I need2 break up with my boyfriend.Weve been together for2 years now and we stil love each other but he makes me cry almost daily and im trying2do my HSC.but every time I try to end it he trys/threatens to kill himself.How to I end this without him dying?
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To be honest, and I'm no expert here, just going on past experience. He is not going to kill himself if you break up with him, and he is very selfish telling you that. It's obvious to me he's just saying this so you won't break up with him. But this is your life, so you do what is best for you. HSC can be a very stressful time, especially if you're in a difficult relationship. I went through a similar thing, i broke it off with my b/f just before my HSC and he said he'd kill himself, but it was all just an act, and for attention. I know it's hard, but just break it off, it seems the best option. However, be prepared to be inundated with text messages and phone calls, because he will try and call and get back together and all that, but just try and ignore him. You will look back on this in years to come and wonder why you were so worried, it's going to be ok!! hope this helps!! If you need any other advise, let me know!!
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Hard question. Does he have any good friends, or family near? If so, (as much as this sucks to say), you may want to tell them what's going on. Ask them if he's threatened doing something like this before. If he has, he's probably just saying it again to keep you from leaving. If not, maybe the friend or family member could be there when you break it off with him. Just in case. Know that whatever he does with his life, you are not to blame.
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He will not kill himself. What if he did. Would you think you should give up all your rights to keep him alive?? I think not. He is responsible for his own life. Just as you are for your life. Be true to yourself. I personally would say " well then, I guess your gonna die, good day" But that's just me. I realize that sounds cold, but it's no colder than him running your life with that stupid threat, and you ruining your own life to "save" him
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He's trying to control you with the "tries" and threats. Leave him. Leave him when he's not there, then you don't have to deal with the hysterics. As mentioned, be prepared for calls, texts, emails, etc. Ignore them. If he comes around, get a restraining order. If he still comes around have him arrested. If he DOES do anything to himself, he will, of course, blame you. DO NOT ACCEPT THAT BLAME. HE is a big boy and anything he does to himself (or others) is HIS OWN FAULT, NOBODY ELSE'S. Sounds cold, but if he's making you cry every day, you are NOT happy, and EVERYONE hsa a right to happiness. (What is HSC? No matter... Don't worry about what he's doing at that moment... Concentrate on getting that done.) Move on. Forget him. Don't let him or his threats ruin your life.
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Threatening to kill himself is a means of control. You cannot give into it. However, if he persists in saying such things, contact his family and tell them to call for psychiatric help. He is no good to himself, let alone to you. You need to get out of this relationship. Change your phone humber, your email whatever it takes to stop him calling. Get a restraining order if necessary. Above all, enlist the aid of your family and friends. THis is too big to take on alone.
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Trust me girl, he will not kill himself
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Ive talked to his parents about it for a long time now but they actually tell him to go die. ive been so unhappy for so long and i dont need it any more but i still care and love him very much. ive tried couple counciling, it didnt work, the lady was on his side most of he time and he just used it against me. i cant afford to do nything else and i need to be able to focus on my school work.
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I did try that thing to my girlfriend before only (once) and I actually did it. I swallowed everything on the bottle (sleeping pills) yet I did wake up in the morning. Realizing it was a foolish thing to do. Giving up your life. Ever since I never did it again, just for a girlfriend. Coz really. there are billions of girls around the world. I know one of them is the right one :) So in my call. towards your question. The possibilities of not doing it, is very high. Unless your boyfriend has nowhere to go. (trashed life drop out. no chance of being successful) that may increase the possibility of doing it. Yet really it aint your fault even if he does. It's his life not yours. he may do whatever he wants as long as he's happy.
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You just have to move on. Tell him that there are other girls out there, he just needs to move on. You cant take it anymore. You need to be left alone. And if he kills himself, its not your fault. He's trying to control you, and he's doing a good job. Tell him that he's killing you by doing this, and if he truly loved you he wouldnt do this to you, he'd let you move on. A person makes a choice and they alone are responsible for that choice, not you.
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I think you should start ignoring him by pretending you are very busy with things in life.He will start losing his interest in you and you can break up easily.
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Firstly, no one really kill him/herself for someone. Secondly, just make the breakup look normal and natural, dont let him feel that it was pre-planned, start fighting over a small thing and shouting and breakup over it.
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It's an abusive relationship. He needs help and you need to leave. The order in which it happens doesn't matter. Just go.
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No one dies for no one!
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believe me he will not kill himself he only wants attention he is a BABY get a MAN!!!!!!
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If you think it is your "fault" then you have bought in to his attempts to control you using emotional blackmail. If that is "love" then you certainly don't need it.
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1-27-2017 Laugh in his face and tell him to get lost YOU FLAMING JERK!!! Yell insults at him, call him names, tell him don't come back. Now you both know it's over and can NEVER be restarted. That really is the nicest way to break up.
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