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  • i prefer my mates to be upfront so i know where i am with them. no point asking someones opinion if they always agree and kiss your behind. i think you were right and he will see it soon.
  • Honesty without tact can be considered brutal or offensive, unless your relationship with the person is typically blunt - and there's nothing wrong with that.
  • Allways be Honest, weither or not it's Reciprocated is There problem. Stand tall with Direct Honesty!
  • truth is always the best policy but lots of people dont like to hear it and sometimes it is still best to not say anything if you dont have anything nice to say. guess it depends on who you are dealing with.
  • It isn't necessarily what you say, it is how you say it, and the tone you use, that it becomes offensive, insensitive and rude. Some things are better left unsaid. So did that make him, happy you are his friend, or did he get mad at you, for going off on someone he cares for? I bet he was happy he has been spending time, with his girlfriend, that is what boyfriends do.
  • My opinion is you better take a long look in the mirror, before you call someone a b^tch .... Just keepin it real.
  • There are general distinctions for honesty and brute honesty. Brute honesty has it's value because it can be a strong motivator for someone, such as in a tough love situation. This wasn't tough love, since there was no love there. It was carelessness, without any regard for the potential to offend someone unnecessarily. Using brute honesty to make what would otherwise be an excellent point (as in this case) compromises your chances of actually being listened to. So you have to ask yourself: Do I really want to be heard so that I can see my friend a little more often, or do I prefer to use this person in order to get my feelings out and feel better?
  • What exactly did you say, "I haven't seen you in a while because of your new snobby bitch g/f," or "I haven't seen you in a while because I feel uncomfortable around your new g/f"?
  • hey if he's your friend and you feel comfortable calling his g/f a snobby bitch (he's totally going to tell her that you said that) then it wasnt too harsh
  • If hes your friend then he will know You were just being honest.:-)+
  • Honesty is still the best policy, Lisa. I'd rather be called brutal, than stroke the ego of people.
  • What did you want to accomplish by saying that, and what did you actually accomplish?
  • Well i think that the fact that she found a bitch as you say may disturb you ( you are a bit in love for this man or you just care about him ? ) but sadly he will have the last word and make the decision.
  • There is never any good reason to be insensitive and rude to someone, friend or coworker. There are always other ways to tell someone something unpleasant. There was no reason to be brutal. why hit someone with a sledge and knock them out cold when a tactful but honest explanation will enable him to hear what you say.
  • I believe there are two sides to every story...sometimes even three! Maybe there was a good reason for the girlfriend to be the way she is. I would imagine he already knows what prevented him from seeing you so there really is no need to spell it out for him. The fact that he knows exactly how you feel about his girlfriend may make him feel awkward and uncomfortable...if he decides to stay with his girlfriend, he will distance himself from you again to avoid conflict. Men generally don't like conflicts when dealing with women.
  • If you called her a snobby bitch, that did lack tact and was too brutal. It would have been fine if you had simply said it was nice to see him since you didn't see him much anymore. If he had asked why you don't see him as much anymore then you could have said that you're a bit put off by his girlfriend. That is still being honest without being rude.
  • I wasn't there so I couldn't say. Not being able to draw on the vibe in the air when this conversation took place. I will share the definition from dictionary.com: brutal: –adjective 1. savage; cruel; inhuman: a brutal attack on the village. 2. crude; coarse: brutal language. 3. harsh; ferocious: brutal criticism; brutal weather. 4. taxing, demanding, or exhausting: They're having a brutal time making ends meet. 5. irrational; unreasoning. 6. of or pertaining to lower animals.
  • Here's what I think, Lisa..unless he asked you directly why you've been scarce, I wouldn't have brought it up. What's the point? I also probably wouldn't have called her a snobby bitch. I would have said something like "I'm uncomfortabe around her..our personalities clash" and let it go at that. "Snobby bitch" is pretty harsh I think. Just my opinion, m'dear. Happy Thursday! :) ((hugs))

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