ANSWERS: 6
  • well you can say. (yours son's name) invited you to his birthday party. then its up to her if she goes
  • A little "food for thought" comes to mind: Everybody, Somebody, Anybody & Nobody Everybody knew there was a job to be done. Somebody could have done it. In fact, Anybody could have done it. BUT, Nobody did it. Can you guess what didn’t happen? It just didn’t get done. IF the thought hasn't occurred to you, she might not even realize what she's doing or how many people she hurts. Perhaps it's time someone spoke with her. Since you're the closest person to her, perhaps it should be you who tells her. If you have siblings, maybe you should do it as a group. Explain to her how offensive it is to you and the members of your family (and maybe other members of the family and HER friends). Tell her in a nice way, until she is more considerate of others' feelings, she won't be invited or included in any of YOUR family's activities. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Because you asked. Some personal observations. "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"
  • Would your son miss her if she wasn't there? If not I wouldn't invite her, but you should let her know how mad and hurt you are. Maybe she doesn't know, maybe she thinks you are over it by now. So, how are ya? My little one was asking about yours today. I'll call you Thursday.
  • speaking from experience, I am going through something similar with my brother. There were many hurt feelings years ago and no one spoke up. This has only made the wounds deeper. If there is any advice that I can offer it is to take care of this matter ASAP. Get together and talk it out. If she does not want to take care of the relationship, it is your sons birthday and you don't want any tension on such a happy day, so don't feel bad about not inviting her if you have done everything in your power to try and heal the relationship.
  • I always think to myself, if the person I am mad with dies, is there anything I have left unsaid or undone. Is my side of the street clean. Do i have any regrets, etc.
  • Hi Lynette! I don't like posting two answers for the same Q, but this "Comment" wouldn't post. After the farm event is over, using your computer, put your thoughts in a visible format. Keep reviewing those thoughts until they are in a logical order. THEN put those thoughts in the form of Qs. When you put your thoughts in the form of Qs, you NEVER have to say any more than what that Q wants you to say. AND you already know the answer to the Q. Ask your sister to lunch - in the privacy of your home OR in a public place such as a restaurant. You can begin each Q with a statement such as "I'm not sure if you know this, but you . . . Did you know you do that?" When you ask a Q, you keep your mouth shut until you get an answer to that Q. You'll discover THE MOST DEAFENING sound in the world is the sound iof silence! Very Truly Yours, Ron

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