ANSWERS: 57
  • How do you know she won't cheat again? You don't. She blamed the fact that you weren't there for her faithless actions and wants to conitue the relationship with the other guy. She does not sound remorseful. This does not sound like a girl that can be trusted.
  • I doubt she will be faithfull. If she is still friends with him and your so far away she will always turn to him if shes feeling a little horny. They have a word for those kind of "friends" called "f**k buddies"
  • she actually left me for him, for a while but eventualy came back to me and now she wants it to end and come back to me. I realy love her and feel right evry time i am with her how do i go on with my life after i leave her, If i leave her. or better yet how do i get back to trusting her and make her not cheat on me.
  • If you want to be with her, be with her. Cheat if you feel like it. She will. Oh, and be sure to wear a rubber with her. No telling what she might give you!
  • dude- come on man, r u kidding me??? she gonna cheat on u, end of storry bro.
  • Tell her she has to have a threesome with you and another chick to make it up!
  • she isn't going to be faithful, move on
  • it must be all men who have answered this god - ok well i have been with my partener for 18 months and i cheated on him at the beginning cause i didnt no what i had but we got over it i havent cheated since and i love him more than anything. she obviously care or she wouldnt say anything did she tell you herself cause that on its own says it was a mistake. trust takes time she will prove to you if she is really worth it but if you love her you must at least let her try i would talk to her and say about contraception ie rapping it up to start with if you want to and this will be another good indecator to you from her reaction hope this helps Natalie
  • She'll be faithful as long as you don't ever let her sight again. Actually, I'm not entirely sure about that.
  • If her excuse for cheating is because you are "not there", then she's willing to love the one she's near. I'd put on my running shoes if I were you.
  • forget it. She's in college enjoying herself. don't hold her back. let her have her fun. And don't take her back.
  • You don't.
  • If you cannot trust her, she is not marriage material. If you are looking for fun, so what. If you are looking for a wife, did she know that. If she did...run.
  • she is not worthy to trust.
  • You don't! Once someone cheats, they have ruined the trust. You can try and trust her, but it will be hard to do and with you as young as you are, I would just call it off. She will go back to college and if her excuse was she did it because you were not there, she will do it again when you are not there.
  • She isn't faithful to you. She wants her freedom to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it. She has already shown she has no value in you or her 'friend'. Use her as she uses U. Good Luck
  • She won't. She has done proved that much.
  • AHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! man that's rich :D
  • Why do you give your love to someone who shares their love with another man?.. Leave her and find someone who's not a bimbo idiot..
  • She is a whore. Sorry man, but it sounds like she is playing you. If she wants you tell her she can have you but she has to lose him. Since shes a cheater chances are she will lie to you though, and chances are she has been with him more than you know. Time to man up and tell her if that's what she wants to go get it, because you can find better. (see... they could have been BFFs but well... she got confused and still is.)
  • You dont know but if you love her enough, you can give her a second chance. People make mistakes, the thing to learn from this...once is a mistake, twice is habitual! Anger is the biggest motivater of unforgiven mistakes, its the love we carry for people that helps the hurt fade away. Remaining friends with a fling is never a good thing cause there will always be the "what ifs"....
  • Sounds like she want s her cake and eat it. Ive been in similar situation..my relationship split up when found my g/f secretly having an online affair with a friend of mine who lives in USA (we in UK).She said she'd try again.but didnt mention anthing about cutting him off..so i said until then..up yours...its been 6 weeks now..she's still talking to him..but not me :-(
  • you dont know that; you will never know that. If a committed relationship is what you want, then move on becasue you can never trust her again, and I wouldnt encourage you to.
  • Ok if your going to stay with her, you have to tell her she cannot be friends with him, this is unacceptable. In short to answer your question, "you dont know", but you can give her a 2nd chance, but as i said you cannot allow her to be fiends with this guy she had sex with, trust me on this, this will only lead to more sex, possibly a break up with you, she would run to him. He will fill her head with alot of things if he talks to her, she has to break this off, if you are going to have any chance to repair this.
  • she wont be faithful. She is a cheating whore
  • If you want to have a lasting relationship... well that's not going to happen. Don't put yourself in that same situation. You'll only end up with the same result.
  • Sorry to say this....... But dump the cheating bitch!
  • You don't know that she will be faithful. There's a very strong possibility that she won't. So, either accept the situation for what it is or find someone who loves you enough to be faithful.
  • It sounds like you guys seem a little sexually starved. Since it's a long distance relationship, why don't you guys just have a open one instead. It's not like you're married! I say date as many as possible, after all she's not the only fish in the sea!
  • yeahh dump her no point being in a relationship if you dont love and trust each other, if my boyfriend cheated on my id tell him to get f@#ed
  • will u marry a chameleon
  • Long distance relationships never work dump her or be sex buddies
  • I wouldn't tolerate this, plenty other females you could be with who wouldn't cheat on you. The whole "You weren't there" excuse sucks, she has given in to temptation once, she is capable of doing it again....Move on!
  • she says she just wants to be friends, so u are allowed to have sex with who ever u want. but mind u it goes both ways if u think u cant handle it i wouldnt advise u too
  • You don't and she won't.
  • I like that. She makes a promise of monogamy (assuming she did) breaks the promise and then blames it on you. You are foolish unless you enjoy being played like that. She wasn't faithful; you already know the answer to your question. She and you are obviously too young for such a commitment. DTB and get out and experience some life!
  • =faithfulness is a chapter in Vaathsaayanaa's KaamaSoothra.You get all the theory. HavelokEllis gives you all the stories to learn the life facts. If Answerbag has a link to a monograph on this most common FAQ subject, it will save much time and space for all.
  • this bitch is going to cheat again. fuckin horndog, get over it. life is too short to worry about this bitch who caused you such pain. why deal with it? no reason to. i understand that she means a lot to you. but staying with her knowing that she has cheated on you, will always be a lingering thought in the back of your head and things will never be the same.
  • you are not married to this woman. You have no children by this woman. You share not assets with this woman and you are considering a relationship with this girl. This girl is to immature to understand what a relationship entails. I feel that you are to insecure with yourself to go out and find someone else. Whatever you do don't have sex with a girl I feel you cannot handle the emotions that goes with all that and you could hinder yourself if you expose yourself to all of the drama that goes along with that. Just my thoughts Good Luck with Yourself
  • Dont get back together with her. She cheated on you and blamed you for her own actions. She is too immature to be in a relationship if she cant keep her legs closed from other men. If you do get back together she will cheat on you again and blame you for it again. She did it once so what is stopping her from doing it again.
  • and all the times to come when you are not there,do her the last time and say goodbuy.
  • In your youth comes anger, regret, and missed opportunities. Do not pass up life waiting or hoping someone will change to suit you, enjoy life until you find the person that "fits" from the start.
  • You know she WON'T be faithful. But just enjoy her and don't be a sissy about it. If you want her for yourself, the LAST thing you want to do is act like a broken-hearted and injured puppy. Man up, and make her want only you.
  • Well first of all bud! You need too ask her if the exact same situation took place with me what would I do? Do you think I would do the same thing that you did with me? And it didn't because I was faithful too our loving relationship just like any other real relationship throughout society if we really loved each other. Too show you that I really have self control. I think you and your previous girl friend need too have a serious talk and discuss the terms of that relationship with this new guy! And if she wants too continue this relationship with this new fellow even when shes back with you trying too re-kindle back your trust for her own glory! I hope your talk go's well! But be careful! Don't be hurt ok because this situation is very complicated and can conjure up difficult memories with your old relationship with your previous girl friend who made this mistake! God bless you fellow!
  • I always thought that absence makes the heart grow fonder. I think you know the answer to your question...you just want someone else to confirm it for you. Okay, so here it goes...this girl is not the faithful kind. Now how she can blame you is a mystery to me. But there is such a thing called transference. It's when you feel guilty for doing something and you blame the other person. I'm not sure that you can trust anyone to be faithful. I've never found that kind of person yet. And I'm in a relationship. And he's given me plenty of reason not to trust him. So, if you can avoid this type of situation I would. There are women who would be faithful to you, she just isn't that person. And the more time you waste on her is less time for the person your meant to be with. Good luck.
  • I will suggest this, invite her back in, then surprise her when she comes back home with her belongings out in the yard with a signature stating she has been thrown out. She will have to make a choice there. You can move her back in, she has to delete the guy friend from her phone. Demand she give her whole time to you. but more than chances she wont. you should send her packing. find someone else who wants to settle down with you. she is not faithful to you. and she never will be. She is busy destroying lives. It be on her own plate, not yours.
  • She's not really in love with you if she cheated. Sorry. And if she gives you the tears and "im sorry's" and she wants you back, it actually is got more to do with her being selfish and wanting to have her cake and eat it. Give yourself the chance to meet someone who adores you and wouldn't ever WANT to be close to anyone but you!
  • If you trusted her once and she cheated that her excusse was because you weren't there,she is only thinking about herself.Why trust somebody that only think's about what she want's.Be the man first.Man is the head of a woman.
  • I am going to say this, You need to dump this woman, I have read some posts here. I suggest you buy some time to go ahead kicking her out of your life. there are plenty of fish in the sea. She can and probably will pack STD's from the other guy. I would tell her to ahead and enjoy the other guy. If she sits down and cry, then tell her that she should not have cheated. There are alternatives to cheating, tell her to invest in some toys to wait on you. Cheating is a way out of a relationship and a ticket to hurt someone else due to selfishness. I have been cheated on, guess what, I have endured 6 troubled relationships. I never was stable because of the environment i was in. Oh by the way, when you dump this girlfriend, and set up with another lady who is matured, Your girlfriend will want you back and it will be too late. She is the one who squandered the best man off for trash. I mean trash is the guy she cheated with. I will promise you this, she will sit down and regret every minute of this. I know this for a fact. She will not be faithful to you at all. You need to abandon her for the best of your heart. A man's heart is the key to love, self protection, and more of all security. She does not deserve you, she cannot have your security since she cheated on you. Well, here it is, You cannot have two sides as one relationship. She needed to be loyal to you only or do not be in a relationship. Count this as a blessing to move on. You cannot lay down with a cheater. It is like marrying Jesus Christ with a whore. Would you do this, I think not. Hold your chin up. I wish you the best
  • You wont know that she'll be still faithful. Get her out of your life immediatley. I suggest that you just be "friends" with her (THATS A MAYBE). She doesnt obviously care about what you'd think, because she cheated. She obviously holds her own feelings above yours, because she cheated. And she also cannot be trusted with basically anything between you two, because she cheated. Not many people see just what type of set of mind you have to have in order to cheat on someone.
  • Forget about a relationship she's not for you. If she wants to have sex with you. Why not. Most guys only dream of your situation sex without commitment.
  • Ok, so I was lying in bed tring to go to sllep and couldn't stop thinking of my previous answer. I think you should both agree to be friends. I don't think she is ready for a relationship. Enjoy her company while she is with you but look to build other relationships.
  • If I were you, I would ask her to break the friendship off. If she respects you, she would comply to your request.
  • The important thing here is that you keep your pride. If you even speak with her, you're losing your pride. Cut her off and do it in a way that you don't look like a straight up asshole but it fucks her up mentally and makes her regret what she did to you. Send her a text and say (word for word), "Look, I really enjoyed the great times we shared and I find it really cute how you laugh at my jokes. But the thing is, I really have no intention on being with someone like you. You see, I'm looking for a woman, not a little girl who plays games. You've really proven to be the exact opposite of what I need right now and I think it's best we part ways. I'm not writing this to get a response, so please do not contact me again. Take care." Do this and you (1) AS A MAN KEEP YOUR PRIDE and it makes you more confident in yourself so you'll be better prepared for the next girl and (2) You set off a bomb in her head that will ruin her which is a good thing. ;) by the way, if she did this once, has already been unfaithful and therefore always will be in your mind so yes, she will continue to be unfaithful and this is why you should end it.
  • Unless she plans on staying home, don't do it.. She'll just start the cycle over again next time she goes off to school- and taking her back now will make you her safe backup 'safety net.'
  • She won't be. She's wants you now because you're local. Once she's gone back to school, the other dude will back in. My advice is start dating her sister.
  • You can't know whether she will be faithful or not. I would take her back but expect the worse.

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