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  • I lost my father after a long battle with cancer in March of 1991. I know we didn't see eye to eye on everything (he was very old-fashioned, a bit of a chauvinist and...*shudders*...a Republican!), but my dad always had great stories to tell, had a twisted sense of humor and loved to make people laugh. He passed away 10 days before my 28th birthday....it felt like the end of the world. I still miss him terribly.
  • Panicked, since I'm disabled and I must live with him. Who else do I have to turn to?
  • Not alot of time to feel anything. I was with he was with me when I arrived I was with him when he departed as it should have been. But he raised me that it is okay to cry for a minute then get to things that needed dealt with. I went about arranging the funeral taking care of his last wishes so to speak and said my goodbye, that was then this is now and the now me feels alittle lost and would give anything for one more day to talk to him :)
  • I would be devasted. We still have the bond from when I was a little girl, but he was pretty much an absent father. Now grown with children of my own, he is the same way with them. I would feel awful if he died still acting like that. What a pointless loss, when it could have been so much better.
  • Meh. I don't even know if he is still alive. I haven't seen him in almost 30 years nor heard from him in over 20, though as far as I know the restraining order is still in effect.
  • My father passed away when on October 31, 1979. He had spent nearly 3 months in & out of the hospital and lost his battle with Cancer. I was only 9 when it happened. I'll never to this day forget my parents calling my 4 brothers and my older sister & I downstairs to tell us the news. I felt like my father wanted to say goodbye to all of of kids (7 to be exact) but knowing that my little sister was only 5 she wouldn't know what death meant, God I wish I didn't either. I took it SO hard and here it is 29 years later and I still cry at that memory. I miss him ever so dearly, I always felt like I was cheated out of having him in my life for such a short time.
  • I felt physical and emotional pain. My head was pounding for almost 24 hours after I received the call at work that he passed away. I would say I was depressed for at least 6 months after he passed away. Even though I knew he had little time left, he died suddenly. I felt a little cheated that I didn't get to spend time with him before he died. He was released from the hospital on a Friday and he died Monday night. His doctor said he had about 3 months to live. I felt that part of my history was lost. There were so many questions I wanted to ask him that only he could answer. I felt especially bad for my mother and my daughter.
  • I would feel awful. He's way too young!
  • uh, relieved is what describes it. His last two years were hell on earth for him and everyone around him, I don't wish it on my worse enemy.
  • It was kinda like when you were a kid and your dad went away and you didn't think he was coming back. Only this time he went away and i knew he was never coming home, was the worst day of my life. Was 1995, he was 80.
  • at first i missed him... but now i realize he watches my every move... freaks me out
  • Hysterically sad, surreally numb, and incredibly lonely, depressed and guilty (in that order).
  • As far as I know my father is not dead but when he does die, I doubt I'll know. I'd feel like I'd feel for any stranger, I don't like death. It scares me
  • I was absolutely devastated! I was seven when he died due to a brain haemorrhage! I cried pretty much every waking hour for a week. For seven or eight years, if someone asked about my dad I would want to cry. I missed him so much, I pretended he was still alive, and I would talk with him and tell him about my problems. One of the worst experiences I've had in my life. Since having my children I've prayed that God won't let me die until they are all grown up. I dread thinking about if they had to go through what I went through.
  • I'd feel nothing, as I doubt I'd find out about it -- for all I know, he could be dead right now.
  • Dad isnt to well at the moment and we know the time is slowly approaching - it kills me to see him as he has but I think i'll be devestated if he died. He has done so much for me and I love him so much.. I miss him already as I know I dont have him for much longer.. I cry most days and try and stay happy when I'm with him.. But I dont look forward to the time we spend togehter as it just brings it all closer. I wish I could buy back some time with him.. and not feel so sad at the thought of losing him.
  • i dont want to think about it
  • So far in my 70-1/2 years, that was the saddest day of my life. He was 54 and it was unexpected. He fell asleep one day, as was usual..he worked nights and always took a nap in the afternoon. He never woke up. It took me months to accept it..I'd see families with their dads and I'd get unreasonably angry..how ridiculous is that? But I resented everyone for a long time. I still miss him and he died in 1960.:)
  • I dont want to think about it.. Its gonna tear me apart...
  • It was a mixture of feelings. He had had a heart attack and was due to have bypass surgery, but never made it that far. So, all the gamut of emotions went round inside me: anger, sadness, blame, but mostly anger. Why did it happen? Why did he leave us? etc I remember standing beside his body and feeling angry at him. But I got over that. IT was just grief talking. I miss him a lot.
  • I couldnt care less if he dropped dead tomorrow,he is a evil,nasty man and needless to say i wont attending his funeral.
  • I had a scare with one of my parents (my mam )she had a heart attack and passed away in the lift of a hospital but the doctors managed to re-sussate her about two years and that was so scary, frighting and upsetting... As I am closer to my dad I would have to say it would take a lot to get over it if I ever would.... I would visit him everyday I'd miss him so much!
  • I think for me I would actually feel really quite sad. My father and I get on but we also clash very much and I have not told him for a very long time that I love him. In fact I can not remember the last time I did. Dad will be 69 in November. I had better think about changing things.
  • He abandoned me 15 years ago the day before my 6th birthday so I really wouldn't care.
  • Don't think I will care that much...
  • I feel sad, angry, lost all rolled up in one. My Dad and I were most always were great friends, there was a short time when I was a teen and we butted heads, then as the yrs went by we grew so close. He was always there for me no matter what, even if I had done wrong I still knew he was behind me. The last 5 yrs of his life we seemed to grow even closer, I called him every day at 6:00pm no matter where I was, middle of Wal-mart, on vacation etc. Then this last Dec. 2007 he began to get ill, didn't know it was as bad as it turned out to be till Jan. 6, 08 at 5:00 am I got the call that he had taken his own life, its 7 months later now and I still miss him so bad, wonder when the pain is going to easy up. When a person commits suicide you always wonder did you miss something.....
  • shocked, because it was sudden and swift.
  • My father and I were never close, we'd not seen each other for a few years nor had we spoken, and I'd even left England to go abroad and not told him, so when I heard he'd died last December, it was nothing more than a piece of news to me. This may sound cold, but that's the truth.
  • I wouldn't feel no kinda way, i MIGHT go to the funeral, but chances are....I won't. To me he's already dead!
  • My Dad died of a massive heart attack back in 1970, He was 62. I don't remember how I felt back then I had too many things I had to do with his business and also my employment 600 miles away. Today, there are many times I wish I could talk to him and get his advice then there are those times when I am sure he would not be too happy with some of the things I have done or do. (Not drugs...I wouldn't do drugs ever...I don't even like to take anything a doctor wants to perscribe.)
  • I honestly dont think I'd care. I have nothing to do with him, and thats the way I like it
  • Well it will be 10 years this november since my father passed away so, honestly it is the most crushing thing for a 12year old to go though. When all you have is a short 12 years of memories, and when you get older and your mother remarries begins to rip all what you had brought your father up to be in your memories is gone you know nothing about him but negitivity. Its still hard to accept even after 10yrs.
  • I try not to think about it and could not even begin to tell you until it happens.
  • Sad and Angry because he is selfish for leaving me behind ;O as for my mom... she said if you die and we get money from ur insurance then go ahead LOL
  • I was very confused, but I was 9 at the time and couldn't quite wrap my head around it. He was the biggest and strongest, nothing should have been able to happen to him.
  • I was in shock and then totally devastated. I hadn't seen him in a couple of years (they had a move and we had a move and hadn't been able to work out a visit). Although he died 5 years ago, I still get sad when I hear "You are My Sunshine." That was one of my father's favorite songs and he sang it a lot. He used to laugh a lot, and I've forgotten the sound of his laughter. I miss him so much!
  • My dad died last year, and I felt ripped off. My parents divorced when I was 3, and he wasn't around much when I was growing up. He saw us maybe once a year or so. We talked on the phone occasionally, and saw each other around once a year or so after I grew up. He always told us he loved us, but he didn't feel as though he deserved to see us that much, since his alcoholism tore our family apart, and he couldn't pay child support for a long time. He quit drinking as soon as my mom threw him out and stayed sober for his remaining 29 years, and had paid off all the support he owed. I last saw him 3 months before he died. Aside from the ovewhelming sadness, I felt ripped off from the possibility of ever having a close relationship with him, ripped off from all those wasted years. I am just thankful that I got that last chance to spend a little time with him, he told me he was proud of the woman I had become and told me he loved me. I told him I loved him before I left, and then I never saw him again.
  • I was devastated. I still miss him, eight years later.
  • I'll think it's sad how he worked so hard to only have it taken away, but i'll remember that he did what he loved and took pride in the expense he imposed on others as a result of his bad luck, and the i'll feel that his life truly balanced out in that regard, which was the most important thing to him.
  • i don't think i could emotionally deal with something like that at this point in my life
  • My Dad's still alive ...but when he goes, I'm gonna be a hot mess. We're very close...
  • duplicate
  • It was several months coming, so it wasn't a big shocker, but at the same it was sad and upsetting. Dad and I got along very well.
  • I have said this many times before. My Dad was my hero, my "Knight in shinning armor", he could do no wrong, in my young eyes. He loved me with all his heart. I was aware of that everyday. I was only 7 when my gentle giant died. My heart broke. I did not feel. I still cry for him sometimes, even though, I'm older now than he was when he died. I miss him still:(
  • He hasnt died yet, but I would be sad, he had a hard life and that brought on the things he did in his life that messed up certains thing. He had good and bad points but then so do most people.
  • i felt numb because he was never really there..but i felt as if i lost someone i never had..and having already lost my mother i just didnt know where to turn i was partentless at 19.....however...i finally greived over it this last february almost 2 years later....
  • I was happy, jubilant, remorseful for what could have been, and relieved. Needless to say, he was not a nice person.
  • i couldn't even explain how painful it was..
  • I live in Phoenix. My folks lived in Truth or Consequences , NM. I drove there for the funeral. As I made the usual left in Deming it suddenly and without warning struck me that for the first time in nearly thirty years my father wouldn't be at the other end. I have so many questions that only he could answer...
  • Well, I did think about it and i cried myself to sleep that night. It is to prepare if ever (touch wood) that he dies, I hate the thought but with an age difference of a quarter-century, his time would have already been up once I am 70. Definitely. Unless he can live over a 100.
  • i was sad for a while but now it does not bother me anymore
  • i wasn't there that morning my father passed away,and that song keeps playing in my head every time i think of him.
  • When my father died,(when I was 9), I was scared and in disbelief. I would cry almost every night for a few years. I never thought something like that would ever happen to him. For a couple of months I felt like I was alone.
  • Like Dog Doo and was young enough to question, "WHYYYYY" without accepting any answer. I stil lmiss him but am thankful for the influence that he had on me and my sense of humor and reasoning characteristics.
  • i was pissed i felt alone devestation heart ache misery numb void
  • I didn't feel much. It never really hit me until several years later. I suppose it was too much to take in all at once for me when I was 10... who knows.
  • Relieved, and after a few months I felt free for the 1st time in my life.
  • I'd be very upset. My father's taught me a lot in my lifetime and continues to teach me a ton of things, and after all he is my father pretty much the closest guy to another guy in a guy to guy relationship if you know what I mean.
  • if my dad died..id be very upset...even though he and I arent as close as I'd like for us to be I feel like he's a missing link in my life...a void inside of me, right now I dont think he's ready to be the father that I have always yearned for him to be, granted he was around (off and on, mostly on) but even though he was there I never felt like he was really there. Its like he was there for small talk and to add to the scenery. while he's still living I can only hope that he'll mature enough to realize the seriousness of his role and pass us (my brothers and I) on whatever "knowledge" he possesses. when he dies it'll only be then that I know all ties to that side of my family will be severed because there is no other way for me to learn them. people take things as small as medical history for granted but its so much more important when you dont know. I believe you cant move forward if you dont know where you came from, and I plan to continue to make my own history.
  • Sad, upset, and relieved.
  • Simply devastated.
  • I was numb when it first happened, and I was a little kid. A few years later, it hit me hard and I felt the emotions I didn't feel when he did die. He had been in the hospital for a long time when did pass away, so when my mother got me from school I actually knew what had happened before she told me. I was mentally preparing myself for it already. Of course it is devastating when one of your parents pass away. You just keep them alive in your memories, and keep their spirit with you in your heart.
  • devastatingly sad...he died of a heart attack in his sleep unexpectedly at 42....we were closer to him than our mother...but i hurt worse for my little brother..he was 12....
  • How did I feel? I worshipped that man. The evening of the visitation I was so stressed that I felt like I was going to pass out. Right before his funeral I went into the bathroom and threw up. That's how I felt.
  • I felt terrible!!! I was with him in his last moments though, so I was glad about that!!! I miss him so much!!!!!!
  • I just felt empty and desolate.
  • I would be distraught. I won't ever get over it. I really am attached to my father; we're very close.
  • Like a part had been ripped out of me.
  • *shrug* Probably everything. Maybe nothing. Probably numb, angry, then sad but not depressed.
  • I felt awful when my father died. I dont think the feeling even overcame me for a while it was just unimaginable, the person that meant so much to me and raised me throughout my whole life died. My mother passed away when i was an infant so he was the only parent i had. Eventually over time i got over the fact that he passed away and i started to feel better. I hope this information helped. - Dr. Wilmer
  • My dad just got diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer in December of 2008. I still can't believe it. And I don't think knowing it is coming will make it feel any better. My thoughts are with the people who have already lost their fathers, or are in the same position as I am. It would be so hard to lose a parent... I don't really want to experience it... but hey, everyone dies eventually... right?
  • My father passed away last sunday on 09/20/09. I feel like a bus just hit me. I am glad to say that the last thing I said to him was, "Goodnight dad; I love you.". It is extremely hard to accept the fact he is gone. I am having horrible trouble in school right now. But I am planning to get some help before its too late. I made him his last meal(even though the cancer was making it hard for him to eat). He stopped taking chemo treatments because the doctors told him the cancer had stopped reacting to it. Even though I find it hard that he's not gonna be here to help me with my homework, or help me with some problems with people in school, I will try my hardest to accept the fact that hes gone. I may not see him with my eyes, but he will always be in my heart. Everything I do from here on out I will try my hardest on and think of it as doing it for him. R.I.P. Ronald Nater-Rodriguez { June 1, 1946 - September 20, 2009 }
  • well i don't think i would care have not interacted with him and i have no need to!!!!!!
  • I would bust out the moon walk, oh yeah, but he was an abusive nasty piece of work who didnt drink which i think makes it worse but anyway yeah i would be happy.
  • Ask me again in a week or two - he is in hospital at the moment
  • I think I would be rather sad if my papoo dies.
  • My realtionship with my father isn't there but I though about it and I would be very sad besuce we may not have a realtionship he still my dad and I do love him and one day I hope to make peac with him be for he goes

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