• Before you DR me for this question, read my profile. I've been part of an inter-racial family for most of my life. Growing up, my step-father is black. Then I married a beautiful Korean woman and have 2 beautiful daughters who are half black. Yes, I have experienced racism. Everything from remarks to looks to discrimination. I've experienced the looks of disapproving people and felt the heat of the hatred those looks contained. I've experienced the unkind remarks from ignorant people and felt the pain those remarks caused. I've seen discrimination both in relation to my family composition and by virtue that I'm a "white mutt". It's strange and sad.
  • i'm not part of an interracial family by birth. both my parents are of mexican descent, but my dad remarried a white woman. if anything that was awkward because i remember while learning spanish in school not to speak spanish to my dad in front of her because it made her feel bad. and i remember getting dirty looks from her side of the family while going on family holidays. i remember her nephew calling my sister a stupid mexican and my 2 sisters and i jumped on him (we were kids still). most of her family was kind but there were some i swear that were right out of the KKK. it was an odd kind of "racism" i guess, but it's still considered racism in my opinion
  • Don't feel bad dude! Semo semo happened to me.., beautiful Korean wife, beautiful baby girl, beautiful baby boy, and all we get is looks of envy from everyone! Even our own dear families shunned us, on both sides. But perhaps because of it we grew to love and respect and rely on each other, and as it stands, we didn't need anyone but each other to be happy! and that we are!
  • Yes and Yes! My own experiences with racism have not been nearly as hard to handle as having it happen to my sons when they were growing up. But it's made them the strong, savvy, and kind men they are today. Oh .. and GOOD looking!!
  • I have a black father and white mother, and my mom tells me stories about when I was a baby and she'd take me out in the carriage (this is nearly thirty years ago) and people would coo over me... and then ask if I was adopted. White lady, brown baby. Jeez. I work in a toy store and I NEVER assume anything about the adult accompanying a child. I always say "your grownup". But if you have to assume, assume parent. Anything else is REALLY obnoxious, I think. I personally never thought much of it until I started school, when I began getting rude questions from other kids like "What are you?" Some slightly less rude (but not by much) would ask "Where are you from?" and then get angry when I say where I was born (here), or "Are you Spanish/Mexican/Dominican/Puerto Rican/[enter Hispanic nationality here]?" and then disbelieve me when they got a denial. Some geniuses eventually went to "What color are you?" but by then I was just aggravated and automatically delivering smart-ass answers. "Green plaid, can't you tell?" or {looking critically at my arm} "A kind of cinnamon-brown, I think. Tannish." And it would infuriate some people to find out that I was American. Born in America. To one American parent and one Canadian parent. If I wanted to be REALLY snarky I'd tell them the name of the town and the hospital. My favorite was answering "What are you?" with "A person" or "Species Homo sapiens sapiens, gender female. Why?" What hurt was when these same kids, once they got the real explanation behind my lovely complexion, would bombard me with questions as to whether or not I or my parents had "jungle fever" (this was before I knew what that term MEANT, let alone where it was from) and whether or not I was "confused". Apparently people of mixed parentage ought to be confused about who and what they are. Frankly, that idea was the only thing that ever confused ME.
  • Yes, but I wouldn't call it inter-racial, because all humans are of one race. We are multicultural. I had an Aussie mum, a New Zealand father, but was born in England. In Australia in the early 60s there was a lot of prejudice against the British migrants who were arriving in large numbers. There was a migrant hostel near us, and many of the kids came to my school. When the Aussie kids found out I was English born, I was shunned, and all but one of my friends from then on was British. We were treated shabbily. One little girl had a nervous breakdown due to the bullying. I grew up with a natural affinity to those who were on the peripheries. I learnt Indonesian and German at High School, and picked up Italian at University. I married a half-Italian, half-German Aussie boy. Have we experienced racism? You bet. We have been abused by a credit company over the phone because they were sure we were hiding someone of the same surname, even though we didn't know who the person was. I have had close relatives turn on me and say and do some awful things because Italian speakers happened to turn up while they were there and I had to conduct things bilingually. I have been treated shabbily by doctors because of my surname. And I have had to defend many people of Asian backgrounds from the taunts of racists, often receiving abuse myself for defending them. However, I stand tall. Those who did this are the sorry ones. They do not understand the richness of humanity like I do, and they do not enjoy the warmth of the many friendships I have. As Jesus said "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."
  • I do not know from which part you and she is from. That in my mind plays a roll. One of the things i have read is to get out there and enjoy life. I am still seeking the out there where it will be paradise for us with out the you know what. It also depends on your personalities. Getting out there all the time gets you used to it all and will make you both feel less sensitive. Discussing your fears in a honest way with each other also helps. What is for sure: getting through it all and still loving and respecting each other makes a couple stand out in the world of today. It is worth it.
  • Yes, I'm part Gipsy, Serb and Hungarian. Look at it this way, mixing races is the best way to get rid of racism and bigotry. Were setting an example for the rest of the world. Mixed people also have a stronger DNA strand then non mixed. Its been scientifically proven... This makes us more attractive, fit and less susceptible to illness. We are the future.
  • My dad is half german half tongan and my mum is half english half tongan, so i look like a little white tanned kid (lol. i got most of the european looks) people always assume that my mum and dad adopted me from some european country because they are both black, they were once even told by an old lady they should've left me where i came from, so i could have a proper "white" life. Why can't people just accept that my parents ARE my parents?? GAH.

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