ANSWERS: 35
  • If you are having to repeat your instructions that many times, then you need to stop what you are doing....doing something which fails over and over doesn't make sense. Try something different. Sounds like the other person has blocked you out...or is deliberately refusing to do whatever it is...that's called passive aggressive behaviour. Try asking, rather than telling. Try bribing and manipulating (both OK if the end result is a win-win). Try an "I" message......"I feel like a failure somehow as I just cannot get you to do that task. What can I do which will remind you how important it is to me?" Not knowing the specifics it is hard to give a spot-on example of an "I" message.
  • Three for an adult. Fifty-five for a child.
  • Tell them once, wait, repeat. If they makes eye contact and the acknowledge that they heard and don't do it, you can pretty much say that repeating it more isn't going to do anything but irritate the both of you and also that you either don't know how to communicate to this person or they don't respect your authority. You do HAVE the authority to order them about don't you? If not, that could be the trouble right there. Now if the other person is a teenager, all things are out the window and the groundwork should have been established long before this.
  • It depends what it is they need to remember to do, the relationship you have with the person, whether the person has any issues (for example someone with a lot of stress in their life will probably need more reminding), and how old the person is.
  • Depends on a lot of things. Are they on medication? Are they of low intelligence? Are they ignorant? Do they resent being told to do something? I can go on and on ........lol
  • its up to you
  • Depends, are we talking about a 16 year old son? 35 times.
  • Sounds to me like you are a woman.....
  • at least a thousand.
  • depends on everyperson. I have to tell my friends a lot of times sine they are either reluctant or forgetful
  • I've asked my husband for 13 years to shut the shower curtain when he's done...... I'm going on year 14 with this one :)
  • Honestly, I have found with my teenager that if I have to tell her something over and over, I need to find a different way to communicate what it is I need.
  • Until they "finally get it"...usually I give up before then and just do it myself!
  • Depends on who it is. It takes longer for some people to "get it" than others. As long as I can see someone applying effort, I don't care how much assistance they need. On the other hand, there's some people who are determined NOT to "get it". I've worked with a guy for the past 5 or 6 years who has very little knowledge of what his job requires. He's always asking for help or looking for ways not to do something. Take a day or 2 to train him and he says, "I'm not doin' that sh-t." Attempting to train him is a waste of time and energy. What inevitably happens is the people that do "get it" do their work and HIS work too.
  • I'll tell ya, I've been a supervisor for about 6 years, and some get it the first time, and some I still remind. It depends on how they were taught, or if they know HOW to pay attention
  • Depends of if they really want to get it. Some people just say OK to make you think they will do it. But then continue to do it their way. Til you eventually give up. :(
  • Everyone is giving various answers, but most agree that it depends on the person. I agree. And let me give you a reason no one else has given. Arisztid, for example. Due to injuries, he has very little short-term memory. To the point he can put medication in his mouth and forget to take a drink and swallow it (doesn't always happen, but it has). In cases like that, I know that he will NEVER remember, without me reminding him. So I do so. With love, respect, and understanding. And I will continue to do so. Happily.
  • Once or twice, usually. However, there are some special cases.
  • Whooo, I can barely remember when I tell myself to do something, If I want someone else to do something, I write it down, so I don't have to bother with it again.
  • It depends is it your husband and you ask him to change a light bulb and he could care less abou that...or to fix a tv and thats important to him! just joking..You should have to tell or ask something once, but most people only remember what is important to them.
  • It's a very simple formula, actually. If you're married to the person, first take the year they were born. Now, subtract it by their age, and that's how many times you have to ask before theyremember. If you're not married to the person, quit telling them what to do!
  • Acctually, I've heard that it takes eight times to remeber
  • It depends on how important it is to you that they do or remember it.
  • it just depends on how important it is to the person to get it done or remember it.
  • In Psych they quoted a study that said that the average person needs to hear something an average of 8 times before it is committed to true memory :-). lolz!
  • I dunno - But if anyone has noticed - The Bible repeats itself many times. So people not "getting it" has been going on long before our time. :)
  • I think once! LOL
  • If the person you're talking to is capable of doing it or remember it, then ONCE should be enough. People don't listen sometimes! :)
  • One less time than they think is appropriate...in the absence of compliance...a swift clip 'round the noggin is all anyone needs to conform!! ;o)
  • I beleive you shouldn't have to tell anyone more then twice ro do or remember something.
  • tell them as many times as you want and if they dont want hear it they wont. But if they want to it depends what type of person they are if they realy forgetful (ie.me) they wont remeber anyway LOL
  • only one but people do have a lot of things to do it can be easy to forget
  • 3 FOR GUYS AND1 FOR WOMEN. YOU ASK WHY? GUYS LIKE STRIP CLUBS, AND ALL STRIPCLUBS HAVE XXX OR 123. WOMEN JUST LISTEN BETTER.
  • If you are in a position to tell them what to do... that is if you their boss, parent, team leader, supervisor, teacher etc... then once is enough. however, if it's a friend, lover, husband, someone of equal authority, then really, you can carry-on telling them until it's done...one day it will be done, that would be the day they are ready to do it.
  • probably once

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