ANSWERS: 44
  • It wouldn't Bother me....Actually it would make me happy that they finally had the courage to come out
  • To be honest... I wouldn't be surprised. I've suspected it for years. (I'm not trying to be cheeky. I honestly think he is and is just not comfortable telling anyone. I've talked to him about it, and he just gets angry, so it's best to just let it go.)
  • I'd feel sorry for his girlfriend but otherwise be fine with it.
  • I wouldn't react at all beyond saying that it would make no difference to our relationship.
  • Fine? My friendship with others is not based on their sexuality or their religious views, or even what political party they subscribe to. I pick my friends because of their personalities and how able I am to speak with and relate to them. He could be attracted to trees and I wouldn't care.
  • I'd tell him/her that I loved him/her, and that I was sorry he/she had not been comfortable enough to tell me earlier.
  • been there done that... everything's still good. I knew her since Kindergarten and came out to us at 18, no biggie. They'll always be my friend no matter what
  • Why should I react? I just know something more about them. I would reassure them that I will treat them the same way as I did before, and respect them for trusting in me with something this important.
  • The fact that they were gay would not bother me. But it would bother me that they felt they had to hide it from me. I tend to be very upfront with people and expect the same in return. Not to mention the fact that my friendship with that person must not have been what I had thought it was or my friend would have known that I would never hold the fact that they were gay against them.
  • It would not bother me at all. They are still the same person.
  • ok so i am thinking of my friend Stephanie...if she was gay i'd flip out. I would roll on the floor and laugh...no way...that would be so weird. I just dont see her being gay...well maybe. lol
  • yeah that'd be a fat chance! lol
  • I would not react I have so many gay friends that I would have known.
  • My cousin came out to me that she was bi, I hugged her, and appreciated that she felt she could tell me and know that I wouldn't judge her...she is like a best friend.
  • I had that happen once! LOL I already knew but was waiting for him to tell me...
  • My best friend from childhood did that to me some years ago. I kind of knew already, but what ruined the friendship was that she also said she was interested in me, and since I'm not interested in same-sex folk, that made the friendship awkward.
  • That actually happened to me in high school. Totally didn't see it coming, either. Nobody really thought anything of it, and nothing else really changed - he always had the most female friends anyways. Also, he's a bit more vocal of when we look ridiculous - which is quite awesome
  • I would say 'yes thats great but don't think it will mean you don't have to pay me that $20 back'.
  • Actually, I wouldn't be surprised!
  • This happened to me 20 years ago. I had known my best friend for 5 years already and he was doing everything in his power to cover the fact that he was gay. Our relationship only got stronger and much better when he finally accepted himself for who he was. We are still best friends and I couldn't imagine life without him in it. We are like the Will and Grace of the Midwest! I have to admit I was upset that he didn't trust me enough to be honest about it, but it didn't last long. The friendship is far more important than to let something like that get in the way of it.
  • this has happened to me and when she told me, i was sort of releived (for both of us). i had had a bit of intuition shortly before she actually told me, so it wasn't a huge shocker. i think i just let her know that i loved her and that i'd be there for her, as a lot of people around her didn't and won't ever accept her fully because of her sexual preference. i thought, "wow, this is going to make things more difficult." :(
  • I would be ok with it! I admitted that I'm bi and they were ok with it.
  • I wouldn't have a reaction. My sister did that to me a few years ago. She was 42 and called me and said she was gay (after 2 failed marriages and 3 kids). Since then she's decided that she was bisexual. Since I have experience with getting that kind of news I wouldn't react at all. Now my hubby would have a HUGE reaction to that. He would want to know all the "details" and would probably ask if he could watch.
  • i was really close friends with a girl that everyone had a vibe about but she had never considered being gay she had bfs and all, after knowing her for 3yrs she met this girl who she had become best friends with shared similar interests etc, and before they knew it had both admitted that they became attracted to each other and had never felt that way about another person/girls before the way that they do ..i was a bit surprised at first but i dont really have a problem with it as this is who she is and she is happy
  • Weeelllll, I came out to one of my best friends yesterday. The reaction was pretty good after the initial shock. She refused to believe me, which made things akward. But in a way it made things a little easier, knowing that when I pretended to be straight, it worked :)
  • I would think that she was a S*^% for using her husband.
  • I would be upset since my best friend is my partner.
  • I wouldnt care..If you are gay you are gay..so..doesnt change who you are..just a sexual preference :)
  • If he still buys every other round I am okay with it.
  • I would not 'react' at all, since it is an irrelevant fact to our friendship. I would however be entirely supportive, and congratulate him on coming out about it (which I understand to be quite difficult for some people).
  • That actually happened to me. My best friend sat me down and very seriously told me she was gay and hoped that it wouldn't affect our friendship. I laughed and said "you think I hadn't figured that out a long time ago. You are my best friend I don't care if you have two heads and come from another planet,I love you and you will always be my best friend." That was 12 years ago and we are still best friends.
  • It would not matter in the slightest to our friendship. my reaction would be only to slap him (or her if you're considering lesbian to be under the category of gay) on the back and say "I'm proud of you for saying it", and go on with our lives.
  • Probably ask him if he wanted to go bowling or something.
  • Laugh for a bit, there wouldn't be a problem, he accepted my bisexuality, why shouldn't I be open about his homosexuality?
  • I would be extremely shocked because I have known that girl since we were babies! She's always had crushes on boys. That's why. I'd probably think she was pulling my leg. People have admitted their real orientation to me, and it didn't change what I thought about them. However, this friend... well, you might have to know her to understand. Everyone that knows her, even the gay community, would be shocked.
  • Accept them and nothing would change.
  • Be happy for them that they found out who they are. Less time wasted being confused or trying to be something they weren't. Maybe celebrate a bit and go on with our friendship.
  • Well, at first i would be kind of upset that they never told me and feel kind of strange if i've ever "revealed myself" to them, but id feel like i must ahve failed as a friend if they feel that they had to hide it from me and be ashamed.
  • First, you would have to scrape me up off the floor from fainting and second, you would have to give me a chill pill. LOL. I don't know how I would handle that. It would be a big shock, thats for sure.
  • I don't think anyone makes this type of decision lightly. I would do what I always do with friends. Support them in their decisions as best I can. It would not change our friendship from my point of view.
  • I'd be like: ''Oh God? You're Gay? WAAAAHHH!!!!'' No, seriosly, I'd be lke that: ''Well, it'S your ecision, you are the one that chooses...''
  • Say, "Dammit, man, it's about TIME you admitted it. We know. We ALL know." Seriously... sometimes I think he's the only one who doesn't know he's gay.
  • I don't believe that hiding an unconventional sexual orientation that is often subject to social ridicule, judgement, discrimination and even physical abuse to be considered as betrayal.
  • I would feel the same way about them as i did before they told me, We would still be friends them being gay would never effect our friendship.

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