ANSWERS: 92
  • Your wedding, your choice.
  • You have the right to wear anything you want, or nothing if you choose to.
  • Of course you can if you want too!!!Why not??No laws have a nice wedding i expect to see a pic of you in your lovely white dress :):) Congrats
  • Yes. It's your wedding, you wear whatever you like : ) Nobody else's business.
  • You absolutely can wear whatever you want. It's YOUR wedding. The days when only a virgin bride can wear white is long over.
  • Yes, you wear white if you want.
  • Who told you that you can't wear white? Wear what you want!
  • You wear white and don't let anyone change your mind. It's your day and you decide.
  • its youre day to shine so wear what you want who cares of what others think is it thier wedding or youres?:)
  • You go, girl! Congratulations
  • I think you can go down the wearing a clown suit. You should be able to do what ever you want. I have never been a traditionalist. One of the big mega stars got married in a sari. It's your day do what YOU want.
  • "To defy the laws of tradition is a crusade only of the brave." - Les Claypool Go for it. It's your wedding, to hell with what everyone else thinks or says.
  • Who would tell you that??!!?? You can wear jeans and a T-shirt if you want. Wear your white, and own it!
  • Anyone can wear white. I've seen lovely brides for the second time and even older ladies after losing their longtime husband remarry in white or off white. Wear what will make you feel beautiful and special. It's your day.
  • Wear white, and hold your head up doing it. I would venture to guess the person telling you that you can't isn't pure white either.
  • What do you mean you can't wear white? I've never seen a bride who wears all black, thats sad.
  • wear white, and high top converse shoes to piss them off even more.
  • It's your day, your wedding and your party! Wear white.
  • Who says you "can't" wear white and what, if any, reason did they give?
  • Yes. Without any question.
  • its your day. do what you want! to hell with old sexist traditions anyway
  • its your day, your life, your memories and you should do what ever will make you and you hubby to be happy. If its white that make your heart content so be it. Its nobody business but you, husband to be. There's always going to be that person in life that feels they need to tell you that this is what you should do or not do, but in the end you look in your heart and always know what right and go with that. I wish you many years of happiness on your wedding day
  • I think you should be able to wear white if you want to. You're the bride and it's your day. :)
  • Darlin'! You can wear white if you want to. It's usually only prudish biddies that say anything like that in the first place. It was a tradition for the self righteous to not allow white dresses on non virginal or 2d weddings, anyway.
  • Who told you this? Don`t listen and wear whatever you want.
  • Puhleese! Of course you can. If you're here in the USA I know it is not against the law to wear white on your wedding day or any other day of the year. That was an unkind remark if someone told you that.
  • As you said, it's your wedding..if you want to wear white then you go right ahead. Congrats and best wishes on your future wedding :)
  • yes, it's your wedding - WEAR WHITE!
  • I lived with my (now) husband before we were married, so I suppose I technically "shouldn't" have worn white. I ended up choosing a dress that was white and crimson (found here: http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=2039e191-e45b-4b44-bba1-6a2ac07f9712&categoryID=8b186130-0d63-4e3c-ac5c-aea0d9566e1c&pg=1 ), but only because it's what I WANTED. I debated about it in pure white and ivory. It's YOUR wedding. Therefore, you can choose to wear what you want, serve what you want (if at all!), play whatever music you want, or incorporate whatever traditions you choose. Congratulations. Have fun! :)
  • Of course! It's your day, wear what you please. Tell any nay-sayers that they can make rules at their OWN wedding.
  • You wear whatever you want and a pox on anyone that tells you otherwise! Good lord, does the righteous judgement never end?
  • Believe it or not, there are some people in the world who still believe in that kind of old fashion nonsense. It is no longer the case that "white" means anything, other than a nice tradition. Any new bride who wants to can wear white. You do not need the permission of anyone else to choose what you will wear.
  • You can wear white if you want. I'm assuming the person said that because of the ancient tradition that no one follows anymore.
  • it's definitely your wedding..it should be any way you would like it.. Enjoy!!
  • You can wear white with a black streak going down the center, or white with black poke-a-dots, or a black and white checkered dress.
  • It's your wedding. Dress however you want. White tradition, red or black. Aqua is pretty too. Never let anyone tell you what you can wear to YOUR wedding. If you want white, wear it with pride. I'm sure you will be beautiful whatever color you pick. Just make sure you picked the right man. Everything else is secondary.
  • Contrary to popular belief, white is not always the best choice anyway. It tends to wash out your complexion and can be quite harsh. Look into an eggshell, ivory or other off white dress--not because you "can't" wear white (baloney!), but because the other shades are more flattering and you will look even more beautiful. Congrats!!!!
  • honey, my son was 3 months old when i got married, so i wore red! it is YOUR wedding... do whatever the heck you want. it is your day, you are the princess, go for it.
  • If I were you and I wanted to wear white for my own wedding, I would most certainly. I have a friend who asked me this kind of question when she was getting married. She was 6 months pregnant and wore white.
  • when i was getting married all i heard was 'you can't' and 'you have to' and i maintained the whole time that it would be mine and my husbands way, and we had the best day ever and everyone realised that we knew best for us. you do what makes you both happy. this is no one elses day but yours, make it the way you want it and it will be the best ever.
  • You are right: it is YOUR wedding, don't let anyone else tell you what you can or can't do. If they don't like it, they don't have to come to the wedding!
  • You are so right, And you can wear white. And you'll be a beautiful sight, And people raining on your right, Well, They aren't too bright.
  • You are absolutley right. It is your wedding, plan it how you like. It is one of the most important moments in your life, besides having children, and as such it should be the way you want it to be. Don't let others (except for your spouse) try to push in their opinions. Only you and the person you are marrying are to be included in what you want. OF course, I could have no idea waht I'm talking about, I mean, I'm only a 16 year old guy. who is definiteley not close to geting married.
  • so go naked
  • you can wear what ever you want, its youre wedding nobody elses. I am wearing white to mine.
  • I think that wearing white now means "I'm the bride" instead of the traditional meaning. It's weird when brides don't wear white!
  • You clearly asked this question looking for support for doing it your way. And you got a lot of that. Everyone is telling you to have it your way. Let me ask you a question: what is a wedding for? It really doesn't matter what color you wear. Wear whatever you want. I used to have a job that caused me to be silently involved in a lot of weddings. I learned one thing from watching hundreds of weddings. People who treated their wedding as a chance to be king and queen for a day, to have everything they wanted, to spend as much money as they wanted, to be as selfish as they wanted, were often fighting already before they got to the reception. No matter how lovely they were, the day was often ugly. I often wondered if they would make it to their first anniversary before they divorced. People who treated their wedding as a chance to involve the greater community in their love and happiness, who learned to discuss and compromise through the process, who wanted to give more than they got, who were selfless, had a wonderful day on the way to a happy marriage. The prize of the wedding day is a marriage, not a perfect dress and perfect stage set. So in the final analysis, wear what you want to wear. But before you make that decision, you might ask yourself a few questions. Who is giving you that input? How important are they to you? How important is this to them? Will it damage your relationship permanently if you don't at least consider their feelings? If it damages your relationship, will you mind? If it is just some busybody, and you don't care, wear white. If it is your mom, you love her, and you don't want something between you, is ivory so bad? Remember too - a big "traditional" wedding really isn't. It was the wedding of royalty and the uberwealthy until pretty recently. And what we consider a "traditional" wedding is really a marketing ploy by the wedding industry. They tell you it is traditional to make you think you have to have it. The truly "traditional" wedding was more like a quiet service in church, your pastor's parlor or the justice of the peace office in your Sunday best. Most people didn't have money to buy a new dress for something like that until very recently. If you were really lucky, you might have the money to buy a piece of fabric to make a new Sunday dress. My mother-in-law was married in her army uniform at the close of WWII. But she had sixty happy years of marriage and seven happy and successful kids.
  • you should wear what you want. and if someone don't like,so what?, it's your day not theirs.
  • White wedding gowns were started in the Victorian Era and symbolized "purity of HEART" and the innocence of childhood. (females were much younger when they married back then!) Only wealthy families could afford a dress in white that could be damaged so easily so it was a STATUS color, not one of purity of the woman who was wearing it. Besides, when Queen Victoria wore her white dress, it was thought that she was trying to boost LACE sales! LATER, people attached the pure-virgin meaning to it I think to either show off their daughter's sheltered life or to ruin the day of the woman who may not have been "untouched". ("can you believe she had the nerve to wear white?) If this is your first wedding, wear white if you want! Anyone who tries to make you feel guilty, doesn't have your happiness at heart.
  • I will be a virgin bride and for that reason alone I am considering wearing a purple gown!
  • Its your wedding. You should be able to wear scuba gear if that's what you want. Your call, offended moral traditionalists can just shush, right?
  • I agree with Chiggle, but I would advise against the scuba gear. It would make things a pain for all the bridesmaids.
  • Yeah, I'll let you. By the time I learnt of that tradition, I was too used to the idea that brides wore white. I couldn't imagine them in any other colour. (It just wouldn't seem right!) :)
  • If anyone complains then just tell them that "That tradition only applies to virgins." XP
  • I was in the situation and wore white. It's your wedding, your memories, your decision. Best of luck to you!
  • Yes wear what you want. I wore white at my 2nd wedding and I didn't care what people thought. I was not going to wear a beige dress they look dirty to me.
  • You can wear what you like, its you're day. Whoever has said to you, you can't wear white they would be definately of my wedding invites list.
  • there are no more rules about what you can and can't do at a wedding. it's your wedding and you can do what you want to do. unless someone else is paying and wants some input then you may have to compromise, but otherwise you where whatever you want to wear.
  • i just got married two weeks ago and i have two teenagers and it is my second marriage i wore a cream dress,i felt amazing and u should make the day your own and enjoy yourself,its about you and your husband and no one else good luck have a fab day be happyx
  • It's your special day, wear what you want! I wore white at my second wedding. . .
  • Wear what you want, just wear something appropriate to your "theme".
  • in my eyes..you can wear a burlap sack if you want..it's your wedding...if they don't like it they dont have to come
  • STOP THE WEDDING!!! You can't wear white! It's after labor day! I'm kidding. Silly tradition -- wear whatever you feel beautiful in. It's your day, and if white is what's gonna make you feel special, why on earth would you wear any other colour? :D
  • Wear whatever color you want. I don't see that many "traditional" weddings anymore. They all have a new age twist. Plus, they all wore white, and I know they weren't all virgins. Hell, one was pregnant.
  • Who ever told you that. You stand up for yourself now. Wear the most beautiful white dress you can find. Its your princess day.
  • Girl, You wear whatever you want!! It's your day, ENJOY!!
  • Of course you can wear white, it's your day yo!...
  • I'm planning mine too.. I'm the furthest from a virgin you could get.. and my happy hiney is wearing white anyway! Wear what you want. :)
  • I think you should wear white, red, blue, green, purple, black..........whatever the heck you want. Whoever told you "can't" wear white does not have to attend should they choose not to. Do what you want. Congratulations too by the way.
  • You can wear what you want and if they don't like it they dont have to be there it is your day and not theres
  • Abso-tutely yo...
  • Yeah, who's to know!!
  • For sure ... you can wear whatever color you want to wear and don't be letting anyone tell you otherwise :))
  • Sweatie, wear lime green if you want to, it's YOUR day, don't let anyone tell you what to do!
  • First of all I don't know who told you, you can't wear white because it's your wedding and you have the right to dress like a clown if that's what you choose. Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can not have at your wedding. It's your day so do what you want!!
  • It's YOUR day!!! I wore white at my second wedding ; ) You have the right to wear what you wish to wear.
  • WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON. HERE YOU WEAR WHITE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED. YOU WEAR WHAT YOU WANT, ITS YOUR PRIVELEGE. HAVE A NICE DAY. MIKE
  • Its your day no one should tell you what you can and can't do. Fire them or tell them they can't come if they want to be that way
  • It is YOUR wedding ... YOU decide what YOU wear .. and .. NO BODY else !
  • you can invite who you want and wear what you want. You can wear polka dots if you want. It's your wedding and your day. Have a lovely time...
  • you should wear whatever you want its your day, plus its not the 1950's anymore
  • Wear what you want and have a lovely wedding!
  • It's a free world, person has the right to wear whatever he or she wants or that's what I like to believe :),
  • who cares about tradition lol we are in america...well i am anyway haha... im jk.. but honestly its YOUR day, wear any color you want, if someone doesnt like it they dont have to go to the wedding.
  • You can wear what ever color you want to your wedding :) its your wedding.
  • YOUR WEDDING, YOUR CHOICE.
  • YOU can wear whatever color that YOU want .... It IS YOUR wedding ... +5
  • wear anything but black
  • Wear what you like. It is your day...yours and your intended that is! It is up to those around you to set aside their differences and opinions of what they feel is right and support you. If they choose not act like supportive, intelligent and caring adults I'd say they are free not to attend.
  • I assume you were told that because you had sex before marriage. So did I, and I wore white.
  • Definitely wear whatever you want

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