Why do i love some one who is so cruel to me? Please don't say low self essteem.
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Low self-est....oh sorry.
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You don't value yourself.
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Okay, well, because you feel you don't deserve better and need that kind of a person to keep you in your base position where you think you belong.
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You feel somehow that you can change a person and that you cannot find any better. People don't change. Only in cases of hardship and almost catastrophic problems can a person "see the light". You can't change them.
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Sexual addiction?
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You are bonded and attached.
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Because you see pass the meanness and into the heart of who they truly are.
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Maybe it's because you are too into the outside packaging. The majority of guys who treat girls like dirt usually tend to be the hot good looking ones whereas the nice decent boring guys usually are not very appealing in the physical sense. Maybe you are one of those girls who puts more value on what the guy looks like rather than how he is on the inside or how he treats you. Another possible explaination is you have always seen him as a bad boy and think that you could be the one to tame him and turn him into a nice guy. Unfortunately that usually never works out.
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because when you meet he was prob nice to you and your in love with that "person"or ur scared of being on your own
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i wont say self esteem - cos you have already, maybe you know the answer, but dont want to face it?
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Since this is in the category of teenagers, it's possible it's not love and simply is infatuation. (See: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2719545 ) Going beyond that, the only reason you would subject yourself to cruelty on a regular basis is because you don't believe you can "get" someone any better, or because you don't think you deserve someone any better. The only way I would answer otherwise is if you aren't ACTUALLY being treated cruelly, and just feel hurt at times during typical relationship turbulance. Assuming you are capable of discerning the two, I would say it likely has to do with your self-worth. Try talking to a school counselor, who will be able to help you through this tough time.
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He's all you can get.
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I dont think that there is anyone that is absoluteltly flawless in this world. Sometimes we tend to love people who do not treat us the best because they tend to possess something that no one else has. They have a quality that someone else lacks which we feel we need to make us happy. With that in mind, when we are happy we sometimes put up with the bull that someone gives us because we feel we are fuilfilled with that person and what they do. I guess you can say we settle because we have a hard time realizing there is someone out there for everyone. Wheter we love a significant other, or family member, friend, etc. remember no one is perfect, and everyone has flaws, its just if you choose to keep them in your life and the reasoning behind it.
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Perhaps you are a masochist?
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you probably think that u can change him and make him be nice and everything. and you also love him for his other traits or his personality but you hate it when he's rude to you.you really do love him, you just dont love the person that he is being right now to you.
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You feel safe. This kind of "love" is probably familiar to you. Did you have a childhood where your parental figures were disrespectful towards each other in a similar manner? Break the cycle by becoming "aware" and objective about the level of respect you demand.
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Because some people want what they can't have. Then once they get it, they don't want it anymore. Someone being mean to you probably sends a message to you that you could lose him/her at any moment. So you become desperate to try and hold on to them.
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well my first choice would be low self-esteem but since I can't say that then maybe deep inside you are a masochist?
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I don't think there's really a good answer to that one. I've been in the same situation several times in the past with the whole cruel guys who treat you like crap, but my issue was self-esteem, and I knew it. I felt like if they ever did anything to me or got mad at me it was MY fault, and if "he doesn't love me no one will" sort of thing. You should try to get over whoever it is and move on because it's their mentality and one day you might end up hurt.
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Well... Low self esteem could be part of it, but i imagine you come from a home where maybe you have parents who fight, or are separated. How do you know you love this someone? And really you have to ask yourself, do you love them or do you just think you do. Would you have their baby, die for them etc.... If they are cruel to you, that is not healthy anyway. I would learn to recognize a bad pattern, and try to find a good guy. Even if you dont love him at first, you will later.
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Ignorance.
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You might be in love with the idea of who you wish he would be, or possibly once was. One thing I do know, is you don't deserve the cruelty. Good luck, letting go is never easy, but dealing with cruelty is not worth it.
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Fortunately I have freedom of speech, the first thing to come to mind, is low self esteem, but it could be, you think you can fix him, or you could be used to abuse, and think it is a way of showing love.
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maybe in your subconscious, you feel you are alike? and you feel you can help him with his issues - you probably wont be able to though, why not see if he could go see a counsellor?
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hey im also in love with a girl that has messed with my heart. im still going strong hoping she will realize what im saying is true.
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Without knowing what your version of cruel is......I would say you see glimpses of goodness that has attracted you and it's enough to stay with him through the bad...............hang in there.
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