How do you indicate to guests at a bridal shower that you would like cash instead of gift cards or gifts?
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ANSWERS: 13
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Tell them.
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In my country it is customary to put it in writing asking for a fixed amount on the invitation to such shower. "Contribution:_______" I don't know if this is acceptable etiquette elsewhere.
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At my bridal shower, I registered but the majority of people just gave money anyway. On some of the registries, I had noticed there was a space you could leave a note to people.. you might be able to suggest it there?
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Are you having a Bridal Shower, or a FUNDRAISER??? In the US, it is considered gauche and rude to ask for money. Do *NOT* ever put such wording on an invitation. You can let your mother, bridal attendants, or whoever is holding the shower know that it's your preference, and hope that guests will ask one of them. But, absolutely DO NOT say such a thing on an invitation. How rude, spoiled and ungrateful must you possibly be? Showers and Weddings AREN'T MEANT TO BE INCOME GENERATORS/FUNDRAISERS!!! A gift is given with thought and kind regard to the recipient. People take joy in picking out something that reminds them of you, or that they think you will like. Doesn't that mean *anything* to you? Certainly you have a registry? Many guests will look at the registry.
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As Shopping Sheryl said in the U.S. it is not acceptable. Additionally, it is customary practice to actually give tangible gifts at the shower and cash or very nice gift for the wedding gift. It is really not common practice to give cash for the bridal shower. The tradition is to help set you up in your new home and to buy you things that you would need to do so. Typically the shower is to buy you things that you will need, but aren't really appropriate for a wedding gift. Things like kitchen utensils and other kitchen gadgets, possibly some of your every day dishes, small appliances, towels... I really recommend not going the cash route or even suggesting it to anyone. You will come off sounding greedy and may have fewer guests come to your shower as a result. If you want to pick out your own things, then go to a store you like and register for what you really want.
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In my social cocoon, it would be crass to request money. I think those wedding dances with the bride getting money handed to her as she dances are bad enough. It's like fingernails on a chalkboard when I have to see that happening, I don't care what the culture. Jack Kennedy was the president of the United States . . . does anyone recall or have read that anyone handed Jackie money as they danced with her? I think doing the right thing is called class. I try to have some when ever I think about it. Just my perspective.
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1.You tell them in a strong authoritative voice that you will only accept CASH!! 2.Via e-mail 3.Guilt your bridesmaids or family members into spreading the word. 4.Announce over a loudspeaker at your shower that you will be putting their hard-EARNED money to use by purchasing an Eitquette book. 5.or.........you don't indicate anything
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If you and your intended are in a financial situation that the money would really help, or you're saving for say, a new car or a downpayment on a house, then I would have your maid of honor or sister or whomever is having the shower for you, let your close friends and family members know that. They could say, "Since John and Mary already have everything they need for their home, they're trying to put a little money aside to get a newer vehicle, which would be a great wedding present for them, if you'd like to help contribute to that fund -- no set amount -- anything you'd like to give would be appreciated." I would only suggest that to people you're very close to, though, not distant relatives, long-distance friends or business associates, unless they ask what you need.
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Cash gifts at a Bridal Shower is gauche (french for gawdy. Cash gifts are acceptable as wedding presents.
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GEEZZZ If you really want money then have a game of it ..YOU could have the gals make you a veil of money as you answered trivia bridal questions... If that is what you really want then by all means go for it...:)
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Yes it is rude to "ask" for cash, but here's what my friend did...they "returned" almost "all" of their gifts and actually got "cash" back and took their honey moon on the money!! Now that is really tacky! When they registered they asked for "more" of things than they really needed, just for this purpose! And what was worse..."her mother" told their friends all of this! Needless to say...they lost a lot of good friends. Asking for money is a sure way to loose friends!
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Where I live, it is not customary to say cash is preferred, although I have seen people bring a money tree with money already tied to the tree as their gift. You could have a certain kind of shower, let's say, a "kitchen" shower. Also you have the option to return gifts you do not need. Then you can keep the money.
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ok so you're not REALLY supposed to ask for money but you can register for a "honeymoon" like i did.. http://www.travelersjoy.com/ you end up getting money. we're using it for our honeymoon but I think technically if we wanted to pocket the cash we could. I think.
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