ANSWERS: 21
  • It is the worst torment in the world. You just cry. Personally I feel its unfair that someone else will be with them. I personally don't know what to do. I am terrified.
  • I would carry that person's picture around with me in my wallet.
  • Depends on why you can't be with them. If it's because one of you is a minor or one of you is married or otherwise involved in a relationship or you are both the same sex and the other person is completely straight and will never see themselves being with someone of the same sex then you do your best to forget the person and move on with your life. I know it's easier said than done but better you try to put them out of your mind than risk being a homewrecker or risk either going to jail if you are the adult or the person you love going to jail for being in a relationship with a minor or subject to abuse and ridicule by the other person because you like people of the same sex. Now if those two issues aren't the factor then there really isn't anything preventing you from being with the person. Issues like race religion age differences (so long as you are both over 18) income differences ethnicities etc should never be a factor that prevents you from being with someone. If you truly love the person and they fell the same for you and you both can deal with whatever the factor is that you think is preventing you from being in a relationship together then I say to hell with the difference go for it and don't let it stop you from loving each other.
  • Cry, lament, play video games and masturbate.
  • Just get on with your life...if you love them would you want them to be sad and worried about you? NO, you want them to be happy, so do what will make them happy - cope and keep in contact, and send cards and most importantly - WRITE LETTERS, like a kind of a diary you can tell them the funny things that happened to you at work or the bad things the boss did, or whatever, and send them along. Tell them your thoughts and feelings, express yourself with the written word. They can keep these as momentos to look back on in the future...
  • let them know you love them, then go on with your life. Keep in contact. In my case, I'm going to be off to college a couple thousand miles away, and the one I love will still be here.
  • It depends on the reasons why you can't be with them. If it's because you're in jail for having committed offenses or being unfairly accused but still in jail, there's not a great deal you can do other than appeal your sentence or try for good behaviour. It also depends on whether it's them who says you can't be with them - ie they don't love you. You can't force love, you can try, but in the end it cheapens the love itself and that's not fair on you or them. Also, if you love them but can't be with them due to them being unavailable themselves - possibly in jail, or married or deceased, (I know, ridiculous sounding the first and last one) you need to consider your life, what's important to you and hopefully find a way to continue despite the pain. I'd advise counselling either way - professional would be best, however if it's not possible, talk to someone you trust. Unrequited love can be so painful to get over, but hang in there, things will get better with time and good friends to support you. Good luck. Regards, Meg
  • Accept it. Sounds like a shallow response, but in the long run that's all you can do.
  • well... it hurts a little bit... i'll live my life the way it is and look for someone new... and try to forget about him... i try to be strong
  • Keep loving them, but let them go. If it's real love, you'll love that person and will be happy for them even when they're not with you. If it's not real love, you'll forget them pretty soon.
  • Question the wisdom of continuing to love them.
  • u have to learn to accept the fact that u wont be wtih them.. it dusnt mean u cant still hold a place for them in ur heart and always remember them as the person you love. Just make sure not to mention her too much to ur next gf/bf :P.
  • "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" - Stephen Stills
  • Let it go and move on. There are too many people in this world to dwell on one.
  • If you can't be with the one you love,honey...love the one your with...do do do do do do do doo.
  • I try to never think about something like that and I myself am in that situation. All I can do in the mean time is lock my bedroom door and masturbate.
  • that's a really good question.I love this guy we been knowing each other for almost 6 years and we have never been intimate we just can't be together their is nothing you can really do.
  • i have the same problem. im just wonderin what you did in the end?
  • realize that love is not of this world.Serenity my dear Watson It is better to have loved once than two have never loved at all.
  • What I'm doing right now. Sometimes I simply despise women.
  • I know this feeling. Im currently going through it myself. This girl and i have had a thing for a while now, and i really enjoy her company. I find myself happiest when im hanging out with her, but she has a boyfriend and I dont want to ruin that. I do love her, but causing grief in someone elses life isnt something I can do. Its happened to me before and i know what thats like. Which means I get to be sad while they carry on. I ask myself why i dont just go for it, and say screw the other guy...you dont like him anyway. But in the end it wouldnt be right. Not to mention if you love someone, it means you want them to be happy, and sometimes that means they wont be with you. So i guess all you can really do is go out of your way to make that person happy, and just go about your life. It sucks. It hurts. Its lonely, but when you see that person smile because of something you did it all pays off in the end.

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