What have you learned from having your heart broken?
by 
mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 53
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That Shakespeare was wrong. It is better to have never loved at all.
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U can never fully trust a person !!
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That I will not always be pretty. Having my heart broken I didn't eat almost at all for two years and kind of hurt by body.
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That long-distance is a lie.
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I've learned that women are better liars than some men are. I had a Brain Aneurysm 8 years ago, nearly died, and while in the hospital for a month, my girlfriend I'd had for 5 years at that time left me on an emergency room gurney and screwed around with an old boyfriend of hers for a couple of weeks, yet lied about it. Ilearned that if she's willing to lie over trivial questions, she certainly was willing to lie over something as serious as infidelity. By the way, 5 years ago, while having shoulder replacement surgery, she took off again and hooked up with a guy she'd only met the week before! We're still together, although I'd like to find a woman who is actually honest, for once! She (girlfriend) continues to lie to me.
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I've learned to never let THAT happen again.
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That there is such a thing as trusting too much! I'm much more cautious now.
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Never let anyone close to me again, my ex walked out on me 2 days b4 i got results from a brain scan for "space" - nooone else was involved - he just couldnt take the pressure - he did the same thing when we was going to buy a flat. Next time if i am stupid enpugh to let anyone close, first signs of trouble/weakness im walking!
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my heart gets fixed quicker and easier each time it gets broken.
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Yes although it took awhile! :P Never be so trusting!
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That 90% of it was my own fault. I chose to put up with being hurt all the time, I chose to ignore the red flags at the beginning of the relationship, and I chose to stay. Kind of stupid, wasn't it! At that time, I was convinced that none of it was my fault. What a ridiculous statement.
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Well! Luckily I am not so lucky as many people are whose hearts get broken. Even then i learned from such people that heart is quite a delicate thing and it should be handled with care otherwise it can also break. But i know many successful people who got their hearts broken and they attribute this very reason for their success. So I would suggest others to learn from their heart-break to be more strong emotionally and also become successful in life.
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That I can love. I also learned that my heart can heal and love again. :D
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Dont give your heart our so easily, and make sure if its the right person to give it to. But dont be afraid to take that chance just because youre are shy, you may not get it again.
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That I'd never experienced something so strong in my entire life...and I'm not sure it so much heals...but it learns to carry on.
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I have learned alot. But what comes to mind first is that you need to trust your gut, not be nieve (sp), and not to completely trust anyone.
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How to be a real bastard to someone I once loved.
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i learned what love really was and that what i felt for that person wasn't love but liking him passionately. i learned not to be naive or ignorant and not to fall so hard for someone too early. i learned not to say I love you until i'm ready and not to go too fast. i learned that people can be cruel and i deserve better.
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I learned not to put all my eggs in one basket, meaning continue doing the things I loved doing even after falling in love. I learned that it isnt all about me. I learned that time heals all and one must move on. just make sure you learned from what happened or you will just do it again and get your heart broken again.
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Not to wear my heart on my sleeve. Most people thrive on seeing others hurt.
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That you can survive a broken heart even if you think you cannot.
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That relationships are work and commitment. That it's important to know yourself and your own basic needs. That compromise and bowing to another's desires is sometimes necessary. That being respectful and kind to your mate is one of the most important things you can do. That keeping the lines of constant communication open is vital. That it's important to spend time together doing things you both love. That it's equally important to share the burden of chores that must be done. That being in love was worth it. That I can actually learn from my mistakes and move on and be a better person the next time around.
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To see the red flag signs and take them into consideration, to not trust anyone so easily, because they can be very clever liars, and to realize if that person really loves me.
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On a humorous note... quickfix was around when my heart was broken... that was a looong time back....
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1) Hold back alittle for disappointment 2) Trust no-one completely 3) Take heed to all warning signs 4) Ignore nothing 5) This too shall pass
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I have learned that the world is full of opportunists and predators, and if you don't protect your heart they will rip it to shreds. But if you aren't willing to take a chance, your only other option is to be alone.
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There are very legit reasons why people live alone.
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"Well maybe theres a God above, But all I have ever learned from love, was how to shoot somebody who out drew ya." Jeff buckley/ Leonard Cohen.
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I learned that two old sayings are very true: 1. "It is better to have loved and lost - than to never have loved at all." 2. "Time heals all wounds."
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That it is better to love and to lost, than to never have loved at all.
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I've learned that communication and trust are key
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Sometimes it seems like I've learnt nothing at all. Pretty dumb of me, hmm?
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I learn love is not sex -sex is sex love is complicating risky and it hurts, but it makes you alive and makes you smarter as well as bolder. With more experience and clearer understanding I learn love teaches me what life is all about.
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That it will heal.
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I've learned that with time the pain subsides. However, you have to move on, for the pain will stay as long as you continue to milk your pain. You have to find something to distract you, and put your energy there otherwise you will always be pulled back into the pain of remembering during those times or hours you used to spend together.
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That my life is over, ruined, and that I'm a joke. I should have followed my gut, my will, and just set out on my own...
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That I am very strong when I need to be.
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Time heals all wounds.... and to pay attention more attention to the character of who you date.
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Spackle doesn't work..you are gonna need duct tape to fix it :)
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I have learned that I was defining my self worth by being in a relationship or by being wanted, which is unhealthy. I learned that I was ignoring or justifying red flags to enable me to force fit a relationship, just to be in one. I have also learned that lonliness is not going to kill me just make me sad, and that I am able to fill the time more productively than jump back on the horse before the saddle's on so to speak. I would now rather wait for the right fit than any fit, though it is really hard sometimes to be alone.
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I traded it in for an unbreakable heart.
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I learned that I was human and the more it got broke the less it hurt.
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Don't ever put your all into a relationship and always have other women on the side...just incase.
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be alot more selective who I give it out oo, and stomp the crud out of the one that tries to hurt it.
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keep tryin
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Nothing apparently, he's hanging out at my apartment right now...eventually I will tell him to go away.
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well at the end i learnt not to trust anyone at all, and never give too too much cause you would get thrown away, and never say i love you until you are ready for the consequences honestly most of all i wont love again (as a man speaking ) too much to bear!
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yes I learned that people in general want people to be around them....they'll say or do anything to make this happen...and eventually these lies catch up to them...they lose themselves along the way...they'll say you've changed them but in reality they put up a front..a lie and everything you have loved about them was simply a lie...you learn to realize how to notice these things and that you cannot make someone what you want them to be at least not for the long run even if its them trying to make believe there perfect for you
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that i will never ever ever trust anyone with my heart ever again until i really know for sure 10000000 gazillion % that they really love , honor , and respect me.
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Better to stay alone than letting that happen to me again.
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That it actually heals, that there are actually other people in the world with whom I can be happy, and that I actually can live without her.
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i've learned what NOT to do.
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That it's difficult for (my) heart to heal.
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