How can a person know he is being taken advantage of by female internet friend that says they want to share their life with you?
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Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 29
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Really only if your sending them money , which I hope thats not the case at all -- + 5
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You can't. One of the bad parts about the internet.
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Meet them in real life first...
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Have you met in person? Dated? If not, and she is saying this, I'd be cautious. If this person is asking for financial help be very cautious.
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You can't really tell, but if there is money involved, that would be a real clue.
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Its a little suspicious. I dont think that you can honestly say that to somebody you have never spent time with in person. Some people are completely different online than they are when you meet them. Such as myself. I am very talkative online and able to express my honest opinion no matter what; however when I am with somebody in person I am quite shy and hold a lot of my expressions in because I am worried what others may think. A lot of people say I am too damn agreeable also. They are right.
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When she starts asking for money
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I think if you are asking the question, you've already become wary for some reason. Committing to someone you've never met face-to-face can be very tricky..maybe slowing things down, arranging a meeting, getting to know one another better..how long have you been "talking" to this person? Many months..or just a few weeks? :)
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Taking advantage in what way? I could have understood the problem if it was the other way around but are you saying that this female internet is using you sexually?
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I'd go with your gut feeling on this one.Ask her for a loan of money:)
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Be very wary Zack, ive heard of this happening before and it ends in tears.. how can a person possibly know they want to share their life with someone they have not met in person... please be careful honey xxxx
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When someone you've never met wants to share their life with you (like their whole life together!) then it shows they are desperate to be with someone, and they are not using good judgement. They are wanting someone from you, which means you have to defend yourself. And you can figure that ANYTHING they say will probably not be using very good judgement.
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I believe that is a decision that should be made when you "Know" the person inside and out. If someone is declaring their love and wanting to spen their life with someone the haven't met in person, I feel that this person might not be dealing with a "Full Deck"...=o)
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I hope you don't get taken advantage of, Zack. You are such a great guy. I most certainly wouldn't let anyone hi-jack your feelings like that. The answers are right, it would be best to meet a person in real life to know what they are like before going that far and deciding that you and they want to spend your lives together. If you are already doubting their sincerity, though, maybe the best thing to do is distance, unless you really feel there is something there.
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trust your instincts
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she may be "setting u up" or just charmed by your internet savy... :))) either way, the next steps to figure that out might be: phone conversations, meeting each other, dating some, etc........i wish you much luck but keep that guard up! hugs~
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Does she live near you? Put her to the test. Ask her when she's moving out to be with you.
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I would think it's difficult to know anyone’s motives if all you have are correspondence. However, in centuries past people became engaged to each other as a result of their correspondence. I would be leery if they were to ask me for money.
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Usually you will just know if you cant trust her. Dose she lie a lot? When she speaks, do you think "yeah, right"? Just the fact that you are asking this question shows some distrust. You should talk to her about it.
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Do you mean a girlfriend or just a platonic friend? Anyway, things like asking you for money and not paying it back or 'borrowing things', demanding your time for their issues and not taking account of yours etc etc.
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There is no one way to know if this female friend of yours is trying to take advantage of you however there must be some trust issues or some sort of thoughts or feelings running through your mind to even ask this question in the first place. I would ask yourself a few questions like, Is she using you (money/popularity/security) Is she secretive, Do you see the relationship working, does she have a track record of doing this type of thing, how long have you been together, does anything seem out of the ordinary... I guess just trust your gut
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Best way to find out is you simply ask her, and then you observe her reaction. A (mental) image tell a thousand words. If she's offended by your bluntness, but values your friendship she'll get over it, on the other hand if she's indeed taking advantage of you, she'll know that you're on to her and perhaps will move on, thus giving you a chance to find a real friend.
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First signs are: Asking for money or gifts Telling you they will do this, that or the other and never come through. There are way more than that but that is all I can think of right now. You will never know by just "being on the internet" if someone is true. One thing I have learned since going "internet" - people can be ANYONE they say they are. It's who that person is face to face is who they truly are. Phone conversations even tend to be a little far fetched unless you know that person well. With time you will get to know when someone is being truthful or false.
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Try searching their alias on google, nine times out of ten they'll turn up on a scam list website.
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If you meet her in person. I was scamed over a period of six months, internet female scams I have learned are flooding the internet. I talked to the girl on the phone a few times, she still was scaming me. If they even mention money, or try to get you to sympathize with their unfortunate condition, or situation. Uh uh, Move on bud, but thats your choice. Simon
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If she tells you she's Nigerian royalty and needs your help cashing a multi-million dollar check, she's probably taking advantage of you...
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when you give, and they don't give back. Tada
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Be careful, she is hoping to find a desperate man looking for love. She probably wants to hook you with by telling you lies and then will want to see what she can get from you. If you have never even met in person, how can she say such a thing! This is definitely a red flag!
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That is bull. they do not even know you. looking for a fool is what they are doing.
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