Adoption: Should the birth father have a say?
by 
That one lady
ANSWERS: 21
-
Yes :-)
-
depends entirely on the situation
-
Yes. Even though some don't deserve the consideration.
-
Only if he wants to raise the child by him self, but no he shouldn't have the right to force the mother too...That he should have no say so in.
-
Only if he's willing to step up and take responsibility himself. There's a difference between a father and a sperm donor.
-
wow...good question :) it would be nice for the 2 people that got themselves into a situation that they didn't want to be in~could work together on an agreeable solution; i know that it usually doesn't work that way but what if the birth father's family wanted the child....then they would actually be able to be raised by family; i think both parties should have their "say" but the girl is the one that decides what happens to her body and the child during and after pregnancy......after-all, she has to see it through one way or the other~the birth father doesn't.
-
I think if the birth father can prove that he is a fit parent that he should be able to raise the child.
-
yes... i did and i think i made a mistake because i wonder to this day how great it could have been but i killed it
-
No.
-
What a touchy question! But that's what answerbag is for! :) I think yes, because the man should own up and be responsible. Not considering his opinion at all almost makes him exempt of any decision-making that resulted from his actions. That doesn't seem like something we ought to encourage - 'have sex and let the woman worry and decide whatever she wants.' AND I think no, because practically speaking, the woman is the one who was pregnant, and went through labor and cravings and mood swings...so perhaps the father shouldn't have a say. I WISH that the parents could have equal say, but, often when these situations arise, the couple have issues of their own that they cannot get past to decide what is best for the child together.
-
I think the father should have the same rights as the mother. Just as a woman who decides to give birth and father pays child support, it should be able to go both ways. The child is just as much his as hers. Yeah it's her body but she couldn't have got pregnant alone.
-
Absolutely. He is as much a parent as she is. And we wonder why there are so many dead-beat dads... maybe if we as a society presumed that they were equally responsible and had equal rights they WOULD be equally responsible and exercise those rights.
-
Yes, he should. As far as I'm concerned if she agrees to do the deed with him she's agreed to sharing the resposability of the act with him. It's just as much his child as it is her's even if it is her body that carries the child and he should have the same rights as she does. I have a feeling if this was the case there'd be far fewer unplanned pregnacies, abortions, and dead beat dads in this world. After all as it stands now why should he care about using a condom if he doesn't have to bear the responsability of deciding what happens afterwards? And I'm pretty sure the lack of rights is why some guys are so hostile to stepping up to the plate. Especially when she can force him to be a parent against his will. On a personal note I know a guy who had two of the senerios happen to him. One girl aborted his child and told him afterwards. The other one put the baby up for adoption and he had no choice, but to sign the papers giving up his rights because he was under 18. To this day both incidents tear him up.
-
I think 'Yes' unless he fathered the child by means of sexual assault.
-
I think in most cases he should take custody if the mother is wanting to relinquish the child.
-
absolutely. I dont think a woman should just give up a baby that the birth father is willing to provide for.
-
I believe so, the child is just as much his than it is hers... It's not like a miracle happened and she gave birth to a perfect clone of herself...
-
Only prior to the adoption. If you're willing to give something you must be willing to give away the rights related to it.
-
Nope. it's his fault for ditching his kid, now it's the new parent's child.
-
Mother and Father should both have a say.
-
If he has been a "responsible mate" paid for any of the delivery or expenses of birth. In short if he was more than a magician with a good disappearing act, then yes, he should have a SAY BUT not a difinitive veto. Like it or not, it is the woman who carries the child for nine months. it is she who has to make sacrifices due to pregnancy, and it is she, (most often) who will have to chase daddy for child support for the next 18 years! Did you know the hospital can not ruin unmarried dad's credit rating if the bills are not paid... only mom's.
RELATED QUESTIONS
Copyright 2023, Wired Ivy, LLC