or hurt you or cause anxiety. What worked for me was realizing that I was really pretty good at my job and hobbies (bicycling and Tae Kwon Do). TKD lets you get used to physical confrontation in a safe environment while being great, naturally good-mood-producing, exercize.
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Bottle everything up, and make sure that no emotion ever escapes. Stay shut up in your apartment and never leave. Keep all friends at arms' length. Never be romantically involved with anyone. (Okay, those all suck.) The truth is, you get tougher when you're kicked around a bit. Also, broader perspective tends to translate into thicker skin.
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one thing which if taken to the extreme will cure ALL emotional pain, but also eliminate all emotional pleasure as well... Apathy heals all wounds. if you don't care it don't hurt. this is different from bottling it up, this is truely banishing, but warning... I spent 3 years to get back just a ghost of the emotion I posessed before doing it, and by that time I was so desperate to feel that whne I saw myself falling for some internet chick I let myself knowing how stupid it was because even if it meant agony, I was happy to be feeling ANYTHING again. even to this day, I endulge in almost any emotion just for the joy of feeling. anger is the only one I do not choose to enjoy
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Someone said it right by saying getting "kicked" around a bit. Having your heart ripped out of your chest a few times should just about do it.
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Realize that "this too shall pass"
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Prepare for the worst. Play the situation out a few times in your head and think of the worst possible thing that can happen.
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Hm...the best way is to just learn from everything that happens to you...and to those around you. I used to just absorb everything that was said to me. Now I just kinda roll with the punches. Just suck it up, take it like a man, only better.
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