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  • i hate the excuse that boys use, "it's natural." well that's what separates the boys from the men. it's not natural, especially when you tell your bf/gf that another person is hot or sexy and its obvious you're lusting over them. it's just how much discipline a person has and how much he or she sincerely respects their significant other. if they give such an excuse, then it means they're not prepared for responsibility and they lack consideration. it's really sad that this kind of disrespect, is considered "natural" or normal in today's society. people who believe in this mentality should stay single because they're obviously not prepared for a committed relationship.
  • i feel it's to compare the two. is it right? no, but when your girl wins.....you feel good about the situation
  • It's their nature..they can't help it..men are gonna look no matter what..lol :)
  • Dang, how many of these threads are we going to have to go through.... I'll post a link to my answer, which is firm, and I'm sticking to, every single time this topic comes up: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3246948
  • I like to look at pretty ladies, for sure, and do it while I'm with my wife. I'll even comment to her who is cute or whatever. Oh, BTW, that lady who won Hell's Kitchen, Christina, is TOTALLY hot!!!! Ikes!!! Really, though, be happy that despite him looking at a lot of other pretty gals, he likes to be with you the best.
  • I think they are free to look at any female as long as they don't act on it. As long as he knows I'm doing the same thing! You can look, but not touch.
  • because we're the opposite sex and we enjoy looking at woman.
  • we are just looking not touching or asking for her number
  • Well, let me point this out once and for all: girls look too. I see hot people, and I look and enjoy the sight. And I don't have testicles growing anywhere. There is nothing wrong with looking and finding other people attractive. It doesn't mean they don't find you attractive -- after all, it's you they have sex with and kiss and so on, not the random girls in the street (I assume); it's just that you being attractive doesn't make other girls any less so, so they look at them. Haven't you ever looked at a guy and thought, "mmm, he's hot/sexy/cute/[whatever adjective you might use]"?
  • Why do YOU look at other guys if you have a boyfriend? Everyone is entitled to look and flirt. It doesn't mean anything.
  • Women are emotional, and once they've got their heart set on a guy, are no longer interested (that much) in looking at other guys. (Tell that to George Clooney, Brad Pitt, and the like!) Women WILL look, but tend to be more covert about it. Guys, on the other hand, ARE visual, and when they see something (anything, actually) that's ... interesting, they will LOOK. They DO appreciate the female form more than women seem to appreciate the male form. They tend not to be much more overt. Believe me, though... If a man doesn't "look" (read ogle) at women, when he's with his s/o, he's STILL looking. He's just learned to do it as covertly as women. For example, I have great peripheral vision, can glance quickly, and that "photograph" stays in my mind long enough for me to process it. ;-)
  • variety is the spice of life.
  • It is actually a proven fact that is natural instinct for a man to look at women that they think is attractive. My boyfriend does it and most of the male population does it. I'm not bothered by it because he always compliments me on the way I look and makes me feel good about myself. I can understand unless they over do it.
  • asking us not to look at beautiful women is like us asking you not to listen to music with a singer with a beautiful voice. get over your petty jealousy... unless he asking for their contact information?
  • They cant help it.. as long as a glance is all that happens its no big deal to me.
  • It is a natural human reaction, nothing to get worked up about.
  • All men do it, and some women do it too. i still look at other guys when im with my bf! What if your walking down the street and shee a whole bunch of sexy guys with no shirts on? I look and enjoy ;)
  • Why cant women go past a shoe store or a womens clothing store without looking.....same principle
  • They're programmed to. Don't blame them, blame the programmer.
  • They accidentally left their Blinders at home. Wouldnt it be cool, if when we started dating a guy, they couldnt see any other females? LOL.
  • Why do girls like you feel the need to be so possessive over their boyfriends?
  • You know... I wondered this also. We men are even mysteries to ourselves sometimes, at least I am. Sometimes you just can't help it. Some women just have to face that just because you have a boyfriend, it doesn't mean he only thinks you are attractive, sometimes it's hard to not look.
  • Sometimes, they simply get bored of the girl their with (sexually). They see other women and think... that could have been mine. Plus we have to look, especially if they are hotter than who we're with. There's no denying we could always go with a hotter girl.
  • Interesting question, because we know we shouldnt look, but it is honestly difficult to not look. There is something happening deep down genetically that makes us men 'hunt' for women - I honestly belive that. When a pretty lady walks past and we cannot turn and look, it actually hurts, there is a physical discomfort in not being able to 'stalk the prey'. It is difficult for me to explain. That being said, I never look when I am with my women because it is disrespectful to her. However, every once in a while, something goes walking past and I do a double-take and then get busted, but I am not doing it on purpose, it is just a natural reaction to 'stalk' a woman. The second I do it I know I am in the shit, but by then it is too late! Also, sometimes guys are looking at a car or something else and if there is a woman anywhere in the vicinity then the woman says "why are you looking at her!!", but meanwhile the guy wasnt. Women are often overly sensitive to these things and we get busted for a lot of things we do not do also. Hope that helps, it is the honest truth. Its not us on purpose, its our bloody genetics!
  • Long as there is a 'look' and no touchy, why not? Beauty is to be admired, and looked upon, so ladies and gents,, look upon beauty admire and go home to your s/o, have a good time and enjoy !!!!!
  • There is an instinctive reaction in guys to look. That said, if you have made it clear that you feel it is disrespectful and hurtful when they do it in your presence, then there is one of three reasons they would continue to do so, as I see it. One is that they are weak willed. This could be a problem if their inability to control their impulses extends into temptations other than looking. Another is that they are lacking respect for you or deliberately showing disrespect. The third is that they have bought into the mentality that it's natural to look (a.k.a. natural = okay) and that you'll get over it. Or they believe that you'll stop caring about it if you trust them. They really do not comprehend that it is a matter of respect. I would suggest that you sit him down and ask him why he still does it when he knows that it hurts you and/or make you feel he has no respect for you. How he answers will help you solve the puzzle of why he is still looking in your presence and then you can decide how you wish to proceed.
  • We are hunters and hunters have to look to know their surroundings.
  • We all don't do that. I never did. Glance maybe:) Now I stare them down:)

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