ANSWERS: 41
  • Fathers should have some rights here--but, ultimately the decision goes to the mother.
  • Sorry, I can't decide between "no", and "Hell, no!".
  • Great Question!! I think the father should be made aware, but there are issues with that as well. What if it was a one night stand? Or the father is abusive? What if she was raped and now is pregnant? Should she have to face him? Leaving it as the woman's choice is important.
  • Maybe if you live in Afghanistan where it is now a law that a husband can rape his wife.
  • This is a dilemna. The woman is carrying the child. Most likely she will bear the burden of raising the child if the couple is not married. And yet, the baby is the product of the union of two. The father should be made aware of the mother's situation..He should be given the chance to speak to the mother and express his feelings. But, after that, it is still up to the mother.
  • Hells no. There are FAR too many reasons that this would cause more harm than any possible good.
  • I think that there should be a law gagging all those that think they can tell women what to do their bodies
  • Oy. I don't even know where to start listing the problems such a law would create. 1.) How does a woman "prove" she notified the father? 2.) What would happen if a woman did not know where to find the putative father, or did not know who that was? 3.) As of now, spousal consent requirements are unconstitutional as per the Supreme Court case Planned Parenthood v. Casey. What would be the purpose of requiring notification? 4.) As a corollary to #3, would such a notification law be used as a back door to try to allow spousal consent laws? There are only two possible ways a decision to abort could go: have the abortion, or remain pregnant and (hopefully) have the baby. If the man and the woman disagree, how do you "break the tie"?
  • If she doesn't, he shouldn't have any obligations later. It's wrong to not give him the same choice she has to opt out of being a parent.
  • Sorry but the decision goes to the mother.
  • I can't imagine why.
  • Why, because some abortions are done just for the hell of it and we need to reduce them? Or because we want to torture all the men that she has slept with who might be the father? How does she even know for sure who the father is - do we make her wait until she can get genetic testing to determine this?
  • Most men would offer to lend her his car to make sure she got there safe. What would that prove?
  • NO!!!! How do you prove it? All she would have to do is get a guy friend to say he is the father, what are they gonna do if the real father found out, go threw the trash and do a DNA....not likely
  • if men could get pregnant abortion would be a sacrament
  • Absolutely, as soon as he can carry the baby in his body instead.
  • No, but if she DOESN'T inform him, he should be free of any obligations toward the child if she chooses to give birth. Even if she does inform him, he should have the CHOICE to opt out of any obligations, just like she has the choice. Up to about week 16.
  • It should not be law at all. It's her body, she has the right to choose what to do with the pregnancy.
  • A father should have the right to know, but not the ultimate right to decide on whether to abort the fetus. He should, however, be able to talk to the woman and to try to persuade her one way or the other.
  • Only if they're married.
  • That would be hard to prove... If he doesnt want her to abort it he can claim she didnt prove it... unless she sent a letter registered mail... but hey lets be honest do you know how many woman get pregnant and are not sure who the father is? I am not critising anyone its just a fact. I think it all boils down to making a moral and personal decision. First the dicision of abortion next the dicision of tell the father...Both can be considered a moral dicision. Besides I really think most girls tell the father if they are close or there is an caring left. And if she doesnt, she may have a very good reason. Maybe they are too young and she knows he will not be able to handle her choice. And maybe he could not provide as a single parent. There are way to many possibilities that can come into play. Bottom line she needs to make the best dicision for herself and an unborn child.
  • The question doesn't state that after she's told (and proved she's told) the father she cannot then abort the combined cell mass without his permission. So, ..... what do you think now?
  • no. because the father could be HER father. The father could be a stranger the father could want to keep the child. Therefore that would force the 16 year old girl to become a mother and drop out of school. Father's are not mothers.
  • That is beyond ridiculous. Unless he is willing and able to have said mass of cells transferred to his body and take up the responsibility of the child ON HIS OWN, like women have to, then he has no say in the matter.
  • why should a guy ever be able to tellme what i have to do with my body?
  • I have to say that i really hate questions like this, nobody knows the reason why women get them and who are other people to judge if they do get them, why does it matter to people it is not your body, you are not going thur it, you are not going to deal with the after affects the thoughts the feelings so why do you care.
  • Absolutely not!
  • I don't think any woman should have an abortion - it is murder, you shouldn't have sex if you don't understand that the gift of love was given to us by God to make new life and once an egg is fertilised it is a new life. There are many ways not too get pregnant so there is no excuse for unplanned pregnancies.
  • Oh that's a tough one....some would say it's her body, her choice BUT technically, that's his life too. I think it should be discussed anyways.
  • I think there should be some exceptions. For example if rape was cause of conception, or if there are health complications that could be fatal to the mother, then abortion should be her choice. But I think since it take two to create the baby, both should have a say in the outcome. I thinks its unfair to allow the mother to get an abortion without consulting the father first. Just because it's his child too and if the mother aborts the child, she is taking something away from the father he could never get back. I just think people (and the law) should consider the father's feelings too. I notice that most women say it's their body, but just think if you were a mother of a child and the father came in and killed your baby--you would be devastated and upset and depressed. Women are doing the same thing by getting an abortion, the only difference is the baby isn't born yet
  • No. There are too many variables there, and it would be, essentially, like tell a woman she has to get permission to do it. Not a good proposal in today's world. Also, he may want the baby, but she has do go through nine months of body changing, painful, scarring ordeals, followed up by the fun of giving birth and recovery. Then, if he wanted it, she didn't, and still doesn't, what then? Will you make the woman who previously would have had the choice to abort pay child support? It may not look like a fair system to guys, but as far as I figure, men can spread themselves around, and procreate, procreate, procreate. Men don't have to deal with pregnancy. With childbirth. When you start adding it all up, it is as fair as it can get. Men have a choice when they don't put on a condom/have sex. That's their moment of choice. Women have the choice of whether or not to terminate because of it's their bodies. It's their lives. People complain about men having to pay child support... but when it comes down to it, there are still many more men who are deadbeats than mothers who are. Until that changes, who's permission they need for an abortion won't change.
  • I think it's a hard thing to say yes or no to. Is the father willing to raise the child all on his own? Is he willing to look after the woman while she's pregnant and has to give up work or school? There are so many parts of a pregnancy that, though I think it should be discussed with both parties, I don't think it should come down to -having- to get permission from the father.
  • i think that the woman should get permission from the father, by at least discussing it with him first, because, after all, it is his child as much as it is hers. But, then again, it is the woman that has to hold on to the baby for so long before it is born. So, it is a very hard question to say yes or no to.
  • I think the word permission is a bit condescending. Of course it would be nice for both parties to discuss it, but to have to get permission? I don't think so. What if she was raped, or was in an abusive relationship? What if she wasn't sure who the father was? Ultimately it is her body and her choice. One would hope she would consult the father and take his wishes into consideration. She should not need his permission to do anything that evolves her own personal body.
  • Honestly I would have to say that I do not like abortions but I understand why they are done and unless you think that the father would completely take care of it by his self then no if you do not want the kid it is your choice but I do think that if he is an okay guy that you should atleast tell him about it and talk if he is not a good guy then your good
  • Permission? Abesolutley not. She dose not need permission in any way, shape, or form. It is her body. I suppose it would only be fair for the mother to tell the father and for the two of them to discuss the matter. But this is not the 1800s and a woman no longer needs to ask a man permission on anything.
  • No I don't think so. At the same time, I don't think that a man should be required to pay child support if the woman refuses an abortion.

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