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  • I'd say "Keep it". My mom wouldn't do that though. She's better than that and does nothing to try to control my life or decisions.
  • Leave home without it.
  • Tell them that you would rather not have it if they are going to use it to make you do things you dont feel like doing or use i as a guilt trip. If they are going to giveyou something, its better with no strings attatched.
  • Something along the lines of "I'm going to live my life as I see fit and I will not be held hostage to your money."
  • Is there anything else I can get you mom/dad? :)=(
  • Tell them that I am quite capable of making it on my own.
  • My Mother has and I told her I did not want a dime because I do not want to manipulated by her! She has been instructed to leave my Brother the house and all her liquid assets!
  • I'd say, "Why are you holding your hand over my head?...hmmmm, this is realy awkward." But really, I wouldn't worry about it. Do well for yourself so you don't have to worry about inheritance. Then they can't hold anything over your head......um, in that awkward way.
  • "How dare you use my greed to control me!"
  • Hey, it's their money, and if they offer you vastly more than you can earn in exchange for your fulfilling some simple conditions, why not go along with it? On the other hand, if they want to control your whole life.... I know a young fellow who walked away from a million dollar farm because he hated farming. And never forget that until the person actually dies they can always change their will, and usually do. I knew a young fellow who put up with a real skunk of a father because of the promise that he'd inherit the farm. I'm sure that in the end he only would have gotten a third of it, same as his siblings who didn't lift a finger, and as it happened he died in an accident and his widow and children didn't get a cent.
  • Look at the example of actor Michael Weatherly. He was an heir to the Swiss Army knife fortune, but his father cut him out when he wanted to be an actor. Now look at him: he is successful and does not need their money.
  • If it's under a million "Fuck you, mom and dad!" If it's over a million but under 10 million "I am my own person and will make my own decisions. If you can't respect that, keep it." In hopes that they would see the silliness of their actions. If it's over 10 million. I would bullshit them and do what ever they wanted until they die.
  • Drop dead, you bad parent...
  • tell them to shove it ....as I have never asked or expected anything from them since I left home at 15 ...so they can give it to whom ever they want to
  • I told them to spend it all;) Party like rock stars and everything else will work out fine like my dadd-o did and everything worked out fine,So I don't freet the small stuff;)
  • I'd laugh gently and tell them to stop being silly! I'd tell them that I am not interested in their money, will make my own money and live my life my way. If they think they have any power over me with their money, they are really, really wrong.
  • How do you physically hold huge debt in the air over my head? A computer printout of their finances in a spreadsheet? Ahhhhhhhhhhh, I'll be crushed!
  • "your inheritance"? it's their inheritance to give. I'd say "don't worry about it" and try to development a meaningful,non-financial relationship with them.
  • I'm not into other people's money..it's your parents money after all..they can do whatever they want. I personally wouldn't care one way or the other. If they were to try to control me by using withdrawal of those funds, they would lose me altogether! :(
  • I would tell them that it's their money and they should spend it all before they die!
  • Thank you. Its not ours until they pass on anyway.
  • If you mean that the parents are holding it over your head as in - if you do this you won't get it or if you don't do this you won't get it... If that was the case I would say "Take it and shove it up your ass"!
  • You've got to die sometime.
  • Do what you genuinely want with your 'stuff' and I will live my life the best way I know how, but I'll do it my way.
  • "I'm sorry Mother, that was my fault...can i get you more tea?"
  • Had this with my dad,told him to shove it where the sun dont shine and i have never spoken to him since:-)
  • Then take your CA$H to the grave with you. Like I really give a damn.
  • I would go out and marry a billionaire that did drugs, had tatoos and that was going to dye from a overdose. Then I would fly my parents around with me reminding them of how smart they had made me. Then about a year of this lifestyle I would hold these issues over their head. I am just kiddin. Your question got my head moving a little.
  • Keep it yo...
  • I'd try to be the "golden child"... I'd suggest that they spend it on a nice vacation, or a slick car. I would tell them that it is their money, and I'd prefer to see them use it anyway. (which is really just a very nice way to say "I don't need your money, light piles of it on fire, for all I care).... Only I end up looking nice :)
  • I don't want anything from them. Well, I'd like my class ring back from my mother, but they don't really have anything else I want or need. My grandfather offered to leave me his house before he passed away, but I told him not to change his will, because I'd have had to fight my mother for it no matter what the will said, and it wouldn't have been worth the aggravation.
  • This question reminds me about my father and his mother (my grandmother). At one point he asked her: how much does it cost for you to shut up?
  • fine ...why dont you guys enjoy your last years spending it...i'd just spend it in las vegas on blackjack,drugs, and sex.
  • Go out, get an education and be successful. Hold that over their head.
  • i'd hold the crappiest nursing home i can possibly find over THEIR head. ;)
  • I would say, "keep your damn money. I don't need it. I will make my own." That way they have nothing over you and you appreciate yourself alot more.
  • I'm not getting a thing anyway. I've already made it clear to my family that if they leave me the house, I'm burning it down.
  • I would tell them to go to the hot place.
  • It's their money. How can they possibly hold it over your head? Is it that important to you?
  • Nothing. I neither expect nor want my parent's money. I actually don't think they'll have enough to leave behind anyway. After all, they've got to factor in their care costs if they need to go into an elder care facility. I've already notified both my parents and my brothers that I won't be able to be caregiver to my parents because I already have my eldest son to care for (he's severely disabled). It was only my mother who didn't take that news too well (she threatened suicide, became helpless and tried to lay on the guilt) so if we're going by that alone, I've probably already been disinherited. Oh well, I know my limits and caregiving for one person is a hard enough job as it is, for two or even three people, it'll be a killer. If it's a toss up between my own health and my parent's money, I'll keep my health any day.
  • my grandmother did that shit . I pissed her off anyways and she said " thats it your out of the will " Im like " good now we can be JUST FAMILY " and you know what ? We actually have a meaningful relationship now .
  • i told them i didnt want it anyway.
  • I'd tell them to stay away from the Home Shopping Network.
  • Depends how much teh inheritance is. If its more than 100K I will hang in there. If less then I say "fuck them"
  • My mother does this all the time and I have now come to the point that I said, "Mom, I love you, but you won't control me by your money. I will not be controlled and you should not be manipulative. I am not going to be in bondage to you just so I have money. No way! I can go without!"
  • I would'nt have to worry too much about that.....I'm not all that excited about the key to the liquor cabinet.
  • That would have never worked on me. I had asked my dad repeatedly not to leave me anything because I knew that it would bring the whole family down on me if he did..he did it anyway :)
  • If you don't stop trying to blackmail me, I will not look after you when you are old and sick!!!
  • I'd say keep it.
  • Tell them to keep it and work very hard to insure I didn't need it.
  • i would tell them how it makes you feel when they do that.
  • Well, I would laugh at her and say, "Do I look like your Son?" I have been capable of supporting myself since I was 12 years old. I paid rent and never asked for a loan. When my Grandma died last year I was the only surviving sibling who didn't grovel to my Mom for inheritance money. So no...she would never dare to hold the issue of an inheritance over my head. Thanks for letting me share.
  • Depends on what it was.. money-wise? I don't need it.. I can make that myself.. but if I were to inherit something sentimental.. i'm not sure what I would do. I'd tell my parent that I'm determined to be successful one day so people won't be able to look down on me or pressure me into doing something I don't want to do. I'm going to be my own boss.
  • "I don't need your money. Just don't expect me to come back tomorrow from school/work. I can make it without you." But my parents won't do that to me, they give me money-but I flat out refuse. When people give you money,you become lazy- I plan to support myself and future family (even them) all by my hard work.
  • Yes, Sir or M'am
  • Well, I believe an inheritance is not a right, it's a privilege bestowed upon the children or grandchildren whom the owner of the assests feels has earned it. It sounds as if the parent feels that his or her child isn't giving him or her the amount of attention he/she feels they need from that child. Almost as if the parent is grasping at straws in desperation for some attention or quality time and feel that the issue of money would finally get their offspring's attention. I hope this helps.
  • Your parent can only hold the inheritance over your head if you let him/her. In other words, grow up, and realize that you can live without the forthcoming inheritance (which may be spent and gone, anyway). You need to believe in yourself, that you don't need this benefit. Then the parent will no longer have any leverage over you, you will be free. You might even gain his/her respect. Certainly you will have self-respect.
  • Do whatever they say until you can get your hands on it.
  • My parents would never do that. They don't think that way. But, my ex's parents did that all the time...and trust me, it did not have anything to do with "oh I am in desperate need for extra attention" it was strictly the need for control. They threatened their boys with the money if they did not do EVERYTHING they told them to. They didn't like it when I would say, "Good, we don't need your money. I would like for you to go out and live it up yourselves, you made it...enjoy it" OOHH, that used to tick them off.
  • We are your Dad and Mom you see, And we control the money for thee. If you don't do what we want you to be, There won't be any bananas falling from your tree.
  • keep it,i'll get a job.
  • I'd go get ajob and say ha! I'm going to work.
  • I'd tell them to shove it and MOVE out on my own and be self sufficient .
  • Tell them..."Fine I don't care if you take it to Vegas and spend it all,that's what I am going to do with it "
  • i would say so what i live for me not them
  • It's your money, not mine. Do with it what you will. I plan on making my own way in life and can survive fine without it.
  • I am not for sale
  • I just don't say much to him at all.
  • Say that I will just live without the money. If they want to give it to me, then they will.
  • Laugh and remind them that I have a job and a home, I don't need or want to inherit their house or bills.
  • My mother did that, among a lifetime of control, lies and manipulation - confronted her about how hurtful and hateful it was - but it continued - finally said Goodbye!
  • I would say nothing, just wait for them to die. I think my parents are spending all their money so there won't be much of anything left when they die.

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