Would you want to know if your s/o cheated on you?
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mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 56
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Of course, but I know she wouldn't. I won't for even if I did, I would end up calling her Roselynn and that would be the end of that!
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Yes. But I have no s/o so I guess I have no worries, unless I cheat on myself...LOL!!!
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no because it has ruined my life completely. there is recovery after seeing that.
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Yes I would have wanted to know , it would have meant we were living a lie.
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My wife said she would kill me so i couldn't do it again
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yes ofcourse then i could do his head in hehe
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naaa ignorance is bliss :)
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only if there's a remote possibility that it might affect our relationship, her satisfaction in our relationship, or if there were any possibility that i might contract some type of communicable disease. so, probably, yes.
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Hell yes.
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Not really. It wouldn't change anything.
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Yep, and I'd want his name and number so I could call him to come pick her up and get her out of my house and away from our son.
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Absolutely...I'm not one who can tolerate liars and cheaters. I had an ex who did, and that's why they are an "ex."
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Of course! I don't care who with, but i would want to be informed so I can kick him the hell out.
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Depends. If the act is interfering with the marriage in any way, then yes. If the act is continual and there is no desire to reconcile, then yes. If the act was isolated, and my wife regretted her actions and decided she did wrong and had absolutely NO intentions of doing it again, then probably NOT... as long as it didn't interfere with the marriage. I feel this way because she would be concealing it as a means of protecting ME and OUR marriage. HOWEVER, I would prefer to find out from my spouse before anyone else told me. Please don't get me wrong here, if you've seen any of my comments elsewhere on cheating: cheating is dishonorable and I do NOT condone it or condone covering it up. However, after her having cheated, my wife would have to deal with the effects of dishonor as a personal thing. Meaning I believe she would feel as dirty about it as I would, if not more. Her punishing herself may be far worse than anything I or anyone else could do. I would not make that worse for her if she chose not to reveal it to me.
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YES..so i can say good bye don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
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Yes :)
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Well, its always good to know. But, ethier knowing now or later it will probably happen again so you will find out someday.
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My choice is continue living a lie or learn the truth and move on? Truth trumps lies always! :) Someone who cheats is disrespectful, disloyal, dishonorable, a liar and a coward. Who in his/her right mind wants to pair up with that? :)
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Not at all.
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I think every person has the right to make a informed choice.. I would want to know EVERYTHING - then make my choice!
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I'd rather know. I like to face up to stuff. Well, perhaps "like" is the wrong word, but you know what I mean...
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id hate to be the lazt to know ha!
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heck yeah I'd want to know, I don't know what she might get and bring home to me. It's on ething to have a person cheat on you, it's another to catch an STD from it too!
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I would rather know. I'd be so upset if I found out through someone else or years later.
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I'd rather know so I can end it, and move on.
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I can deal with just about anything but lying. I'd rather know.
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I would want to know, so I can leave and check myself for diseases.
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When it happened to me, I thought I wanted to know, until he told me. Then I realized that as long as I didn't know, I could pretend it wasn't real. After learning the truth, things just were never the same. My marriage ended because of cheating, and I wish sometimes I had never had it confirmed. I always knew when it happened, but secretly denied it to myself... Having it confirmed killed me emotionally.
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Know, so I can chop his dick off Bobbit style.
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i would rather not be with someone who cheats on me or even considers it. it's just not healthy i just came out of a horrible infidelity laden relationship. it hurt so much that to get back at him i put myself in really unsafe situations - things i would never do in a *normal* relationship or life
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I'd rather be kept in the dark and I hope she would have enough respect for me not to make it obvious
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I would like to know so I can decide if a three some would be fun. My first wife just told me flat out. One guy knocked her up, so she had an abortion. Then she fell in love with a woman activist. so we devorced. she was a wild child. she died of cervical cancer. probably got from some john's dick.
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I would rather know. That way I would know to break up with them.
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I would rather know, this is much more honest.
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I'd rather know as well. The worst thing about being lied to, is knowing you weren't worth the truth.
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If he is having sex with someone else, then he is putting my health and, possibly, my life at risk, so I would rather know. I would prefer that he tell me himself so that we can determine if there is anything left in the relationship and if trust can be earned again. If you find out from other sources, it really undermines any remorse they may show and is not a step toward regaining trust the way being up front would be.
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I'm kinda twisted. I would want to know so that way i can get rid of the loser, but then again, i kinda don't want to know unless i actually see it myself. It's one of those things you have to see to beleive. I hate it when other people try to tell you what to do in your relationship
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I would want to know so I can leave his ass, I don't want to get any STD's.
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I would want to know so I could say bye
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I would rather know about it so I can firstly decide if I want stick around for an STD and secondly decide if I want anything more to do with the guy and his stinking wayward dick.
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if he was having an affair, i would want to know. if he harmlessly flirted or kissed someone, i would rather not know.
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either way you gonna look like a fool.
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I would want to know! I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.
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id want to know. if shes cheating on me with another girl hey theres some possibilities there but if its with a guy i would go and butcher him with an axe. possibly the girl too.
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I'd want to know - there too many things I could end up getting as a result. I'm at a point in my relationship that I really couldn't careless about the affair - but would be awfully p.o'd about getting some disease.
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I would rather know. Life with your head in the sand does not work.
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KNOW! How do you deal with the unknown for better or for worse? You can't.
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God. I can't imagine. Of course, if you know you have to end it. If you don't know, and will never find out, is that better? Hard question. I was with one man that told me he had cheated, but told me years after we broke up. I don't think I could stay with a cheater. But hearing all this scares me and makes me think, maybe I am better off alone.
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I would definately want to know.
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I would want to know so that I could move on and find someone who wants me and only me.
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Yes, I would want to know so I could dump their ass! >:C If you're going to have an affair, don't! Just break up with your significant other... Or, I guess, if they're open-minded...
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Being in a Marrage that is somewhat open I would want to meet the Man and have the option to at least Watch so i can make sure he's gettin her good in all the right places!
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I'd rather know, so I can dump them and find someone better.
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I would want to know however if this is past tense and my b/f cheated on my in the past and has been faithful since, Id rather NOT know. I have been in that situation. I was told that in the first few months of my current relationship, my fiance was unfaithful. To this day I do not know the truth about it, but i KNOW for certain he hasnt been in at least 3 years. In a situation like that, I wish I was never told because I found myself watching him like a hawk and always worrying about it and since I found out two years after it "happened", I chose to stay with him.
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If it was with a girl yes, if it was with a guy no
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Definately !!!! I do not want a disease and I want to live in truth not deception....I should be given the opportunity to decide if the rest of my life is worth the risk that the other person took for me.....
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