My friends little girl (5y/o) told her mum that her stepdad has been doing naughty things to her, but my friend doesnt believe her and is choosing her to belive her bf, i have reported him, what would you have done? Did i do the right thing?
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You did the right thing, I would have done the same, Its the child that is important here no one else.
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Good call Zubradevine. Now just let the proper authorities take care of this pedophile. I knew I like you more than for your good looks.:-)
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And what if that's not correct, you ruined a man's reputation.
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You did the right thing - worst case scenario, nothing was going on. Best case, she's taken out of a bad situation. Great move. Seriously!
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You did the exact right thing! Better safe than sorry! I am sure even the man in question would not mind being questioned concerning something as serious as this. Lets just hope she was lying.
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YES, you just might have saved that little girl
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yes you did do the right thing. if she was seriously being abused then you helped save her. and if nothing wrong happened then there still needs to be something done to see why she did it in the first place - because if he didn't do anything wrong, the little girl and her mother need to have a talk and find out why she doesn't like the bf. - either way you did the right thing and i hope the mother believes the daughter.
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Yes you absolutely did the right thing. Three cheers for you! Hip, hip hooray for Zub. Thank gawd you had the weavos to do the right thing!
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You absolutely did the right thing. Young children aren't programmed to know that kind of stuff. She learned it from somewhere. I would not think that she is lying. She is too young to just try to be manipulative like some teens are with stepfathers. I would have taken it very seriously and am a little worried that her mother dismissed it. Some mothers actually have proof that there daughters(and sons) are being abused but ignore it of the fear of losing the man...its scary but some people would rather risk their children than loneliness...
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Absolutely..You did the right thing, DOnt even doubt that,By reporting it,you did your duty towards society--Such kids voice this to their parent,but go unheard--its a shame. they later grow up not trusting anyone. If I could I would even report the Mother for 'neglecting' her child. Santoshi Kotian.
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you did the right thing
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You did the correct thing. Denial is so strong in these situations. This child needs an adult to advocate for her. Be strong and don't be afraid to get involve the child needs you.
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you did the right thing, good for you. she's only 5...why would she be lying?
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Yes! No room for any doubt when this kind of thing is said. Thank you for having the courage to do the right thing.
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Yes you most definatly did the right thing. I believe a child should always be given the benefit of the doubt when it comes to things such as these. Ok the child may well be lieing but if they are not then you would never forgive yourself. Besides how many children would lie about something as serious as that, children shouldn't even know things like that exist at such a tender age. Good on you!!!
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You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing! KUDOS TO YOU!! And shame on that little girl's mommy. I can't say for certain if it's happening, but to automatically side with your boyfriend is wrong on SO many levels. I'm glad that little girl has someone in her life who cares about her well being- YOU!! :)
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Some kids do lie. That's just a fact of life - and they lie about things like this at times. The mother may very well have gotten it straightened out. However, it still needed to be reported. Sometimes other people have to do for others what they cannot do themselves. So, I hope it works out well for the innocent party.
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You did the right thing. Why someone would think that their 5yr. old would lie about something like that is beyond me. And why someone would even THINK about a 5 yr. old that way just disguists me.
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You did the right thing. I would have reported it, too. There is absolutely no reason to bypass an investigation when a child comes to you for help. Shame on the mother.
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Yes, the little girl can't do anything on her own. While it's possible that it's not true, it's also possible it is and there should be an investigation.
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I think you did the right thing. Although, did the Mom ask "what do you mean by naughty things?" A 5 year old's definition of "naughty things" may be completely different that what we think. If you are using the euphamism though, and the daughter did say more, then I would she has been exposed to something she shouldn't have been, whether it is the father or a babysitter or an older kid in the neighborhood. Children of that age don't know about those things to be able to lie about them.
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Yes you did the right thing, if the girl was actually being abused, than this will hopefully help her. If she wasn't, than that will probably turn up in an investigation.
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Completely, I think the mother is an idiot for not taking her daughter seriously!
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I'd have done exactly the same thing -- it's all too often that women will sacrifice their children for the sake of having a man in their life...
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I would have done the same thing... MOST kids don't make stuff up like that!
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You did the right thing. The woman is in denial or doesn't want to stir up things for fear of losing that jerk. That's probably why she told you about it, thinking you would do something and then she wouldn't be the bad guy.
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Yes, you did the right thing. This isn't something that should be dismissed, even if it is not true.
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you definitely did the right thing. Its better you have it checked right away, if nothing is happening then nothing will happen, and if something is happening then you will feel better when it is dealt with by the authorities. I am not sure where you are from, but if you are in Canada, if you suspect someone is being abuse you must report it, it is the law!
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I would have too, and you DID do the right thing.
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I have one thing to say to you.... WAY TO GO!!!!!!! you should always believe the child!!!! especially when its a case of molestation kids aren't that devious that young to make things up like that!!!!
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I think you did the right thing. You did what I would have done! Your friend needs to stick up for her child not some boyfriend!
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you did the right thing. This girl came to her mom for help and she did nothing. This little girl is only 5 years old. A 5 year old would not know to make up things like that (and believe me I know how wild a 5 year old's imagination is!). If you had not helped her she would have to keep going through that nightmare over and over. I say kudos to you for stepping up and being the adult when her mom wouldn't.
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If I was in your shoes I think the only thing I would have done differently is FIRST I would have beat the shit out of the boyfriend Then BEAT the shit out your "friend" then called social services., Her mom isn't a mom at all. First protect your children then protect your self. If mom doesn't keep you safe and believe in you who else will???
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Without evidence, it is hard to say which one is a liar ... much better to just call for an investigation by the proper authorities ... if the guy is the liar, you just saved the girl and locked up the bad guy ... if the girl is the liar, then some minor discipline and education will fix that ... either way, reporting was the right thing to do. You may also consider getting a few dozen "self-spy" cams ... there are some really nice ones that are hidden inside picture frames with a standard USB drive and a small battery.
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I think you did the right thing. And that's what I have done also.
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This is a very sad situation...the women who are so pathetically needy for a man that they serve up their children to be used as sacrificial lambs..anything to keep their "man"..it is disgusting, evil and unnatural..such a "parent" should be stripped of parental rights..the child should be removed from the home because as it is, that child is already scarred for life. :( I would have done the same thing..someone needs to speak for that child..as for your "friend", what a sad excuse for a human being! :(
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you did the right thing,there is no room for prevarication or self dellusion if the child has said this, then you must contact th relevant authorities, regardless of your frienship with the mother, it is usual for paedophiles to choose a relationship with a vulnerable single parent as a way to get to the child, like extreme grooming.The authorities can check medicaly and can tell if any abuse has hapened, good luck and good for you.
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You seem like a nice person but your friend doesnt why would a poor little innocent girl of FIVE make something up like that
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Hey, this was some time ago. You did the right thing VERY much!! Kudos to you. What came of it, do you know?
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YES! You did the right thing & thanks you for doing it.
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My niece had an abnormal looking pubic area and (after checking with a fellow parent of a girl,I had only seen boys) I informed the parents and they took her to the doctor and she was fine. BUT what a bad time.People wanted me to keep quiet, they were yelling at me,I was crying all the time.It nearly broke our family up,BUT it was entirely worth it to know she was fine. I AM PROUD OF YOU! You did the right thing! Never doubt yourself no matter what,you are the one who was needed by the little girl and you stood up for the challenge,good for you. It is scarey eh?I was so scared and shaking.My husband stood by me and I thank God that he did.
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She's 5, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't lie, especially about this.. this is pretty extreme for a 5 yr old. You did do the right thing.
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Absolutely! It makes me sick that her mother didn't believe her...i mean come on. I'm glad you were strong and stood of for that little girl when no one else was. I really hope that he hasn't done anything to her but at least if he has or is, it'll be stopped. Good job.
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good for you.You are a very good friend to do that.That child need protection.I am glad you stepped in where you were needed.We need more people like you in the world.
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I would have done the same thing without any doubt, we need to protect the innocent children of this world. God bless you
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in not to sure coz young kids some times lie but i guess u did da right thing coz if she was tellin da truth u could have saved her life
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Id call the authoritys and get that sick son of a bitch locked up for a lon long time, and kick some crap out of the pervert
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Zubradevine I beleive you did the right thing. Koodos for you!Children rarely make up stories like this. This little girl needs protection. Unfortunately because the little girl did not divulge this information to YOU, it could get kinda sticky. This idiot friend of yours should have belived her daughter and let the authorities determine if the allegations are founded. But because she is choosing to not believe the allegations she could and probably will coerce the child into retracting what she said. This mother wants to protect her BF. And shell probably do it at any cost. It's infortunate that this little girls mother chose not to believe her, because her child should be her FIRST priority. Thank God there are caring people like u in the world. I hope things turn out well.
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absolutely!!!!! congrats to you
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Definitely.A 5 year old simply isn't mature enough to make up such stories.Haven't you seen enough LIFETIME stories about this subject.Mommy is so in love that she think her little girl is just jelous and can't see the tree from the woods.I honestly would castrate these pedofil mental cases because that's what the are and somehow get the MOM to act like she's not around and listen on the BF.I'd hate myself for not doing anything if it ever gets out and that little girl grows up to be a broken soul with no self esteem,afraid of people around her.
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I would have done the same thing. Not to say anything rude about your friend, but how the hell are you not going to listen to your 5yr old? Kids who are 5 don't know that kind of stuff!!! And yes, you definetly did the right thing. I would report it again just to make sure something got done. I thank you for what you did. I was that little girl once and i wish there were more people like you.
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Echoing most of the answers already here - Yes, you did the right thing.
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Five year olds lie. They lie about stealing from the cookie jar, about how many M&Ms the babysitter let them eat, about whether they pushed their brother off the bed or if it was an "accident"... They do NOT lie about being molested. You did the right thing.
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absolutely, both the mother and father should be jailed
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The same thing occured in our family, the child was not believed by her mother either. However the rest of the family all believed the child especially as the child described acts that they could not have possibly known without having experienced them!! Children have been known to lie, it's a fact, but as adults we should always give the child the benefit of the doubt and act quickly. If your friend thinks all of this is going to go away, then she is very foolish and WRONG! YOU TOTALLY DID THE RIGHT THING, I REPORTED THE INCIDENT TOO FOR MY CHILD RELATIVE. Don't beat yourself up.
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I know of a similar situation. The stepdad was abusing the child, and the mother didn't believe it. Now her boyfriend has gone, and her adult daughter has nothing whatever to do with her. You did the right thing.
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Yes You did the right thing and hopfully sooner or later he will be caught if he is doing it
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Yes, you certainly did the right thing.
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U DID WHAT EVERYONE SHOULD DO..... U CARED
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yes you did do the right thing how can she not believe her daughter shes still a baby for gods sake why the hell would a five year old child come out with that ,i would of done the same thing as you without a doubt ,hope this monster gets whats coming to him.
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Absolutely, if no one else is willing to take it on, you had to. Bless you.
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i am proud of you. you have saved the child's life, most likely. if you want to know what the child would have felt like later in life had you not intervened, listen to this song: "Daddy" by Korn.
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If I was the mom sure as heck I would go for her. But at the same time its a huge thing so I would really call the cops asap
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yes! you did the right thing. the same thing happened to me when i was a kid and i used to tell, but nobody believed me, so the abuse went on for years. when i became an adult, i hated family members who i had told about the abuse but did nothing to stop it. also, i confronted my abuser who was another family member and he played the dumb role, as if i wouldnt rember. my anger ot the best of me and i attacked him. til this day, i dont talk to him and im 31 years old. you did the right thing and i'd keep calling the cops and reporting him until his ass is behind bars if i were you.
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YES! You did do the right thing. That is what's wrong with the world today is that people DONT want to get involved in these kinds of situations. But thank God for you. In my opinion, ANYONE can have a child, but it takes a SPECIAL person to be a mom. Your "friend" needs to be a little more aware of her surrondings, her daughter, and her bastard of a boyfriend. A 5 year old shouldn't even know about "naughty things." So how would that little girl know about it if it isn't happening to her? She wouldn't know, so therefore it has to be happening! The little girl will more than likely be scared for life, but with your help, she wont be mistreated anymore! You really need to be proud for taking such a couragios step in doing what you did for that little, innocient girl! I would have done the same! As being a mother myslef, "NOTHING" comes before my son and that's the way it should be!
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Yes, you did the right thing. It's hard to believe that the person you love so much could be that sick and twisted inside, but if I had kids and one of them said that to me, I would believe them. As a survivor of this, I can honestly say that I am extremely sickened by this particular set of circumstances.
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yes...you did the right thing...children would rarely make up something like that......
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You totally did the right thing! A lot of times mothers would rather believe their boyfriends, it's very sad but true. If her mother isn't going to stand up for her at least you will. Little babies should NEVER be harmed in that way. If my son said that his daddy or granny was doing bad things to him I would totally believe him and report the motherfuckers because my son is my WORLD!
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Yes
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I'd say you did.
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There is a reason why a five year old child mentions things she has no idea about just pause for thought and listen and observe this child more. annmac
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of course you did the right thing
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You did absolutely the right thing, don't worry. I'd do the same thing too, and make sure the police throw him into prison ASAP. Bravo!
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Oh my gosh did you ever do the right thing.Your friend is no kind of mother at 5 yrs old thats not something you make up.He belongs behind bars he is the lowest form of scum and she isnt much better by failing to protect that baby.I have a 5 year old daughter and I would react first and then question.You should be proud of yourself for reporting it.Far too many people turn a blind eye to child abuse.
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You absolutely did the 100% right thing.
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yes....children seldem lie about childhood sexual abuse......you were right to have reported that bastard......take care....Brian......
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It sounds like the mom was fine with her daughter and husbands relationship. You should have left it alone and not interferred with your friends rights to raise her child how she saw fit. You've now betrayed your friends trust and probably destroyed a family.
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you did the right thing, even if it isn't true. small kids like that rarely lie about things like that. its ashamed her mother isn't more concerned.
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most deff. you have done the right thing! there is no reason for a womens bf should be touching a little five year old girl. its really sad that he has to do that even when he is dating her mother.and if the little girls mother does not want to belive her daughter then that is some mest up stuff seriously.something has to be done with her mother as well..i'll be praying for that little girl and good luck!
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report him to the police and children services and keep up on it, and see if you can get anything to prove it.
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