ANSWERS: 29
  • I don't think your crazy in fact more should follow your logic in this matter. Many people form relationships already setting a deadline on how long it will last. No rush to do this if your happy then to hell with everyone who thinks differently.
  • There is nothing wrong with being single. I loved it. My boyfriend now, had to convince me to go out with him, I was not ready to be in a relationship, I am glad I changed my mind.
  • There's nothing wrong with being single. If you don't feel you're ready for a relationship, then don't let other people pressure you. When you want a boyfriend... then date. haha I suppose it's as simple as that. But I have to disagree that ".. it's all work for nothing.." You never know til you try. And even if a relationship doesn't work out, I still think you can take away something good from it. Good luck in everything.
  • They want you to join their misery.Actually,I really don't know.They must not have anything exciting going on in their life to worry about whether or not you're dating anyone:)
  • I think it's a great idea. If you don't have the time or the patience for one, then don't get one. Plus, if you do want a relationship in the end, you won't go out perusing one, but more likely one will drop in your lap that's based around you being unsure about your relationships, cause that's what you'll be known for. That's what happened to me for years, and then I suddenly found someone who wanted to work hard, I mean hard, on what had to be done to make our relationship work, because I was known for being the "relationship trouble maker." Well, it worked, him and I have an amazing relationship, without the usual drama. Plus he knows if he pulls anything I'll drop him like a rock cause I know how to live the single life, and I love it!
  • Well... Your age has something to do with it. And, you're probably at LEAST decent- and athletic-looking (mention track practice in another question). Some people think EVERY girl (especially the good-looking ones) in certain ages/grades should WANT a boyfriend. Of course, THEY are the ones who might have problems in school (spending too much time with the bf), and might be "at risk" pregnancy, STDs, etc. I'm sure you have male friends, and I'm sure you have female friends, but no one "special". Who cares? It sounds like you have your head on straight, right now, worrying about school and track (and any other sport you play). If you want to quiet them, just tell them that you would not be a good girlfriend, right now, because you have to study, (and work?), and practice so much, you wouldn't have TIME to spend with them. Good luck. ;-)
  • I am the exact same way as you right now. I have been through so much with relationships that I am ready to concentrate on myself and my education right now. Theres nothing wrong with it. Be single as long as you want and maybe down the road you will meet someone worthy to change your mind...dont rush into things. I know how you feel.
  • You certanly aren't crazy for not wanting a boyfriend right now. Sometimes you want to refelct on just yourself, and not have to bother with giving your attention to someone else. I understand. Although, sometimes you find the guy you are to marry and not break up. So don't think that having a boyfriend is a useless act. If you just don't have a boyfriend right now because you're afraid of getting hurt, that isn't the best reason because that's just you protecting yourself, and hideing from something that could possibly turn out lovely. Also, hideing from a big part of life. However, if it is in fact because you don't want to bother with a relationship as of now, I understand that completely.
  • I really respect your view. You keep up with what you think and don't let others tell you otherwise! There's nothing wrong with wanting to be single. I hope people understand that.
  • There is absolutley nothing wrong with not wanting a boyfriend at the present time. However, I don't think that the reason for not wanting one this because you feel there is no point and that it would lead to nothing?! Relationships are very hard work because your heart and your mind do alot of investing. If you've just got out of a relationship and you want to take a break, then by all means take it. Sometimes time is all you need to heal yourself. But, falling in love again when it's with the right person, can be very beautiful. Love is a risk taker, and without any risk, you never know if there can be a gain!! If you have to for the time been be single, then there is nothing wrong with that. Just be open to the opportunities that may arise, don't just shut them off.
  • absolutely nothing wrong with it. i was like that through most of my high school and i'm still like that in college. enjoy the "you" time. when the right person comes you'll know and things will happen if you want them to, so don't worry about it.
  • You're not crazy.
  • While I do not see anything wrong with wanting to stay single at least for now I do believe wanting to stay single out of fear that the relationship will end badly is not a good thing. Love is a game of chance. If you aren't willing to take risks with your heart that what is the point of living. Unless you know without any shadow of a doubt that a relationship wioll not work out being afraid to take risks is silly. Before anyone sees this and jumps on my case about my situation I am not scared to take risks. I know for a fact that I have not sufficntly let go of the memories of my late fiancee enough to open up my heart to somebody else without feeling that in some way I am betraying the memory of the life I once had with her.
  • ...it seems that you are on to something... relationships require absolutely no work in their natural state...perhaps you sense that? maintaining illusions, however, takes a lot of work and considerable strain... typical delusions that seem to grind people into all sorts of physical and mental stresses are: 1. you cannot own or possess another; this invites all sorts of nonsense like jealousy, cheating, trades...all are artificial 2. you cannot control another person; assigning a partner the g/f or b/f status means nothing, grants you no entitlements... 3. relationships are not subject to your categorizations...; relationships are gifts and they are continuous...
  • There's absolutely nothing wrong with NOT having a boyfriend. You aren't crazy, just independent.
  • Hun, I think you have the right idea in staying single for the time being. Instead of other girls who have guys distracting them from their school work and all that, you have more time to focus on your work and not have to worry about things like how much time to spend with your boyfriend, sex, etc. And to tell you the truth, dating (especially during high school with all the drama and rumors and all that) and guys can be totally overrated, as some people think that if they can just get a boy/girlfriend, they'll be happy and feel like they fit in when in reality relationships aren't always fun and games. Trust me I know, me & my boyfriend seem to get into some sort of argument every few days AT LEAST. Be proud that you feel that you don't need a guy to be happy and that you don't have to worry about all the extra stresses that come with relationships.
  • There's nothing wrong in living a single life. Other than maybe feeling lonely at times. Wondering how things may of been. If you had taken the other path, at those crossroads in life. Its your life and your choice to make. Don't let someone else make it for you. Just do what "YOU" feel is right. In time you may change your mind.....Just my point of view tho.............M.C.S.
  • I think it's sensible and not crazy.
  • They actually are saying you have mental problems because of it? Well, maybe they just want you to get a boyfriend so they can yak and yak about him to you. It would give them something to do.
  • Your argument is well reasoned and I see your point. There is nothing wrong with being single, your friends just want something to talk about. People love to see others get together, break up, rebound, etc. True, at this time in your life, chances are, any boyfriend you have now won't last too long. A lot of relationships are not founded on the future, but it's nice that you are thinking about it that way.
  • You're not crazy, you're just so negative.
  • There is nothing wrong living a single life as long as you are HAPPY. But you should get rid of that limiting negative belief that "you almost know your gonna break up anyway" because that only depends on you and his commitment to the relationship from the start. Nobody meets his partner the first time he meets someone from the opposite sex.. or the second, or the third.. so you can't make conclusions based only on past in this case. Good luck whatever you decide to do!
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, and no you're not crazy but just remember both sides have pro and cons. And the only reasons people break up is because they just haven't met the right one yet.
  • There is nothing wrong with living the single life, but you have to make sure you don't pass up something wonderful. Still be open dating but just don't worry about it. You might pass up that right guy for you just because you have given up on dating all together. Keep your options open and enjoy yourself!! Good luck!
  • welcome to the club
  • (1) They all want you to be as miserable as they are; and (2) it should tell you something about people who define life only based on the fact that you have someone to have sex with in your life
  • i was were you are before i ment my boyfriend you enjoy having good time no complications . you aint crazy you enjoy your space,freedom,
  • There's nothing wrong in living a single life and i don't think you're crazy, i think that those people who think you're crazy is the one who are crazy because they don't know the essence of being single. when you're single you have much more time for yourself, for your family and for your friends. most of the time when you're in a relationship you only spend most of your time with your boyfriend it robs you with time that you can do to have a bonding with your family and friends
  • Little relationships just get you groomed for bigger ones. Maybe a boyfriend for awhile wouldn't be a bad idea, if you know it's going to end eventually. if only to get used to the dynamics of living a life with another person. If you don't have the little dating relationships then when you do fall for someone, it might be hard to adjust to not being single!

Copyright 2018, Wired Ivy, LLC

Answerbag | Terms of Service | Privacy Policy