Am i wrong for dating a guy 11 years older i am 16?
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nikkicole_16
ANSWERS: 52
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oh yeah. heres a secret to make it work...YOU HAVE TO CHEAT!!
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Age gaps like that are acceptable when both partners are of legal age. I would say that you are not wrong though. The guy you are dating is the one who is wrong.
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no......he's wrong for dating a MINOR!
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Yes....If he gets caught he can get put behind bars for dating a minor!!!
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so he is 27, imagine you in this age dating 38 yr old man, sounds fine for me but maybe not for your parents (I presume....)
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Yes you are wrong. However, mistakes choosing partners are expected during the teens. It is he who is in the wrong for taking advantage of a girl almost half his age.
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It's wrong and illegal.
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The age gap is not a problem.....it's just that you're only 16. I'm 21 yrs older than my wife and I've never regreted getting married.
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NO. He is wrong for dating you, In fact, he is committing a crime, called statutory rape. You are being abused. I know it doesn't feel that way but adults are different than teens. You may not know this now or believe me, but he is harming you.
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Actually he is the one that is wrong for wanting to go out with a minor. Thats statutory rape if gets busted.
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So wrong and illegal.
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Illegal too.
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Yes, yes, and yes. Why would a 27-yr-old guy want to date a girl your age? He can't find anyone his own age? And yes, it is illegal.
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There are certain states where the age of consent is less than 18. If you are talking strictly "dating", then no, there is nothing wrong with it specifically. If the relationship gets physical at all, he could possibly be putting himself at risk. I would suggest you try to keep things in perspective. Think of how many times over the last fifteen years the answer has changed for the question, "What do I really want?" Over the next ten to fifteen years, you're going to have the same thing happen over and over again. Somewhere around age 30 is where you start settling in to where the same ideas and thoughts have stuck with you for a while. Until then, making decisions that can have permanent results can be devastating to the rest of your life.
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People, it's only illegal if they are having sex, just to clear that up. But what are the chances that a 27 year old man hasn't already talked a hormonal 16 year old chick into intercourse? With that said, it's not wrong for you to date him, but there can be serious problems with him dating you. Generally, a 27 yo man should be attracted to someone closer to his age. Do your parents know you guys are dating? If not, you need to sit down and discuss this with them and see how they feel about it. Hey, for all we know you are a mature 16 yo and he's an immature 27 yo. Plus you are at a point in your life where you are 'in between' being a child and an adult. It's a tough call to make without knowing both of you involved.
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You, No. But If I found out a 27 year old was dating my 16 year old, his bleached skull would be holding pencils on my desk.
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I have a friend who is married to someone who is 13 years older than she is. She loves him, but sometimes it's really weird because of the age difference. I don't think it's necessarily WRONG unless you're sleeping together (which is wrong no matter how old you are when you get right down to it) but it can be difficult. Would you take him to a school dance with you? To a party? Where would you go with him? I just think it would be hard. Good luck.
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You're not wrong, he is. Its not the age difference that's a problem, its where you both are in your lives that's the problem. An 11 year gap, ten years from now wouldn't be too bad. But think about it, you're in high school and he's been there done that, probably finished college and experienced the party life at one point or another. He's probably thinking about settling down and starting a family by now and you should be no where near that. And besides, its illegal. Think about it.
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No. You're only human and can't help the way you feel. However, it's rather odd that a 27 year old would pursue dating a 16yr. old. I mean, yea, he might have feelings for you but he should be aware that what he's doing is illegal. He should have waited for you to turn 18 at least. Anyway, to me it almost seems like he's just taking advantage of your innocence. Just be cautious and if possible, talk to your parents about this and let them know you are dating this guy.
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i really care for him and he cares for me he never pressures me usally i am making the first move on him he did ask me out but after i told him i liked him(this is when i was 15)he said i was to young but we could be frinds so we kept talking but at my 16 he said he had feeling for me and well we got together he is sweet but what that one guy said bout wanting to settle down and stuff he does but i told him i am not ready he understood!!!
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You are not wrong. He is. You see as you grow older that between 16 and 27 you grow and change a lot. There is really no much that a 16 & 27 year old can do to sustain a relationship. Maybe call him when your 27 and he's 38.
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No, The guy is wrong! id dump him! if he is 27 and your 16, and hes knows how old you are, Hes a sick Bastard!
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It's nothing wrong if you like a older& more experienced guy,he'll just expect more and you might get intimidated.
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Not wrong. But I was thinking the other day, I usually answer these types of questions saying anything is okay as long as you're over sixteen. But if one of my friends started going out with a 27 year old, I'd be worried for them. But I tend to just worry anyway. I don't know.
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yes if you care for him you better leave him alone before he goes to the pen
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Not at all. However, you need to be sure to keep perspective and take it very slow. No offense intended, but at 16, you're simply not mature enough to marry a 27 year old. I don't see a huge problem with getting serious at 20 & 31, but right now, you've got a lot of growing to do. Give it about 4 years. If you're right for each other, you can make it last. If it doesn't withstand the test of time waiting till you reach 20 to be married, a marriage won't withstand the test of time either. Get to know him, hang out with him, be best of friends, and sure! go on dates once in a while. But nothing more; don't get too wrapped up in it at too young of an age.
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First off, check the laws where you live. At age 16 if you are having sex it may be a felony and he could be subject to prison and being on the sex offenders list. Aside from the question of statutory rape, "wrong" isn't the right question really. Age matters more when young than when older, and a 27 year old person and a 16 year old person are typically (and should be) at very different places in their lives. Few teenagers are ready for an adult relationship, and you have to wonder what kind of mature adult is looking for games with kids. People are all unique individuals and some relationships thrive despite age differences even greater than yours. But 16 is AWFUL young and raises many red flags to the outside observer.
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You're not wrong. I think that the guy you're dating is wrong for even considering to going out with underage girls.
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Yup, the guy is a creep and a pedophile.
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You aren't wrong. It's just illegal.
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No, just don't tell anyone about it.
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You are wrong, He is so wrong and breaking the law.
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In 2-3 years it would be fine. At your age it's considered wrong and if you have relations he could end up in Jail.
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that's illegal for a guy over 18 to date a girl under that age.... if you don't get caught your lucky i mean if HE doesn't get caught n locked up LOL... but still wait til your 18
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Many countries have different laws. In the UK you can be married at 16 with parental consent. But knowing if it is legal or not is not the most important thing. A persons intensions are the key. Is this guy wishing to know you, just meet and have a laugh, or is he just trying to be physical? However attractive the idea of experimentation is, you have your whole life ahead of you. Work out what men are after, before you get involved.
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Um... he could be in some serious trouble. Your only sixteen? I'm sorry but what in the world is this man thinking? Your still in high school... and he should probably have a good job and have his life established... what does he need with a little girl who still has her whole life ahead of her? No offense to you or your "boyfriend". But its called statitory rape. If your parents don't agree with it... they can persue him legally... 16 year old daughter+27 year old boyfriend+angry parents= ALOT OF JAIL TIME FOR BOYFRIEND!!! Does he understand that you could cost him his job and everything else that he might possibly have?
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I always wonder what is wrong with the guy ifhe is dating soem one that young. when i was 15 my best freind was dating a guy 11 years older than her. he was nothing special either. i knew it was wrong i tried to tell her but she didnt listen. i went to her parents! i knwo it sounds liek i was not a good freind, but i was... because what was a 27 year old thinking to be with a 15 year old girl!!
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Come on. That is way too old. What 27 year old guy is looking at a 16 year old kid. You should be dating someone around 17 or 18 at the most. Stop this nonsense, he's a perv.
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well lets see, he could be charged with statutory rape. Good friend of mine was a teacher and was dating a girl in his school, but not in any of his classes. She was 17, he was 25. He ended up spending 4 and a half years in PRISON for consensual sex with a minor. So please tell me again if you dont think it is wrong to date a guy 11 years older when you are 16...?
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I would say no,you are not wrong,but why would you want to clutter up your life at 16?.here is a 27 year old man chasing a 16 year old girl and for what reason?well i'll give three guesses and the first two don't count. your are 16,you should allow yourself to be 16,not 16 going on 30.now if you were 40 and he was 51 no body would think twice about. but at 16 it is a little early to take on a 27 year old mans problems. which he has or he would not try to lure a 16 year old person into his web. trust your feelings,if they say its OK then go for it,trust me,at 27 years old he has a lot more experience then you and you should run from this,my feelings say"Run For Your Life"
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what do you have in common? you certainly won't have much in common with his friends, and he'll probably be awkward around your friends. this guy is taking advantage of you. he's a pedophile...sometimes you need an outside perspective, because i'm betting your emotions are clouding your judgement.
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You should tell an adult.
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You are being foolish. He is being criminal. Don't mess with him. You're supposed to be enjoying your youth right now, not playing at being an adult. You will have plenty of time for that later on. When YOU are 27.
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I understand that it isn't all about age but here is what it is about...life experience....lets take me for example...I'm 39 and the most life experience i've had is raising kids....and I date a 28 year old guy who has no kids...no real life experience except young single and free from any responsibilities..well, chances are that it is not going to work out...it's not fair to him, since I have 3 kids already and do not plan on having more...on the other hand, if he were 28, had kids, had been in a long term relationship and has been out on his own then he would have enough life experience for me to consider...however, you being 16, I can tell you that I have a 15 year old and I, personally, would kick that guys ass if he were to try and date my daughter...she is young with a young mind and has NO life experience that she would have in common with a 27 year old...if you're a smart girl you will consider this and move on....
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You've made a poor decision, but I'd say he was the wrong one. He knows enough about life to know what he is doing is illegal and wrong.
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If its legal where you come from then its not against the law, ppl always have opinions about this calling the older 1 names but lets be honest no one knows this guy he might really love you and care about you and make you happy, has any one got the right to a negative opinion, its your life and as long as you aren’t hurting anyone then with the right reasons I would say yes its ok, and anyone out there should watch what they say because it is very easy to full in love and if they are your age then do you think they would like the nasty comments, no they would try to justify it to them selves. Your life you have to live it
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I think that age is too much older for you. Since you are 16, he is far too much older than you. You are a minor & he is not.
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personally i think age is a huge deciding factor until you are at least 18. If you are younger than eighteen i tend to advise against entering into a relationship with a man that much older than you due to maturity differences and life goal differences...i think that you should wait till you're eighteen before you go doing something like that....but honestly its all a personal choice.
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You aren't wrong for not knowing better - the guy is totally wrong for taking advantage of your youth.
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You are not wrong, he is. He is old enough to know how to easily take advantage of a kid your age. You are not old enough to recognize that yet. This is a tough lesson you are going to learn the hard way. Most likely, it will end in him being arrested and registered as a sex offender. If you give a damn for him in the least, end it before it comes to that point.
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No, your not wrong he is. What does a 27 year old have in commen with a 16 year old? You should find someone or own age.
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Ohhh gross thats just nasty you both need to find someone in your own age range yucky
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