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Thank you!

Perhaps for people my age marriage was more important. And signified telling people that we are a couple and as such we are part of the community. And accept the responsibilities that go with that. Dorat after going without sex (with each other) for five months my husband Gerry is again interested in me in that respect and we made love twice in three days. Funny how these things go. Thursday I had left work early to meet someone else at a motel. He works for a client company and had let me know several months ago of his interest in me which of course flattered me but I just thanked him and let it go. On perhaps three further occasions he brought it up again and last week I told him I would meet him. He waited for me and followed me up the highway to a motel. I was feeling - I wanted to be desired and loved so I wanted that. He was sort of a big bear of a man and was a little rough - I couldn't help but think of you and Emma taking about being "animalistic" - and he kept saying my name and how beautiful I was and how much he needed me until he finished. After which we talked a little but we had to get home - he was married of course, as I am. In the bathroom before we left I did not clean up that much but just took a few swipes and left for home. After dinner my husband disappeared as usual into his office and I eventually was reading upstairs in our bedroom. After an hour or so he came in and started kissing and fondling me which meant he wanted sex. Of course I was very unprepared but delighted and went into the bathroom and cleaned up a little more from the afternoon but not completely as I didn't want Gerry to lose interest. It was great and like we hadn't been apart sexually for those months and he kept going with me a long time and I must have had eight or nine Os before he finished All with him on top. And I was - there was nothing I could say but I loved him very much and I just stayed like that because it felt so good I didn't want to move and we cuddled a little before I guess he went back to one office or the other but I was out like a light and asleep by the time he left until morning. I don't know if he knew or sensed I had been with someone else - it is very possible as he knows me so well - but it was not mentioned. Later Friday evening he knew because we most always see another couple - Gerry goes to their home to meet her while her husband comes to ours. When he came in from being with her he was interested immediately and guided me to the bad and removed his clothes and started with me touching etc. I was still coming down from the evening's activities and didn't take long at all for me to have two orgasms on my knees with him behind and then he started moving for himself which is super exciting to me and he kept going after I think he had come cause he knew I was close again so I could get there a third time before collapsing together in a heap and we talked a little and I told him I liked when he made love to me and he apologized for ignoring me. Those were Wednesday and Friday and I have been in a great mood so far all weekend because it is important to me that my husband be interested in me. I mean in more than just friends.

A couple of things. First, I can tell you that my mother and - REALLY - my gfd's father were not pleased. Her father was very unpleasant to me - and her mother was barely civil - for a long time. Fortunately, my gfd's sisters were amazingly supportive of me. Over time my gfd's mother mellowed. Her father really still does not like me, but has mellowed since the grandchildren were born. (Though we had one huge fight when we told him my gf was pregnant the first time.) In fairness, he even told me one time that he thought, whatever else, that I had been a good provider and a good father. Believe me. I get it. It is not that my gf and I don't believe in marriage. It is just something that we did not want for ourselves. Even we admit that it is a little eccentric. That said, if you see us from the outside you see a pretty traditional family in every other way. (My gf dies of embarrassment because I sit in restaurants with our kids and make "funny faces" to make them laugh. She tells me that if I keep it up, my face is going to get stuck like that. She is probably right - she usually is - but anything to hear my kids laugh,) In truth, I will probably flip out if my kids do what their mother and I have done, Hypocrite? Guilty as charged.

As to you and your husband. I am so happy for you and I hope it continues. At this distance, I certainly cannot speak to what things in your relationship with your husband work and what things don't. I only hope it gets better and better. I still contend that you have been sold a bill of goods. You have men who want sex with you - unattractive women don't get that. My hunch, you are a more attractive physically, and more interesting person intellectually, than you think. As far as your weekend, speaking as a man, I don't doubt that your husband was probably "claiming his territory." As the old song goes, "Don't it always seem to go, that you don't know what you've got till its gone." At a minimum, your husband is a very driven man who sets great store in his career. However, his basic male instincts are still there. When he discovered - or sensed - that another rival male was moving in on you, he realized what he might lose. That's my best guess - and yes, it should tell you that he cares, albeit he is like many men and tends to take things for granted. The only other thing I can suggest is communicate. Be a little more aware of your own strengths and weaknesses and aware of his. Believe me, he may not be aware of it himself, but he wants you and needs you - and not just sexually. Every man needs to feel respected by the woman he loves. If he does not, he will get jealous first, and then, depending on his won personality, he may look elsewhere for the respect and acceptance that he no longer feels, fairly or not, he is getting. (In this connection, by the way, and it is none of my business, but you may have to end the arrangement you have with the other couple. It may have worked for a time, but it may now be part of the problem. Believe me, my gf and I have done threesomes and other things with other couples and - as I famously told you (and by default the entire world) - I even had a homosexual relationship. We did things like that to excite each other sexually, to raise the bar in a way, and in a lot of ways it worked. However, after a time, we came to realize that it could be as much a problem as a solution. We still do some crazy things every now and then, but we always talk before the fact - see also my birthday that I told you about - and more and more it is crazy stuff with just the two of us. (Sex in a public place. Things like that. Even then, now that we are parents, we are even a little more conservative about that.) Anyhow, I have gone on too long. I hope that you and Gerry continue to grow closer. You deserve it - and he will learn that he does too.

Thank you, I was not taking you all to task on the marriage thing but simply pointing out that to some of us it is still important as an institution.

That's okay...and believe me, I didn't take it as a rebuke. As I said, even my gf and I realize that we are being a bit unconventional and I unapologizingly admit that I would flip out if my kids did what their mother and I have done. Marriage is a good thing, but it was something that my gf and I felt that in some way made our love seem like less, rather than more. For what it is worth, the decline of marriage has overwhelmingly harmed society - as can be seen in child abandonment, abuse of women and other societal pathologies. If I believed that society could survive what my gf and I have done - we are pretty traditional and very loving to our children - I would advocate it for everyone. I don't - and so I won't.

I was looking at the site tonight to see what you have been writing and I found this and I almost wanted to cry. Sweetheart, I just wanted to write to tell you how much I love you and how happy you've made me. The first day that I met you was the happiest day of my life and it has only gotten better since then. You are the best partner I could have asked for and the best father to our children that I could have imagined. You don't know how happy you make me when you hold me in your arms or when I see you play ticklemonster with the kids. I love our little family and I love you so much. You wrote that nothing frightens you more than the thought of being without me. Sweetheart, don't ever worry about this. I love you and we are going to grow old together, because I can't imagine life without you. I don't know when you'll see this and maybe I could have just told you, but you were so sweet that I wanted people to know what a loving and kind and gentle man you are. Most of all I just wanted you to know that I will love you always.

Honey, I just saw your note. Thank you so much. I love you with all my heart.