Good question. I don't think there is an anwer though... (If there is, I too am interested in it people!). The only thing I can say for sure is that time is a healer. Just hang in there.

It is really a subjective thing. If it is an abusive relationship or a one sided love affair, you should realize that your love is better shared with someone who cares for you as they should so that they deserve your love.

there is no way.. not that i have found.. they will always remain in your heart

Learn to hate them? :)

Think of all the negative and bad things they have ever done to you. Good luck, once cupid hits you with the arrow you are doomed.

you cant

If it is even close to the reason I am thinking it is......... only time will make you see and then you will be able to move on.

This is a good question..... I am wondering the same think I wanna break up with my B/F cause he isn't treating me right, But the only problem is, is that i love him, i sit and think about all the things I am putting up with and I tell myself that it really isn't worth it, I could be happier on my own, Time is the healier and if you keep yourself busy then before you know it your over him/her

Yes, you can. But unless you're prone to amnesia, you won't ever forget someone you once loved.

People can tell you to think neagtive thoughts about them, exclude them from your life all together, or train yourseld to hate them, but the truth is you cant choose who you love. Your love decides if you love someone or not. Now dont get me wrong you can try and not think about them as much so it doesnt hurt so bad, but when the time comes that you do think about them, its gonna hurt that much more!! So my advice is just let things happen as their supposed too. Take your time and surround yourself with lots of great friends and just be around people that you love and that love you back. I hope that helped!!

Try not to think about them,or find someone else,

Unfortunately, it has to fade away.

you have to be away from them for long while. then you will very slowly loose your thoughts of them. but you have to allow yourself to mourn the reality of the situation and not to hate them or love them. pretty soon you will be over them. ...

god, id give anything to know the answer to this one!

You really don't nor do you want to.You move on if necessary. But love (hold onto that).

I once was heartbroken badly! But then after grieving and taking another look at what I was missing, it seemed I was more broken over "the thought of what could've been" and not what actually was. Sure, it was great while it lasted but could it have ever really worked out? No way. The idea was nice but realistically a disaster in the long run.

stay away from them

I don't know if it's possible tbh. People who say 'time heals all wounds' or 'you'll get over it in a while' I think have never been in love, either that or they don't love as deeply as the rest of us. I've found that over the years I've began to think of him less. It's kind of a catch 22 situation though because although I want this, it also scares the hell out of me that I am slowly forgetting him. Maybe one day he'll walk past me in the street and I won't even recognise him. I like to think I've moved 'forward' with my life. We are on seperate paths that can never cross again, at least no more than momentarily. Although we are both under the same sun we have to live our own lives and I must find other, new ways to be happy and feel complete. Maybe someday I will find someone who I can care about wholeheartedly again and who will not turn out to be a (for lack of a better word) Jerk. Untill then I just have to try to enjoy the little things in life. I've accepted the fact that part of me may always love that person, worry about him, miss him. But I do not need him, I can be strong on my own and I will be happy again.

Get to know them better ;))

find a new person to love .... or better yet get a dog

I wish I could help you there.. Sorry, Hipnotic! I'm gonna read through the comments and see if I can find any answers myself:-)

I'll probably be the oldest person to answer your question. You can't. When I was 15 I met a guy 17 in high school. We became engaged and planned to marry. My father forbide it. I've been married for 41 nearly 42 years to someone else. This is my second marriage. He has been married 3 times and is now single. He is 65 and I'm 63. We are still in love. We talk and e-mail often. No matter what I do or how hard I try, "I can't stop loving you" (Our song). Sad to say, we still wait for a time we can finally be together. Even as I type this I weep for the lost years. The bottom line is, you never get over it. You only get used to it. Good luck.+5