ANSWERS: 29
  • Family values changed, roles have changed, being independent is more accepted, if not encouraged. How much effort people, in general, are willing to put into a relationship has changed. Most people have a tendency, nowadays, to replace something broken instead of fix it because it's much easier and less expensive and it always seems more exciting to get something new...or someone, in this case, new.
  • Everyone is horny and there is way to many ways to meet people.People are to worried about money and most are selfish.Nothing seems to ever work and people need to do things and stick together.
  • i think it's the fact the humans now care most about making themselves happy first. honestly.
  • I think people communicate their feelings more openly now, I don't think they are settling for what they have rather than what makes them happy. People didn't discuss relationship issues back then like they are discussed now, dishonesty, domestic violence, verbal abuse, these are all things that people are much more aware that are now known as unacceptable. People are aware that they have a right to happiness and that each person can have a change of heart. I think it's just awareness. Before all these things were accepted and just something we didn't talk about.
  • It's not The Waltons any more, i dont think ppl have good role models - and it is easy to get divorced. Nobody really takes those vows seriously .
  • I blame (not fully) Hollywood releasing this unattainable ideal of what a marriage and love should be. They depict marriage as two people forever romantic, in love and passionate. It just doesn't happen that way. Relationships will change. People will change. The trick is to know this and accept it.
  • people aren't supressing their feelings anymore instead of staying in dead end relationships, they are pursuing happiness
  • some people just dont seem to want to work at things like they used to.
  • Money problems, cheating on each other, its easy to walk away instead of working their problems out together.
  • I value marriage incredibly. I know now that while I married at too young of an age, I was more than ready and prepared for that level in a relationship. And my husband at the time led me to believe he harbored the same feelings. About a year into our marriage, we were successful in obtaining a planned pregnancy and had a beautiful baby girl. Once she was born, and he realized how tough being a parent really is, he changed his manner completely. He stopped talking to me, and we drifted apart by me being the only one to try and make things work, even marriage counseling. I went for a divorce because even though people may think partners don't try and make marriage work anymore, I know that I did, and you can't convince someone to be on the same page if they do not want to be. Thankfully, we are better friends and he's doing his part in helping raise our child, and she is very happy! I do admit, the majority do not look at marriage the same way anymore because of how easy it is to say "i do" and then 5 days later have a change of heart. It is incredible how easy it is to divorce. The next time for me will be real and last till death. No doubt in my mind.
  • In my opinion, a large factor would be people like this: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2977453
  • Selfishness and pride. People think too much of themselves and their needs. If something doesn't go their way, they move on and think the perfect person is still out there but that isn't what perfect is. Perfect it adjusting to each other and learning to give to each other. People don't want to be too giving now, only taking and getting what they feel they deserve for something that happened bad in the past or even because they think they are too good. They no longer are willing to compromise or they see it as a weakness.
  • I blame abortion.
  • I think: Many years ago couples had to depend on each other - today both people can have jobs, incomes, and lives outside of each other so therefore they need each other less - on a farm for example both husband and wife had jobs without the other the household would fail
  • A lot of things. The population boom, the financial independence of women, the networking of the entire global community and the removal of proximity due to advances in transportational technology have all contributed to the erosion of the institution of marriage. Population boom means more people in the world. In a world where there are less people, there is less temptation. That explains that. Financial dependence on the male breadwinner of the household served as an extra "motivation" for women of yester years to stay with their husbands, despite whatever strife they had to endure. The entire global community is networked. Anyone can contact anyone anywhere in the world at any time. This has a profound impact on the human condition, especially in the arena of monogamy. Transportation technology has made it to where anyone can reach any destination in the world. Thus, proximity is no longer an issue. In the past, proximity played a huge role in mate selection, usually a limiting one. With a limitless pool of individuals to select from, remaining with one is seemingly impossible. We are also a society that is obsessed with instant gratification. We want gratification, physical, emotional or otherwise, and we want it instantly. The second gratification is deprived i.e. an emotional down-cycle in a marriage, we are conditioned to remove the source of this dissatisfaction immediately. Enduring tough times is not only no longer necessary, it is unfathomable. Movies and music have taught us that we should be happy ALL the time if we are truly meant to be together. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is my belief that a major paradigm shift in our approach to marriage is in order. We cannot attempt to force an archaic system that was designed when social factors were drastically different than they are today on a society that is not hospitable for its ancient parameters. We have evolved, and so our institutions must as well.
  • I would have to say Economic Situations.. The economy has a huge impact on couples these days being some want more than others and tend to go in over their head and cant come out of it financially.. they purchase home they cant afford, buy cars they can afford, and just keep mortgaging, and taking loans out to try to make it easier, and they tend to argue over finances, and then divorce. Its crazy..
  • Women are able to support themselves and their kids..they don't need to stay around. In the "good old days" the little woman had no idea about finances or how much wealth the family enjoyed.."the man" was in charge of everything.."the little woman" stayed in the house and did things that women are supposed to do. Being self-sufficient and earning a good living changed all that! :)
  • I believe it is directly related to the degradation of manners, morals and principals over the past 40 years yo...
  • There are many reasons: 1. they do not try to make their marriage work. one little upset and thats it. 2. divorce is too easy and they know it. 3. parents except their child back home too easily, if a problem developes. 4. marrying each other too soon, without really getting to know each other, first. 5. after the thrill of sex has diminished, its divorce city and now onto the next victim. 6. the lack of respect. i cannot say enough about these four words. if a couple has respect for each other, everything else will fall into place, including love. marriage is built on a foundation of love and respect. 7. the use of illegal drugs. enough said here. 8. then, there are the cheaters and immorality. 9. no religion in the marriage. Since my wife and i have been married 42 years to each other, i can give the above answer based on experience and my daughter being divorced five times. Marriage is like a second job. you have to work at it, if you want it to work.
  • 2nd Answer.............. Greed Its all about the money and me, not you.
  • Selfishness. How many people truly care about their partners anymore? It doesn't seem like many do. It seems like many people flatter each other just so they can have sex. So, it's not surprising to me that so many people cheat. I have personally noticed that a large number of people let their guards down too easily and end up falling for someone else who isn't their partner. The grass looks greener on the other side. When they're unhappy in their marriage, there are people who will get what they "need" elsewhere. Is it right? No. Not at all. Divorce is also legal now and it's easier to get than it was before. Society as a whole does not look down on it anymore. There are many people who aren't careful who they marry, or when they do get married, they are quick to blame the other person, instead of themselves. How many married couples who get divorced actually forgive each other anyway? Probably not many. I guess it's more important for them to please themselves than it is to be there for the person they claimed to love the most. I know I'm not making divorce sound pretty, and I don't know why I should, but I wanted to say that I just hate the whole idea of divorce ... not the people involved in it.
  • women can more easily leave a marriage gone sour. back in the days women were much more dependent on their husbands and the idea of a nuclear family was embraced, now the family has been restructured and people aren't settling.
  • I would say selfishness. People today forget about the for better or worse part of their vows and only want to deal with the better. When the worse comes along it's alot easier to just bail than to really sit down and truly work on it.
  • People don't think of marriage as the partnership that it is and go into it not realizing that it requires work. People think it should be a Disney fairy tail. They think that it should just be "happily ever after". There is a reasons that the story stops at the wedding. Thats what I think, my aunt believes it is a direct result of the fact that home heating is more wide spread.
  • money and no trust between s/o
  • What has changed is that it is now socially acceptable for people to get divorced. Look at our society now and what is acceptable compared to decades ago. Divorce - Was so frowned upon that you were often shunned by the people who you called friends because of the social implications of being friends with someone who was divorced. Faith - peoples faith in their choice or relgion has become watered down today, They often hear the advice given to them but they do not listen. Teen pregnancy - Decades ago an unmarried girl getting pregnant was shamed and often outcast by her family or forced to marry the father. (neither were correct Imo) Money - One income used to be able to provide for a family but with the onset of WWII women entered the workplace while me went away to fight. The economy soared when their were two incomes in the household but then so did the prices of goods and services. Now families have to have two incomes to survive most often. This now places children to be raised by daycare's and baby sitters instead of the parents. Discipline/Respect - People are so worried about what everyone else thinks they are often affraid to discipline their children or they cant be disciplined because its a daycare raising them. What you end up with are a generation of adults who never had to be held accountable for there actions and have no respect for their elders. Take a few of those things into account and what you end up with is a person who has no clue what it means to love and care for someone or why/how to be married. They have been taught that when things get tough drop it and get a new one like changing the channel when they dont like a television show.
  • i personally think the economy has a big part in it. jobs, prices of personal items like food, gas.., etc. it puts a strain on couples like never before. couplles have to face a whole different side of issues these days that it's pretty much hard to not argue about the the should be "simple" things.
  • I think it has a lot to do with a newer and much more widely accepted view that it's OK not to stay trapped in abusuve relationships, physical or otherwise. A divorced woman was looked down on but today it is much more socially acceptable so there isn't a social taboo to end the marriage. As far as men go, the above applies to them also.
  • Many gays are coming out now! And they used to be married just for the sake of appearances and to quell any question about their being gay! Gay people should not be permitted to marry straight people!

Copyright 2023, Wired Ivy, LLC

Answerbag | Terms of Service | Privacy Policy