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  • No, I really doubt that. I just think that more women now a days are actually thinking about furthering their studies and are making sure that they are able to support themselves before having to take resposibilities of raising a family. :D
  • I am 40 and single and healthy and working and I am finding many young women are owned mentally by their famioly or friends and would be a horrible mistake to marry because they would listen to their friends more than they would their husband, which mean finanical ruin down the road sometime. Also their expectations of social activity seems to be that of a Rich elite person VS say just a working man. I am not their daddy and I will not provide them with everything for nothing especially when I have seen men time and time again work them self to death for a woman and then she cheats on him saying he wasn't around. It was all preplanned.
  • Ok, I am one of these women and I don't think its lack of real men. Just the men now a days have been screwed over by so many horrible women that they no longer believe in marriage, and vows and commitment. That or they have friends or family members who have been married and have already been divorced so it turns them ill to the idea. I don't even know who to blame for this one :)
  • The possibilities are many, and the blame does not always lie with the men.
  • It might have a little to do with it, but some of us actually prefer to be single. I am 31 and never married. It isn't just because I've dated scum. I just don't think I should rush into marriage. But I don't have that "baby desire" as a motivator. I know that women over the age of 30 who become pregnant have a greater chance of passing on disabilities to her baby/babies. Besides, I already have disabilities. And I don't want to have any children who will carry the same burden.
  • I think it's the environment, everyones views on marriage are changing, there are higher divorce rates then ever. Maybe people don't want to set themselves up for disappointment or disaster.
  • I am 28 and never married. Many of my friends are not either. We are attractive, sucessful people. I went to a wake for a guy that we were all friends with, and we all started discussing why none of us were married. We came to the conclusion that it's because in our generation, many of our parents divorced. We not only have a bad view on marriage, but wouldn't really know what married life is supposed to be like because we never witnessed it. Instead we witness fights, court battles, and single parenthood. Coming from where we came from, marriage looks pretty scary. I am now engadged, and kind of a reluctant bride. I have all of these fears about him changing or it ruining things. I hope I can experience a good marriage, but I don't really know what that's supposed to be....?
  • What are "real men"? There's only one thing that makes a man: male genitalia. Perhaps the rising occurrence of unmarried women in their 20s and 30s doesn't have anything to do with men. Perhaps (just a thought) it has to do with the women??? Maybe they don't want to get married. Maybe they'd rather put their time and energy into work, friendships, hobbies, or travelling, now that they have more freedom and rights under the law. Maybe they'd rather remain promiscuous, now that promiscuity in women isn't considered as scandalous as it once was. Maybe they are interested in women! Not everything women do is in response to men. Sometimes women do things for their own reasons.
  • I think it is two-fold. part of it is a result of more women entering the work force and focusing on career instead of getting married and having babies at a young age. not a bad thing. part of it is also men who tend to live with their parents longer, not getting jobs or focusing on careers and generally being a man-child until their late 30's. not a good thing. On both parts both men and women of that age (which I am one) it might be a reluctance on both sides to get married and deal with a statistically correct 3 year marriage with a 70% divorce rate, and seeing how many of us were products of single family homes maybe our generation is a bit less gung-ho to tie the knot.
  • Not due to a lack of men; I think it's because women are pursuing their education and starting their careers.
  • Many have answered that women are getting their education and pursuing their careers. How unfortunate is it that men used to go out and pursue a career so that he could find a good woman and have a family. Men have come up MIA in the last half century, and now women are pursuing a career for a careers own sake. If you ask me this is a distorted and disturbing view of life in general.
  • No- I thinks it's because woman have more options now. We can be just as successful as a man- we are no longer just useful as a stay at home mother. Also people are living longer, and women are having babies later in life than as oppose to 30 years ago.
  • Yes.....there is alot of artificial men out there. The real men maybe living in Zion.
  • Come to think of it there has been a massive surge of imaginary men lately. Sarcasm aside this "phenomenon" is not uncommon in the rest of the civilized world. People are opting to stay single longer, if not permanently. Marriage is a great legal risk with no favorable protection for either gender. People are also realizing that when you take the religious sense of obligation out of the picture marriage becomes entirely optional. People are tired of being driven to marry, breed, rear children, and die. They are starting to seek personal fulfillment in life rather than just fall into their traditional roles. Beyond that personal fulfillment we now have societal obligations that far supersede those of any given faith or credo. We sometimes simply can't afford to marry. Marriage doesn't make men or women real. I'm frankly more offended at your statement that all young women should be married than I am at your blanket claim that men have abandoned the role of the head of household. It is extremely chauvinistic and sexist and I'm surprised the women here have not shouted you down for it.
  • feminists scared them all away
  • Women no longer want to sacrifice their lives to unappreciative men and children. Men don't want to be used as a financial source. We need to redefine what it mens to be a man and what it means to be a woman. We are not only seperated by genetalia. We also think,learn and behave differently for different reasons. Women and children became a mans property thousands of years ago with the creation of capitalism and the family unit. A man was allowed to behave in almost any manner and women became resentful. When women stormed out of the house, men did NOT take up any slack. Children were left to rear themselves and men became more selfish and childlike. Men were never required to fully drop themselves for anyone while women had to help a man become successful. Once women enter a marriage, we risk our independence. We become instant caretakers. The problem is that when women released responsibility for the entire family,men just became single children who never grew up instead of married ones. In our male oriented society women do not have wives at home and have to work a second shift when they have children. Men are capable of stepping up the parenting role, but that doesnt always fit their personal description of manliness, they choose not too. A women should not have to depend on a man after procreation. That is a social design to give men a sense of power. It's not that men are not powerful, its just that we are realizing that we limited women so as to define men. Women were seemingly born with a community role. Women reproduce and communicate. Men impregnate and are very self absorbed. Women have picked up some stereotypical male behaviors. But that because we were tired of having to stoop to conquer. Thats why marriage has fallen apart. The ROLES of a marriage have become archaic and crumbling.
  • Well as one of those women, I would say that at 28 I still do not feel ready and neither do most of my friends. I am SO glad that I haven't married any of the people that I've been with because they were totally wrong for me. Not only that, but a lot of us think that marriage isn't something that people take really seriously these days, and you'd be hard pressed to find somebody who does. I don't think it's a direct result of the lack of real men, but more a change in societal beliefs. There are a lot of people who just don't believe in marriage anymore. Plus there are a lot of people who are actively chosing not to get married because they don't feel that it's what they want. Times, they are a changin I guess.
  • Maybe it's more to do with societal changes in which women have thankfully realised that they don't need to marry a man in order to feel validated. People in general are getting married later, not just women.
  • There is still one real man, alive and kicking, in Nashville. thats me. I wonder how i have survived all this, after being married to the same lady for 43 years?
  • Just because they are not married, that does not mean that they are 'unpartnered.' there are many forms of marriage-like partnerships, including common-law marriage which do not always appear in the statistics. I don't believe it is the lack of 'real men' since that is either a meaningless or a subjective phrase. You might as well ask why so many men are unmarried and whether it's because of a lack of 'real women.'
  • This is just the perspective of a guy, I think early on women like to explore there options which they have plenty of because they are constantly approached, and a typical guy really just wants someone to be there for him. I've noticed that the guys that are successful at approaching women are usually the guys that don't have the outlook of the possiblity for something long term, and therefore come across as carefree and quite confident which is attractive to the female. I as someone that is in my mid 20's now, after being alone for so long am at the point where I don't really feel like pursuing anyone anymore, because I've adapted to the single life and have made peace with not being dependant on affection, which I think is the case with a lot of men. Honestly, I'm tired of seeing loser guys getting great girls, and trying to hold onto a relationship with a quality girl has become such a challenge and so overwhelmingly frustrating that I don't even attempt anymore. I think the reason why women see such a high level of what appears to be crappy guys is because they have had success in the dating scene and continue to participate while regular guys make peace with the fact of being single. Also if you are a women and you like a guy and get good vibes about him and he doesn't really say anything to you, you should approach him and just be direct with him because I think good guys are as sick of the games as good girls.
  • i think this generation of men are more self orientd than any generation prior. They no longer seek to be the bread winner, but still want the role of captain of the ship. The dont have any interest in supporting or raising their children; their money means more to them than thier family. they are strictly opposed to faithfulness (viewed now as weakness)Why would a woman want to marry this??? On the flip side, from the view of the woman, if she is going to be solely responsible for raising and supporting her children, she isnt gonna have a partner in the relationship, no companionship, nothing.....she is doing it on her own anyway...why not be free along with it??? This generation has NO honor, courage or committment!!!
  • Fact from fiction, truth from diction. I think the reason many women are are single by title is that they don't need men as much. They certainly don't need the beard of marriage to sleep around. In truth many woman 20a to 30s are not really single, they are just in relationships with no official commitment. It is not the lack of real men. Any real man can't even act like a real man for being called a misogynic chauvinistic pig.
  • it will increase n marry tradition will finish very soon.peoples of USA live together without marry-no children will know their real father-39 percent Englishman don't know about their father nowadays.5
  • I have over a hundred good friends who are great men, most are married with kids. It probably depends on the circles one travels in.
  • This just sounds like a sneaky way to have a pop at the men today.. ever considered that its due to the fact that women are acting more and more like men everyday, thus sending us gay.
  • I dare you to say there are no "real men" in the US anymore around a bunch of Iraq/Afghanistan veterans. : )
  • What's your definition of a 'real man'? I bet it's any man that'll be a puppet to a woman's irrational needs and goals....Did you ever think about the career driven women that don't want to be a housewife with their youth? I was a real man, I just didn't have a real woman and got screwed over and taken advantage of.
  • Perhaps people think that if your going to live till seventy it makes a good idea to wait and get married when they're more mature.
  • Its do to more with women going to college and putting their education first, instead of marriage. Real men are still out here, they just have to play the waiting game.
  • They were left back in the '70s by their femenist Mommas.
  • I think it just marks a change in society. In the old days, women did not have as much opportunities. Basically you married or stayed at home with your parents. As times have changed, women's opportunities have increased so females are no longer dependent on a male to make it in life. Therefore, women do not have to get married unless they truly want to.
  • Well, i think the majority of men in the US are preasured/raised/taught to get as much "tail" as they can. it is becoming more and more socialy acceptable for a guy to fuck and run. i am NOT saying this is in ANY way ok. its sleezy, low and wrong. But somthing you can't ignore is some womens willingnes to let those men make them a "notch on the belt" if a woman is sworn off men/is tired of dating and being hurt because she can't say no to a sexy guy with swagger and muscles, (even if hes an asshole)they have no one to blame but themselves. i see fault on both sides.
  • I truly think it comes to maturity in women. It's interesting to me that so many women after graduating college in their late 20's still act so god damn immature. These immature women always want to have "fun" drink, get drunk etc. I'm a 30 yr old male and did the college parting, drinking and all and then when I graduated college and hit my mid 20's that college parting always getting drunk kind of went away and now like to social drink. Women explain to us grown up men what you're definition of "fun" is after graduating college? So many women in their late 20's and even early 30's say like let's go have "fun". Yes there is fun but yet there is reality and the "real world" where we have to have jobs, work, make money. It's like these immature women don't see reality and think they can just spend money like there is no tomorrow and it's like they don't fucking get they have to grow the fuck up and realize they are not in college and need to get a fucking life. The party days are over!!! Social drinking after college is awesome but the college party days after college are over. But I see it all the time now in women that are in their late 20's that don't grow the fuck up and think they are still in their college world and can't get into the "real world reality". These late 20 yr old women they act so stuck up and don't seem to get that college is over, money does not grow on trees, they have to get a job but yet have fun socially not the immature drunk college days. I really think men grow up a lot faster when they graduate college because they realize college is over and it's time to grow up and get into reality, get a job, start to make a living, get married and have a family. Women mature a lot later in life after college I think they start to mature in their mid to late 30's. Then women in their late 20's early 30's bitch and moan and still want this "fun" and they just don't get that there is work, jobs and one has to make money to go out and going out every single weekend is way too expensive. I also find it really interesting that in a hard economy women still think that oh they are so safe with their job and oh I'll will always make money and it's the men that are going to be laid off. Well women are getting a HUGE WAKE UP CALL and realizing that it's not just men and it'a anyone men and women that are being laid off and having a hell of a time finding jobs.

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