ANSWERS: 30
  • It is a nice idea. But what happens if the chain breaks, or you are in a car accident (god forbid) or you know something happens to it. Those ashes are gone forever. I personally, dont want anyone to keep my ashes, but your mother obviously wants you to. I just think its pretty risky. Its a beautiful idea though and im sure you could get them made if thats what she wanted.
  • seems a bid morbid for my taste. I would not want to do it myself.
  • I don't think I could. Just the thought creeps me out. I love my mom and all but, no.
  • What I did with by moms ashes was to bury them under a beautiful willow tree in my garden, where there are perennial flowers. It feels good to have her around. But to ware a pendant with the ashes is a bit too much for me. Regards.
  • My friend did this with the cremains for her beloved dog, Harry;its something I wouldn't do...and trust me, I love my dog just as much! Just seems creepy, knowing ashes are commingling with others ashes. My dog makes me happy while he's alive, and I've got great memories of him...that will be enough for me.
  • No. If ghosts exist I am NOT letting something like that sit around my neck!
  • I would try and talk her out of it. If she is adamant about this idea let her have it done, thank her but you are under no obligation to wear the necklace. I would not wear it, the necklace would just sit in my jewelry box.
  • Merfish, please see my answer and conversation with Moonwalker. She's got the right idea. If not able to be "centerally located", how about seperating the ashes into several specially made little urns, one for each of you. That way you can each have one, not wear a pendant, and keep your Mom close to you however you want. Hopefully your Mom will like the little urn idea better. Take care :)
  • You don't have to have one made. Most funeral homes either carry these items or can order them for you.
  • I only wear a simple gold chain. This would be too much for my taste. I would prefer to keep my dead loved ones in my memory and heart.
  • I would rather wear the new diamonds they make from cremains now. Lockets are not my thing.
  • They actually make them. If you go through a funeral home they can order them from a casket company that also offers Cremation products. The casket company I work for offers many different options for pendants and bracelets that you can put a lock of hair in or a bit of the ashes of your loved ones. Just go through a funeral home that offers the ones you find suitable.
  • i wore my sister's ashes..they were in a sterling silver urn on a necklace. my neices also have necklaces of their dad's ashes
  • I would put the pendant in a very special place in my home, but I do not wear jewelry of any kind, except a wedding set.
  • I don't think I would wear it. Knowing my luck, I'd lose the thing. A keepsake urn kept in the house would be a much better option, in my opinion.
  • If thats what she wants let her. How's she gonna know if you wore it or not
  • If it was small, and attractive looking, I might wear it. I'm not much for wearing jewelry, though, so I wouldn't wear it all the time. I don't think there's anything creepy about having someone's ashes nearby. My husband has a small urn of his grandpa's ashes on his nightstand. I'm okay with that. My grandpa wants his ashes to be put into windchimes, so all his grandkids can hang him outside their house. I'm okay with that too. (In fact, I'm in charge of making sure this happens for him after he dies.) I think that if that's what your mom wants, then that's what you should do. It doesn't mean you have to wear the necklace. Just keep it in your house.
  • no..and i will be cremated myself but i don't even want mine to keep them....i want them to let go and move on....i know i will always be in their heart as they would mine....but dont want them wearing dirt...thats silly ..but ..JUSTME:0
  • No, but those manmade diamonds made from cremated ashes would be nice.
  • no, never. it feels disrespectful to me
  • no, but probally only when it is her birthday!
  • i think it's a beautiful thought, but i'd be so afraid to wear it, because if i lost it i would be devastated. +++
  • I don't think so. That seems a tad bit weird to me.
  • I have heard of this being done now but it is creepy so I don't know if I could do it.
  • that mostly just happens with urns...so you making out with a guy and ou say,"oh and heres my mom, say hi!"
  • That sounds really morbid. Why not just pass down her favorite rings and necklaces to her children and let them remember her that way?
  • I would actually. I think it would be lovely
  • No. I think it would be too "creepy". I would never ask anyone to "wear" my ashes either.
  • no for 2 reasons 1. I may lose the pendant by accident 2. I see keeping ashes or bodies in rare cases as not being able to let go, accept the death and move on. the body is dead and the person is gone. there is no need for the body anymore. I even have a problem with embalming
  • I agree with several people, if it were my mothers wishes then GREAT, but I would find a place to put the locket, someplace special in my house.

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