"If ex-lovers remain friends, it could only mean one of two things: either they're still in love, or never really were." Do you consider this true or false?
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ChillWinterheart
ANSWERS: 37
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False. I am still best friends with my ex-boyfriend of three years. We were best friends before we started dating, had a beautiful relationship full of mutual love, but broke up when we realized each of us was not really what the other was looking for. I still love him, yes, but in a different way than I did before.
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False! We were in love, got divorced, and are still in love. we love life, and dont wanna be tied down by ritualistic "marriage" because it is custom. marriage (gags) the tax breaks arent even worth it!!
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false-at least i have found that to be true for me-cool question -smile and enjoy the day
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Its been true for me, but I guess it all depends on the person.
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I consider it true.
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Very interesting question. I think it's true. Reflecting back on my past relationships, they definitely follow this form. If anyone thinks it's untrue, maybe they haven't truly been in love.
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Wow, that's a tough one and difficult to answer. It could be that they really love but not in a romantic way even if they did at one time.
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i think its false - i am still really great friends with my ex. but then again.. i cannot be too sure because i dont know how the other party really feels. perhaps he loves me? i wouldnt know.
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for me its true... why? because upon entering a relationship,we consider the feelings we have for each other. and that feelings is definitely love. in the case where the ex-lovers being friends after breaking up, i could agree to the statement. love is a very powerful thing. if you really love your lover, befriending him/her would bring about the feelings you have. in that case, we can say that they are still friende because they are still bound to that feeling(love). on the other hand, they befriend each other may be because what they thought was love when they were still lovers was a meer infatuation.
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I consider it false, because for me, it is. If ex lovers remain friends it could easily mean they loved each other very much at the time of being lovers, and though they no longer love each other in the same way as they did then, they can still enjoy each others company, hold each other in high regard and maintain a friendship as a result of that :)
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People who are mature thinking adults can remain friends after. Just because you were not right for each other does not mean you that you can't wish them happiness with someone else. The reason you can remain friends is because you were drawn together by common interest, that doesn't change just because of a split.
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True. I have an ex who is now a friend, only because it was never serious. I retain good relations with the men I was in a casual relationships - no hard feelings. There is too much history for me to be friends with the men I had serious relationships with.
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In my personal experience I think it's false. Broadly speaking I don't consider it to be a simple yes or no question.
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I consider it to be, false
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True, at least one of them still has feelings for the other or neither of them were in love, if they're happy being just friends in the end.
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I still don't know. My ex wanted to be friends so I said why not. Come to find out, he just wanted a booty call. Because I wouldn't agree, he won't even acknowledge me. I gues his definition of friend was different than mine.
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That sounds about right. It's hard to not feel that visceral loathing toward an ex if you put so much work and trust and hope into being with them and it didn't work out.
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I'm not in love with any of my exes. I didn't know what love WAS until I met my Angel. She's shown me how perfect and beautiful Love and be. I'm friends with only two of my exes and we're only that, friends. I could never love ANYONE else after I met her.
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Each of those answers is a distinct possibility. In the first instance, the exes would be trying to hang onto the relationship. In the second scenario, their feelings must not have been very strong, or else they would be upset and want to avoid each other. However, these aren't the only two options. Life can rarely ever be simplified into binaries. Instead, it may be that they really loved each other, but they understand that their personalities aren't compatible for a romantic relationship.
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I consider it an over simplification of a complex subject. Different people and relationships have different dynamics. OIf course, there is grief and transition from one stages of a relationship to another, but mature people can usually handle it.
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There is no real answer to this question because unless you are in that kind of situation you cannot possible know what goes through the mind of lovers who remain freinds after their relationship ends. I am freinds with my ex boyfriend of over five years and while I know for certain that I did and do still love him I believe it is our genuine mutual love and respect for each other that helps us to remain freinds and support each other. There is no formula, there is no general rule and there is no point in trying to make sense of it all. However, it still does'nt stop people. ;-)
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false.
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Big Time False !
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Totally False
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False.
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I consider it false. I believe people can fall out of love.
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False... My ex-wife and I are still friends. We're not still in love, but we really were.
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False. I didnt contest my wife's devorce. I loved her, I wanted what was best for her. Love fades with distance and new friends. I always liked her, and I would do anything for her. Then I married again and like just faded away.
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i think that could be the case for many situations... but i dont think its only one or the other. sometimes, you both fall out of love with each other, but you still like each other. Friendship is always at the core of the relationship (hopefully).
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strangely enough and against the majority i completely agree
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false. people tend to make such sweeping generalizations because that is the only way it could happen with their mindsets. they can not concieve anything contrary to their mental framework.
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false. but i think if they really *were* in love...it takes some time. particularly if one of them were very hurt by the break up. eventually they may get to the "friend" part but both parties hearts must be healed.
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I think time is the key here.
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I can only speak from my own experience...I have an ex boyfriend who I am still friends with. We love each other, but I'm sure, even though we thought so at the time, we were never "in-love" with each other.
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You can never be friends with someone who you truly love. It just hurts too much. How can you stand by that person side and watch how this person is showing affection to someone else. How can you? If you can, then not for long. Unfortunatly, you have to move on.
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False. I was in love with my ex when we broke up. We didn't speak to each other for years and we were 1500 miles apart. We now live two miles from each other in a different state than we lived when we broke up and we are both happily remarried and visit each others home often( with our spouses).
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I consider this to be very true. If you love the other person it is too painful to settle for less.
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