Well, it will be hard for her to forgive you. What you did is going to be detrimental to the length of time that it will take you to get back with her. She will be probably be hurt, very hurt. You have to make it up to her. Truly, with your heart, apologize to her. When she feels that you know you've done wrong, then she will forgive you. Before all of this done, you must realize the damage that was dealt.

Learn from this experience and vow never to cheat again. Hopefully when you find another girlfriend, you will cherish her and treat her with respect. Sorry, but the chances of you getting this particular girl back are very slim.

ask forgiveness and promise not to repeat your mistake.

Go. Apologize. Apologize again and again. Don't repeat.

Trust is one of those things that's pretty hard to repair when it gets broken. Not impossible, but difficult. Forgiveness isn't complicated, but it can be hard to come by -- and even if she forgives you there's still the trust issue. So this one may be gone. I dunno (really, nobody knows, not even you or she). Do your best to communicate honestly with her, but don't cling: your life will go on even if she doesn't take you back. At a minimum, learn what you can learn from the experience.

well if you cheated on her than there nothing you can do nobody want's to be hurt like she was in this case she doesn't want to be with a cheater.

the only way to get her back is to find a way to repair the trust. Right now.. it's broken and if she is hurt enough, there is probably nothing that can be done to fix this. If you realize NOW that you need her, that may suggest that you took her for granted and didn't appreciate her before you cheated. If she realized this, then you may as well move on. If there is a chance that your relationship can be saved, there is no easy way to do it... Imagine you had a broom and used it as you saw fit, didn't appreciate the broom and then one day in a fit of rage or maybe just being silly, you broke it in half. How can you fix the broom so that you can have it once again? There is no "broom repair kit" that could make it easy, and if you did improvise a way to fix it... it will never be the same broom.

Keeping it in your pants is a start. Remorse means nothing at this point. You cheated. It's over. Find someone new. Don't f*** it up this time.

So you cheated. So what? It's not the biggest thing in the world. If she really cared for you she wouldn't have walked out without trying to repair your relationship. Few men manage to get through relationships or even marriage without cheating, or, as I would have it, having other relationships. I wouldn't go through life reading the same book over and over again, I wouldn't dance only one dance, and I wouldn't eat the same food day after day. Fidelity is a recent invention of the puritan element in the world. Don't call it cheating--it's really just living in the real world, unsuppressed by unrealistic expectations.

To be honest - I think once the trust factor is gone in a relationship, there's not alot you can do get that back. The ball is in her court now.. Why did you cheat on her in the first place? you say you need her, but your actions suggest the exact opposite! Think of it like this - how would you feel if she did that to you.. Imagine how you would feel about it!! Sorry, that didn't really answer your question did it! Just give her time!!

I don't know what to say to you that hasn't already been said, as it's been said sometimes it's hard for a man/boy to keep themselves from temptation, but really the only person you can blame is yourself. Now I would advice you to forget the past, hard thing to do for sure. But maybe start off by writing her a letter, explaining how it happened and why, explain to her how it made you feel, and how you are feeling now, tell her that you know you broke her trust and don't expect her to forgive you, you can only EARN that forgiveness. And how to do that is up to you, because really you did make the mess, so now you either have to lay in it, or clean it up. Hope I helped some.

Men and woman should give each other a little room. There's nothing wrong with having more than one friend.

I think you can't do anything at this point. Give her time to vent, and I'd say she'll probaly rub your face about it from here on after. I don't know if its worth it for her sake mentally or yours , really. She'll always see herself as weak for taking you back, and you'll probaly assume can get away with alot of crap you shouldn't.So add resentment to the vibe. Plus, there's trust issues from here on out. She'll be better off with a guy who won't cheat on her. You crossed the line, accept it.

Apologize and cross your fingers.

Say sorry. But I doubt she would forgive you right away, or even forgive you ever. Just hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

I'm paying too for my mistakes. Not cheating, but selfishness and competitiveness. Let go of what you want, think of others first and you will be happier.

If your partner does not put up with cheating, then go find one that does. It's called commitment. If you can't trust your partner to stick around with the occasional cheating experience, how can you ever trust them? Perhaps the woman you cheated with would be a better choice for you. Sounds like she's a little more available anyways. It pays to mingle. You'll be so glad to find all the choices available out there, so don't settle for a girlfriend that would just break up with you. You deserve the best, so shop around. There are some good ones out there, but they take a little work to find. Good luck.

If she really cared she would have tried to understand and forgiven him. She didn't really care about the relationship so she used his infidelity as an excuse to walk. Women who really care about their lovers and family know that they must work to keep things together. Overlooking a trifle should be easy if she cared.

leave her a lone for a while, she'll get over it, but still send her subtle hints of how much you love her and how much she means to you...its gonna suck for a while, but if the relationship was strong to begin with and you two were really that much in love, then everything will fall into place, and it will be even better rebuilding that commitment, because you can show her the strength you and she have together...

make a plan for the next time all your thinking drops from head A to head B. how are you not going to cheat again. cause she will absolutely make you mad, ignore you, not want to fool around, etc...and there will always be some little hottie who thinks you invented air-so whats your plan?

are you going to do it again? you have already proved to her that you dont love her and you dont care for her. You my friend need an OPEN relationship...you cant have your cake and eat it too. And why should she forgive you? you didnt have an agrement that she knew you would be sleeping with other ppl...how would you feel if she was cheating on you? hurts hey! geez not to mention if you got an infection and gave it to her...you need to go a mess around untill your ready to have a gf...you cant hurt ppl and expect them to stay!

At the very top of this answer Strongheart said. "If she really cared for you she wouldn't have walked out without trying to repair your relationship." + The point that a few of the commenters are trying to make is that it seems that many women have an all or nothing, black & white view. Once the fidelity in a marriage has been cracked they are ready to walk out, leave the children fatherless, destroy their family. They don't seem to try to "repair" the damage done to the marriage. + I see the wonderful advantages of a marriage free of any hint of infidelity; but the fact is that 50% of American marriages are broken. It seems to me, that the responcibilty of men & women who marry is to their children first. Throwing men out, and twisting the love that once existed into hate and bitterness is foolish. + Self-righteousness leads no-where.

Repeat after me: "You're right, I'm wrong, I'm sorry." This should be your mantra!

Next time try thinking with the OTHER head.

it won't be easy but you have to realize you messed up and move on. like others said, the trust is gone whether you get back with her or not.

Talk to her, good luck, remember this is not just hard on you but you broke her heart and her trust, give her time and let her know that you are sorry and that you messed up. Good Luck!

Nah. If you cared about her and needed her, see, you wouldn't have cheated in the first place.

im getting bashed around and am leaving now. sucked in you should have thought about it before you did it. im sorry but your a !@#$%^ dickhead!!!

If you "need" her than that's an indication (to me) that you actually "need" to be alone for a while. When you reach the point in which you love being by yourself, love yourself fully to the point in which you do not feel the need to have another to complete you, then (and only then) will you truly be ready to love another. You have a heightened sense of "need" presently only because she left you. Time will lessen this feeling of desperation you currently are experiencing. Should she, on the outside chance, agree to have you back, you will never live this transgression down and she will most likely always use it as a tool to control you and to punish you. In other words, she will make your life miserable. There is a reason that you choose to have sex with someone else- You are probably too young to have a committed relationship at this time. Explore and enjoy new experiences for a while and make no promises to no one until you have completed school, achieved that career, climbed that mountain, whatever it may be. Women will always be a distraction at least and a roadblock at worst to achieving your dreams when you are young. Man up, if I may be so blunt.

you need to first come up with a reason why you cheated. you can not even hope to repair the relationship until you answer that. women view sex as a connection with another person and when you choose to connect with someone else in a way that was supposed to be a connection just between the two of you, you broke her heart.

You made the mistake. Now it's all in her hands. She may still love you. But that doesn't mean that she wants to get back together. All you can do is hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Defitely don't call her, email her, it'll just make things worse. You'll push her away. However, DO EXPRESS THAT YOU ARE SORRY AND STILL LOVE HER AND HOPE SHE CAN FORGIVE YOU. YOU ALWAYS NEED TO DO THAT! It's ok to ask her once if she would be willing to give you another chance. See what she says. After that.. Take time to learn from this and reflect and sort some things out. Let her come to you, if she does. If she wants it she will. If not, it's time to move on. What's done is done. Take all the lessons and growth you had with her and put that to use with someone else possibly. And most importantly... Forgive yourself and promise you'll never do it again. And show the next girl you won't. Good luck! The first step is forgiving yourself and asking her for it in return. The rest is up to her.

stop getting caught!!

if you really want her back, sit her down and spill all your feelings to her. let her know you care about her and love her. and if she says no, ask if you can be friends. its better to be friends than nothing.

People screw up. Humans are defined by being flawed. But that doesn't make it easier for her to forgive you. If you truly want her back, not because you miss having that comfort or becuase you feel guilty, then persistence is the way to go. She definitely needs her space right now to think and clear her mind, but she's evaluating you as well to see if your every move shows remorse. So, be persistent. Hang out with her, if she is ready take her on a date, and do everything you can to let her know that she can trust you again. But if you truly love her you won't give up until you have exhausted all options.

hey Man!!........gud to hear that frm a guy realizing tht....he wnts his girlfriend bk.......vry few Man r thr.who realizes thr mistakes......she will cum bk to u....try hard...mke sure wat evr u say her ths..time..thts true n frm ur heart....b happy...... Wish My Boyfriend hv realised it.......ur girlfriend is lucky......

maybe if you told her you knew you were wrong and you wont do it ever again.. try to remind her about good times you both went through..

It may be too late, it just may not be worth it from her point of view to go back down that road.

Nothing is a stupid mistake when it comes to being unfaithful, nothing, you have to deal with the consequences.

Learn from your Boo Boo!!!! & don't do it again.

I'm sorry that I can not show much sympathy here. This being that if you need her so much, you would not have cheated in the first place, all you can do is plead to her. Other than that, I'm at a loss of how to help as many women will know the phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. Maybe you should take to to think why you cheated and how much it must of affected her.

I'm in the same boat as you, bud. I don't know what to do either.

dude, not to be mean but you F'ed up big time. you might as well move on. most women will agree with this if you ever really loved her you would have never cheated. there no excuses or reason to validate cheating.

well u must not love her very much to do that to her. all you can do is tell her how you feel and leave it alone from there. dont bug her, pressure her OR stalk her. shes going to need time to think things over. the ball will be in her court, and if she wants you back then shell come to you. if not, learn from your mistake and never do it to another person again. if she does want to give it another shot, itll probably never be the same b/c of whats happened

Cheating is bad. Not good. You screwed up. Nothing you can do or say can make it better. If your gf isnt an idiot you'd never have another chance. You lost the trust and you can never get back 100% and what good is a relationship without trust? Nice move. Good Luck

you asked the same question guys have been asking since the beginning of time. What to do? what to do? Well, you sort of broke all trust boundaries. She is incapable of trusting you now. You screwed up and its going to be a long road for you to rebuild that trust. Take it slow. You hurt her and can you blame her for breaking up with you? Have you thought about maybe you are not ready to be in a committed relationship with someone? You stated in your question, you need her. Why do you need her? Just curious why you didnt need her or think about needing her while you were busy cheating? There is no quick fix for this dude. Take some time to examine what you really want out of life. Women want someone who they feel they can trust, make them smile and know that you are someone that will be there for them. You conquer those three my friend, and you will live happily ever after. good luck.

If U cheated then she should have broken up with U! You are a jerk? It is funny...apparently you didn't need her while you were cheating! LOL! Stop crying...you are only crying now because you got caught! If you are going to be stupid be had better be tough!! One more thing, there is no pill for stupid!

here's the thing.. she broke up with you.. because of that and how she handled the situation i very highly doubt that she'd go out with you again. those that forgive often stay with their significant others because they have a higher tolerance and they're willing to compromise and make things work. your girlfriend probably had high expectations that you would never do anything to hurt her at this degree... from the very beginning she already didn't tolerate this sort of behavior so the chances of changing her views are very slim. the best you can do is to learn from this and treat your next girlfriend with respect... society seems to forget what respect is.

My boyfriend cheated on me and I just found out on Sunday. Of course I left him and I hope he never comes back. You have betrayed her trust in you and nothing will EVER be the same. You'd best be moving on with the girl you thought was better than her in the first place. If you really needed & loved her you woulda never strayed from her in the first place.

i did to my fella justed and i cryed and cryed and he justed said one more chance just ask for another chance

it depends on if you have a cheating problem? if so let her live her life and stop hurting her but if you realy love her and wont cheat again then tell her and do somthing really romantic like flowers a card with your real feeling us girls love to see a man sorry and cry and show they really need us

Ask yourself why you need her. If you miss what you had because it's gone now, leave her alone. If you love her do what's best for her, even if it's not what feels the best for you. Are you going to get bored of her again? Be honest with yourself before you approach her, don't cause her more hurt than you have. And if after you've examined yourself you find that you don't just need someone to be happy and that you do indeed love her find a way back into her heart. You know her. Be what she needs without and expectation for a return. Be selfless and let her own you because you selfishly chose to betray her. If you're not willing to do that. You don't need her.

you made your bed.. now sleep in it. life isn't a video game, you can not reload from last save point to undo your mistakes

Learn from your mistake and don't cheat on the next one!

well the first thing u should do is agree with the brake up..second stop calling her alot third wen she calls u tell her ur busy and tell her to call u back later...fourth move and and let her know u dont care about her but dont think wrong is just to get her jelous..fifth dont do wat she says anymore and do all the opposite u used 2 do with her trust me it works cuz its working with me..

just let her go move on, if she come back..she yours.

if u really ready to get back to her n if u r sure u can be hosent with her n not to cheat agian but u must find a great way to tell her that ur sorry n if she loves u she'll 4give u best luck 4 u

You must earn her trust back..but it does take time explain to her that u were wrong & tell her how u really feel do something very special for her but, just remember u never wanna go to far to were she says something to hurt you dont move to fast an be carefull with words an actions

Nothing. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

If you really care about her and cant trust yourself then let her move on so you dont hurt her again but if you think she needs you and you KNOW you wont do that again then prove to her your sorry prove to her you need her

call it a lesson learned and move on

lesson learned. Dont cheat on your next girlfriend.

The most important things in any kind of relationship is trust and honesty. Once they are broken, it's hard to regain. You made your mistake, it'd be extremely hard for her to trust you again. Even if you manage to get back with her, there would always be this scar. It's nothing that can be removed. I suggest you move on and don't hurt her again. But if you're so sure you won't do it again, ask her for another chance and if she says no and you really do love her, just let her go. Loving someone is not to be with her but to be happy for her even if she's not with you.

move on. really, you'll cause her more heartache by staying with her. trust me.. she'll always question your sincerity and if you love her, she'll question whether you really comprehend the meaning of love.. Don't let her compromise her life because all she'll ever think about is why you cheated, who was it with, was she to blame for it, etc.. don't be so selfish. You obviously don't need her you're just experiencing withdrawal. As for her, she doesn't need a guy to give her flowers. Allow her to move on with her life, give her time to herself so that she can forget the bad things you've done (perhaps one day she'll forgive you when she's blessed enough to find the right one), and leave her with a fresh start. The best thing you can do is move on yourself and take the lessons learned by not making the same terrible deeds to your next girlfriend. If you want to take the hard road and try to be with her.. then you must realize that earning back her trust isn't going to be the easiest thing in the world. You'll get irritated, you'll get frustrated. Even when you think you've done your best to make up for the cheating and tried to be the best boyfriend possible for her, she'll always have her moments of doubt with you. It will take years for her to trust you again. Are you ready for that? This is assuming she will take you back.. but it seems like your girlfriend made the correct decision to break up with you as other girls would be too weak to make that decision. Just be a good boy from now on. We need less of people who cheat and more honest and faithful individuals out there.

Talk to her. Don't whine, don't beg, don't act like an ass. Just ask if you can talk, civilly somewhere public like a cafe. Apologise, tell her you understand you have to earn her forgiveness. If she isn't ready to get back together then suggest you just be friends so you can prove you aren't going to hurt her. Then don't hurt her. Don't push her physically or romantically and if she loves you you will get back together, and you will be alot stronger because of it.

life is short and hard like a body building elf so save the planet and kill yourself, if your feeling down and out of what your life is all about lift your head up high and blow your brains out. or just never forget the problems you cheating on her caused, and things will never be the same, the trust will be gone, her family will want to kick your ass, and even your parents are ashamed. and when you get to hell, find my wife and spit on her.

nothing. You had your chance. You blew it. You lost her. Say you're sorry and move on.

call her and tell her your sorry plan a special date for her and suprize her

Maybe not much. You can learn a good lesson for next time, though.

All you can do now is apologise and maybe she'll forgive you. Or even at the least she may remain your friend.

You're wrong for cheating and since you admitted that you did cheat and it was stupid that wasbig of you to do although you were wrong when you said you need her now that was a lie you dont need anyone but God.

Prey that she is EXTREMELY forgiving. It'll never be the same. move on as she probably has and never make the same mistake again.

realize your mistake and move on... There are other women out there. And maybe you wont make the same mistake again. You are a jerk. It was stupid. She was right. You need her probably less than you think. There are a million fish in the sea. Choose another one

Learn from your mistake and if you get her back, treat her like she deserves to be treated from now on and if not then the next girlfriend that you get, treat her good and no more cheating!!!

I am in the exact same position and this is why im here. i feel horrible at the very thought. she makes my world spin. my only advice would be to admit to your mistakes straight up. only once are the faults undrstood is it time to start anew. good luck trying to rebuild your relationshipt, i may need it for me as well.

"Move on!! She's always gonna have it on her mind and throw it at you, that's if it's evident to her that you have cheated!!!"

I would say the real need is to learn from the consequences of your actions, and be more respectful of the next girl you get involved with. If you still need "Her" and she doesn't need you, your continued suffering is guaranteed.

Pray.

there's nothing you can do. the damage is done. move on bro.

be4 doing anything u have to be 100% sure that u dnt just need her that u love her,, u should promise urself that u'll treat her better this time n tht u honstly wont cheat on her again n wont heart her.. if u can do that then u might have a chanse with her if not then LEAVE HER THE HELL ALONE...

Though I did not cheat in my last relationship, I completely understand what it feels like to do something so unforgivable that it seems impossible that your significant other will ever take you back... I'm in that position right now as we speak, and it really is an awful thing to go through. You feel like you need the person more than ever, but you've already screwed up and they aren't there to help you pick up the pieces. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me three months ago and has not talked to me in over two months now, and every effort I make to talk to him, he disregards. It's very painful, I know. The best thing I can tell you is to apologize sincerely from the bottom of your heart. It may not get you very far in the beginning, but I think if you apologize and truly mean it, then let her be for the time being and see how time will heal everything. That's the thing... time heals everything, but sometimes we are impatient and we want everything here and now and it's difficult to wait it out. I'm not going to be like all of these other cynics and tell you that it's a slim chance you can get her back... anything is possible, and if you really want her back, if there's a will, then there's a way. If you truly love her she will realize that with time and she may come around and be able to talk to you, but I will tell you that it will probably take some time. Depending on the kind of person she is, it could take days, weeks, maybe even months-- but like I said, as long as you are truthful and sincere, you can't go wrong. You may have fucked up royally, but like I said, no relationship is ever completely irreparable. People are capable of immeasurable amounts of forgiveness, sometimes it just takes a little time. Don't give up, man. Hang in there.

i would suggest you buy her flowers and start your begging.

You can try and get her back but the truth is that what you had before is now broken. You will never be able to completely repair it. You should only proceed forward if you can accept that truth.

You should have thought of that before you cheated.

Show her that you need her. that you can't live without her. don't be pushy-we don't like pushy men. Give it some time- go back to her. show her the wounds she opened and tell her you know the wounds you gave her. If she dosen't want you- you're a jerk- but who am i to judge?

try to be with other people...see if you can find someone else...give her a chance to see if she is happy with someone else...if neither of you are happy without each other then she will come back to you...for now just let her know your sorry and then give her some space, if you are meant to be together she will come back to you (just dont screw it up again if she does be sure u want to be with her and only her)

probly nothing!

i had the same problem.tell her that you are sorry and that you love her

actions speak louder than words. i would just be straightforward with her. tell her you know you screwed up and that you hope to earn her trust again. give her a lot of space, but let her know you still care. at this point she wont really believe a word that comes out of your mouth, so you gotta prove to her that you can be trustworthy. it will take a while... and be prepared because there is a chance she would never want you back.

if she's forgiving she'll take you back but she will never trust you again, that I guarantee

I don't think there is anything you can do. You cheated, that is an awful thing to do. You need to give her space, if she is interested she will contact you.

To be frank...you only want her now because you cant have her.

Hey, I'm in the same situation as you. I cheated on my girlfriend of 4 years. Though i wasn't looking to cheat, it did happen. Earlier in the year, my girlfriend said something to me which destroyed. After 3 years of a good relationship, she said to me 'You will never love me like how my ex did". I always asked her what she meant by that but she said she doesn't know. Then a few months later, she sees him at a party and starts crying. At this point I was torn up because the girl I love and gave the world too seemed like she wasn't over her ex-boyfriend. So instead of breaking up with her, I just continued the relationship thinking she was just going through a phase. Well, there was a girl who liked me but knew I was in a relationship. She through herself at me and I ended up cheating on my girlfriend. I felt so bad that i cut off all communications with the girl. the girl ended up being a stalker and my ex-girlfriend found out. We broke up, but tried working the situation out for two months. It was hard because the girl who i cheated with kept stalking my ex and I. Yesterday my ex came to my apartment to gather the rest of her things. Looked me in my eyes and teared up. Gave me a long hug and said I'm leaving you for good. Though I'm torn up now, I let her go because I seen the pain I caused her. She needs time alone from me, so I know she will start dating other people. I'm a true believer in if it's meant to be, it will be. No one will be able to stop that. So let her go, let her think, let her date. If she misses you and is willing to give you another chance, she will be back. I pray my ex will come back because I truly love her...I was just hurt and made a stupid decision. This was a learning experience for me. If I get into another relationship, I will make sure communication is a priority. I never want to go through the feelings and emotions I have been through for the last 3 months. It's not a good feeling. I wish you the best of luck and hope your ex comes back. And Please, if she does cherish her and your relationship. At the same time, I hope and pray my ex returns to me. Because she's the girl I do want to be with for the rest of my life.