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Nope. I dont let things have a huge effect on me. And yes, you can help it. Lol. Great question ~+~
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Yes! It sent me even more off the rails than I already was! Something I haven't and wouldn't like to ever experience again!
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Almost, but not completely
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absoloutly. i was a wreak for months which might seem a little overboard..but i was soo upset and my friend were trying to help me but it just wasn't helping. i was having problems eating and sleeping....luckily after 4 or 5 months this boy came around and helped me, he listened to me cry and cry. i love him for that and he is still around..lifting me back up every day.
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No, but my last one almost did.
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Well, since I've never broken up with anyone, no. I married the only man I ever loved.
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No, my first one was pretty bad, but I got over it fast. My second and fifth ones pretty much ruined my life though.
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Not completely. I'm a pretty big boy. All the comfort food that I eat will probably kill me quicker than anything else. I'll just sit here and listen to Neil Sedaka's "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" as I munch on a bunch of Twinkies.
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No. I had an immediate rebound that has lasted many years.
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dumb question-how many people do you see completely destroyed by a lost love? a speed-bump on the highway of life
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No. I'm still functioning.
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I wouldn't say it was.
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Almost, it took a while to get it back together, It was one of those breakups that drug on and on and on, where he kept coming back into my life instead of leaving me alone. So yes in reality it did. But i met a wonderful guy and then we broke up and met another guy and we broke up and lets just say that i am happy where i am right now in my life and would not change the experience for anything
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Yes it did. I'm fucked for life.
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No. I'm still here.
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Nope, I was destroyed before my first relationship, taught not to trust anyone and bs like that. So the relationship was doomed from the beginning. However the break up did hurt like hell. Took me 2 years to fully recover. The relationship it's self was about two years as well. But when you get over these things and move on to new ones they go better because you learned from the last.
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At the time I thought so but NO, I am still here and doing well and loved and in love, and married! :)
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Nope ...but one serious relationship surely did :-) !
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Give "me" a break.
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no i think it was my second or third one lol
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It certainly did...for about a month. Or maybe it just seemed like a month. I know I felt it was the end of the world at the time. I was so young.
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Definitely not. I was a teenager and I thought I would just die at the time, but I got over it pretty quick. Now, my first long term relationship after I divorced just about did me in. It still impacts how I deal with relationships to some degree, but it didn't destroy me.
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It did. My heart was broken when my soul mate cheated on me because he had 3 more inches but 40 less IQ points. He had an average intelligence and I an average wiener but thicker and stronger mind you. Her loss and I have the last laugh anyway. http://easyweb.easynet.co.uk/~niall/wav/daleks/Deceivd.wav
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My first one?...no...my last break up...yes.
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Long story, but my 2nd girlfriend was the all-time love of my life and the only person I really considered to be my soulmate. After we broke up, I couldn't eat or sleep much for about 6 months. Also, while we were dating (long distance) and I was away at college, she started hanging out with my little sister and they are still best friends to this day. That really complicated things. The 5th is just way too long to explain here. I'll send you an email about it sometime. :)
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I'm still here, but my first breakup did do a lot of damage. The guy thought it was the best for me. Maybe he's right, since I met a boy who loves me for me.
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It was pretty bad. The second was worse. The third...unbearable. But...we have to keep moving forward.
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I'm still here and productive... so no.Its a break UP not a break DOWN...
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it almost did ... but i know how to handle it... im stronger now...
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No. I went through the usual, "How could he have treated me that way" and "What could I have done differently" phase for a month or so, but I am the one who left and it probably saved me.
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Not at all.It needed to happen.I'm still here and doing quite well.
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nope not at all :) of course it was kind of hard, but im glad it happend cause i learned from it and now im in thee best relationship ever!!!
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Not far from it, to be honest. Thanks a lot Hallmehn...
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no for me it was the last one (3rd) that got closest. he walked out with my sons 18yr old girlfriend. to be honest though im too stubborn to let anyone destroy me.
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Me and my wife divorced several years ago..It devestated her but not me..We got back together and the tables turned - and it has a good hold of me right now..But I did let all the emotions come out..its been several weeks and although I get sad, I do not cry as much and I seem to understand it a bit better... Life always finds a way to heal itself..So yes, I feel completely destroyed, which to certain extent its not bad, because then you can bring up a NEW YOU...improved from the situation. May God Bless you
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At the time I thought so, but I got over it, replaced it with more break ups, still trucking. :)
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I'm still here living my life in the best way I can so I guess it didn't completely destroy me. :-)
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No, nor the second, it just made me wiser and more cautious :o)
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Not a bit. I'm not so sure about the other person though. They seemed obliterated after the fact.
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Thus far, nothing has "destroyed me comletely."
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For about a month yes, then I got over it, got back together with her, then I was destroyed again for another month, then I got over it again and finally learned my freaking lesson.
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it destroyed me...but i was finally able to put the pieces back together
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I have never been broken up with.
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'Completely' would be an understatement, but it's true what they say, you do get over it mostly, in time.
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yes. completely. i still have a knot in my stomach 3 months after we've broken up. i broke up with him and realized it was a mistake. now he says that hes moved on and doesnt care anymore. he said that we can never be friends and it doesnt bother him that im not in his life anymore.
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naah. there's a difference between being the dumper and the dumpee. usually, the dumper has had some time to think about it and they've mentally moved on. so, when the dumpee hears the dumpers words, their flabergast, or, at least i was, sort of. i still saw here sometimes and called and spoke with her for significantly decreasing lengths of time. i vowed that i'd never let myself get in that position again. i'm a lot slower than other people. it did take me a long time to get over her, to not automatically think, "hey, I wonder what XXXXX is doing right now?" the vacuum, eventually, was replaced. i think that it affected my grades for my first year in college.
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It destroyed me - or so I thought at the time- -But I learned from that. And wouldn't be the person that I am today if that were not to happen.
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I guess at the time it did, but looking back now...no way
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No.I'm still here...and rarely think of it.
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yes, I had a hard time doing anything.
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No...No.
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No. it actually made me stronger because what I had to deal with after the first was harder than that, and so on. Every breakup seems worse than one before it.
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No, not at all. It just... went away. I rarely remember that I was married a first time.
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my first relationship was when i was about 15 he was 2 years older than me and i loved him dearly (well thought i loved him after all i was only 15) we split because he had an ex girlfriend and she was pregnant by him and i didnt want to get into all that drama i mean at 15 what top goes with what skirt was a drama for me so that kind of thing was way too advanced for me to deal with im glad i did get out of that tho and i cherish what memories i have of those days as i think it helped me to grow up and see things from other ppls perspectives i did hear they were together and had 5 kids he went down hill and got into drug dealing and she lives off the procceeds so yey me was the best decision of my life afterall that could have been me :S
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nah, if anything it made my life a lot easier
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Yea it really did, i look back now and see how stupid i was for acting the way i did. But i was young and dumb. I went out on a drinking binge and got alcohol poisoning and was sick for4 days puking my brains out and still feeling depressed as ever. lol Moral of the story, noones ever worth getting bent out of shape over. If they dont want to be with you its their loss. Just take what youve learned and apply it to your next relationship. theres plenty of good people out there, you just gotta look in the right places. :)
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My first real one, yeah i think it did. The day i got her engagement ring that i ordered, i happened to lose my vision and became leagally blind. I call her and tell her and then the next day i get a random phone call from her while she is at college saying that after 4 years she just doesnt want to be with me anymore. I think what made it worse was that 2 weeks later she was dating someone else.
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Those who get shattered after their first breakup are just in their learning process. As far as I am concerned I have not been so lucky to go through this learning process. But those who have been through it i would like to remend them of Ulysses's my favorite line "To strive, to seek, to find but not to yield." So be a phoenix and rise again from the ashes and that too in great style.
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At that time I felt destroyed. I had no idea at that time that I would learn something from it.
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Sadly, I was 2 young 2 even care.
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Hmm, it wasn't only that one! The first second and third. All together.
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Funny you ask that. My first "serious" relationship, when I was a junior in high school, screwed me 3 ways from hell. I lost a LOT of friends during that relationship, and afterwards, lost my will to stay in school, stay in sports, and NOT do drugs..... I spiraled downwards at an extremely fast rate, and basically screwed up my life BIGTIME (effects that I'm still feeling today, 15 years later,) because of that relationship & breakup.
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YES,COZ I STILL FEEL LEFT OUT AND NO PLEASURE IN LIFE NIETHER HAVE THE GUTS TO LIVE AGAIN YU CAN SAY A TOTAL DEPRESSO
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yes and i'll never be able to give the same kind of love again
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No not breaking up sooner almost destroyed me completely.
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Nope, made me stronger and able to judge people better and know what I want in a relationship.
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Yes it did. I cried so much that I started to shake uncontrollably. I thought I would die and never be able to get past that. But I had to get over it in order to move on. Since then I have found someone else that I love and he loves me very much. We are engaged to get married also.
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Yeah, suct yo...
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That is why I think it is important for parents to support having children "Go out" at a young age. (7-8 grade) They basically just see each other at school and hang out every now and then. My first break up I was thinking "Oh damn.." Three seconds later I was wondering if the girl three seats up would go out with me.
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Well, I'm still around, so I suppose not. It did change me, however.
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no, i was sad and cried off and on for a while, but i remember feeling a lot of relief as well
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What a great question. Yes, absolutely it did. Y'all don't know my situation, and what I've been through/put myself through in life, but I can tell you after that breakup, I made some decisions, especially within that first year and a half after, that I regret to this day, and will pay for the rest of my life.
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Yes, it did... and the reasn its hurts... Because its a lesson learned... We go through relationships to prepare us for the next ones... Some people get lucky and meet the right one off the bat..
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No, it set me free.
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all break ups destroy you a little bit inside each time, but then you always find someone new to make it better. a break up is never the end of the world, even if it seems like it might be. i remember the last break up i had over a year ago, it killed me inside because i honestly loved him. i thought i would have died just crying so much each night, but then i did meet someone new. he was someone better who actually cares, and we've been together for a year now. it's all on how you look at things. if you look at a break up as the end of the world then it will be, but if you consider it a lessen learned and a new experience, then you'll grow from it and live a better life.
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At the time it made me feel like life was just horrible. I was so depressed, and cried everyday. Once you get over it and find out life is going to be ok it gets better, and then find that special someone who makes everyday ok, then you just let that be a lesson learned.
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No, but the second one did.
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I have never had a break up because my 3 crushes in my life did not reciprocate. the first 2 did it took 6 years before my 3rd crush
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Mine was just horrible. At the time, I felt exactly the way you felt. I could even boldy say I might have felt worse. At the same time, feel fortunate. You feel right now like you're never going to be loved again, because you aren't good enough for him, but you will. You're lucky because, the way I've learned from my own experience versus other's, if your very first heartbreak was extremely heart shattering, the next heartbreaks even from the most serious of relationships will be easier to get through. If your first break up wasn't all that bad, it only gets worse from there. I really wish I had someone to tell me that two years, seven months and three days ago.
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It get stressed out just thinking about it...
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No .. he taught me a lot of things. He's a fraction of my memory ...
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No, it didn't. It was never a real relationship, anyway.
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yes...i havn't been the same since. :(
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My first break up took ohhh... about 20 years! My first boyfriend was my best friend for a long time after we stopped dating... We dated for about 4 years and stayed in direct contact until just recently. I just recently ended the friendship too because I FINALLY realized that he was not good for me as a boyfriend, a friend or as a person in general.
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No, it just showed me what I DIDNT want in a relationship. A liar, a cheater and a loser. You have to keep your head up because there's always going to see someone who is going to want to make you fall.
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No. I was in 3rd grade when we started going out and we broke up in 5th grade... He always gave me his moms jewlery and we broke up because in a tornado warning we were all in the hallway and he flipped me off.. in 5th grade that was horrible.. nowadays we flip off every person we see.. lol
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My first one didnt hurt as much as my second one. And I lasted more with my first boyfriend than my second one... Two years to be exact and my second boyfriend 6 months... and let me say I cried more with that guy I only lasted 6 months than my first one. It hurts so much... to know you were just a rebound
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Yea pretty much. We dated for two years and he cheated on me with my best friend. I didn't find out until she got pregnant. Never really gotten over that one.
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It did for awhile... Before my first big dumping I had never gotten attached to a guy. He was my first love and then he broke my heart... We got back together a couple times but I couldn't be with him. The trust was gone and I couldn't feel the same.He had too much growing up to do... He continued to call and text me even though I had a boyfriend and he was well into his next relationship where he eventually got the girl pregnant. She was very much pregnant and he was still trying to call me... No! All I can say is karma is a bitch!
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Yup, we broke up a year ago and I still cant get over it or move on
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No- in fact quite the opposite, it may me even stronger!
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Obviously not because I am still here and functioning. I don't think my first breakup was the hardest, my last one was... they get worse as you get older I think.
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almost!
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My last break up definitenly did ]: I find it really hard to trust anyone into my heart again - a few weeks after breaking up with my last ex; i was talking to this guy that i was really interested in - but then later on i found out that he was taken. && right now - my first ex is back in my life but then...he has a crush on my best friend; the first time he told me he wanted to hook up with her i thought he was just kidding; but now it seems like he's serious about it.
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Not really. He was self centered, i knew what i was getting myself into.
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i was going to say yes, but then i realized i had another serious relationship before that and no that breakup didnt hurt me at all compared to the second one which totally destroyed me and even made me forget i had a breakup before that.
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Devastated...perhaps. Don't think I'd be here addressing your question were I "destroyed completely". (How is one destroyed INCOMPLETELY?) I'd be dead.
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Not at all, it was the best thing I ever did!
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no as were still good friends and he looks out for me but ill always love him still to this day
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Nope. I was glad to be rid of him.
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