You have done well not to kill them so now take care not to do something foolish.

I'm so sorry!!

You have every right to be angry, but you should not kill yourself over something like this. I know it may seem unbearable, but just don't throw your life away.

I'm so sorry to hear this, don't do anything silly, give yourself time to lick your wounds and decide where to go next with your life, Good Luck with it.

1 good reason is, if you do that, you can't make they're lives miserable.

Because he is obviously a dick, and you obviously deserve better. Don't get sad. Get angry. Anger is much more productive. What a f*ckin' loser. And HOW DARE your sister?! Live your life, and live it well. F*ck him. You don't need scum like that.

Just be happy you found out before it was too late. Be happy that now you know that your sister isn't trustworthy. It will save you lot of problems in future.

One good reason is that neither of these two peices of worthless humanity are worth your life. Stay around and make them feel bad by having a GREAT time. Go out and have fun and find an honest trustworthy man and let him know what a cheap slut your sister is.There are many men in the world and you have your choice of good ones Regrettably you cannot choose your family and you are stuck with a dishonest tart as a sister.

Why would you kill yourself? What dod YOU do wrong? Seems to me the problem lies with the boyfriend (should be ex-boyfriend by now) and the slutster.

1 Reason...Me....And a ton of other single guys who are looking for the right girl and i'm sure your the right girl for one of us

Because you can take both of them out with a large caliber weapon!

Like Lambchop, I am so sorry. This must feel awful. Please give yourself time to deal with this. Just hang on. Don't damage yourself. Place the hurt and anger where it is due...on them. Not on yourself.

A gallzilion reasons...and you've gotten some great ones here already.... Good that you found out NOW... Good that YOU can walk away from THEM... ICE CREAM, CHOCOLATE, FUNNY MOVIES, GOOD BOOKS, FRIENDS, ALL THE COOL PLACES YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO GO TO AND SEE, A DOG OR CAT (OR OTHER ANIMAL) WHO WOULD LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF THEIR HEART FOR AS LONG AS THEY LIVE AND PROBABLY BEYOND THIS LIFE...all of your favorite foods... all of the really cool, nice and HONEST people you haven't met yet on this journey...The sun rise over the ocean...and the sunset later in the day that you haven't seen yet... The music you love and the songs you love to sing, the baby you may have one day...and the lover you stand to have in your life...(you assuredly KNOW what sort of person YOU DO NOT WANT IN YOUR FUTURE...dang...NOW YOU KNOW...don't have to do this again, you can run like hell if the same sort of Red Flags appear! The person you may not have yet met up with, whose life you will make a PROFOUND difference in because of something you will say or do...that makes a difference for them... Because THIS was a truly CHITTY DAY, EXPERIENCE...but there will be more absolutely WONDERFUL ONES... Because you are a much better person than your sister, and your poor parents/family NEED at least ONE CHILD who is not a horrible disappointment and a candidate for the next Jerry Springer show! (She belongs there...You, however..do not qualify at all!) Because if you really think about it...YOU CAN'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE...he's a total prick...so that whole warm fuzzy feeling is OVER...you are done with it and him! What to say to your sister...I have NO idea...get away from me comes to mind. Hugs sweetie...it will get better.

You have no reason to feel bad. You did nothing wrong. You have had two people very close to you betray you in a most painful way. I am sorry to hear about this. Your boyfriend is thankfully not your husband and you sister is a twisted slut. You are the normal one.

Other than the exciting new prospect of finding a GOOD man and forgetting you have a sister? You just eliminated two VERY negative parts of your life, you should feel more of a reason to wake up everyday than before. Your days just got two times better.

Because suicide is never the answer. How about that? He was obviously an ass that was undeserving of someone like you. Consider yourself lucky this happened now and not after you were married to the insensetive ass. As for your sister you have every right to be angry with her for betraying your trust like that. I hope though in time you will be able to forgive her for what she has done.

Yes....Why punish yourself for their stupidity and hurtful, selfish behavior? Live and be happy, get revenge that way.

What they done is not worth you're life. Besides what gain could you get out of it? "NOTHING" Be lucky you seen this now and not later down the line when you may of both been husband & wife with kids to bring up......M.C.S.

One verry good one. You didn't do anything wrong and you should not have to bear the punishment for their act. Just remember living well is the best revenge. Dump them both and go out and find a better life without their drama.

million reasons,tomorrow will be a better day.

Because even though it's hard to deal with, it's not the end of the world. You will eventually find someone who's better for you and that actually respects you.

be strong... thats all you need to do.

Hello! Women often make the mistake of trying to impose their own needs on men. Men are pre-programmed by nature to have sex with as many women as possible. Sex has nothing to do with love to men. Sex is a biological necessity; love an emotional one. Women have a much more difficult time breaking these up. That is why men can still be in love with one woman and have sex with others. It's nature's way of insuring that our species survived as long as it has. It's only be the past 5,000 years or so that we've tried to make things different. That isn't to say that men don't want to be monogamous. They are concerned about their partners and her feelings and many men successfully stay true to a single partner their entire lives. Thus, it's difficult to draw a parallel between what a "good woman" is to a man compared to a "good man" to a woman. Women have evolved to try to establish pair bonds as a way to insure the greatest possible success for her family. Two parents greatly increase the likelihood of the survival of children in many ways. So, all that said, where does this leave you? First, this is the reason why "making him suffer" isn't a good strategy. He's not "committed" to you by his own admission, and feels he needs to pursue other women. Even if you talked him into it, he's not really going to accept is as his own. Second, it appears that you want something for him that he doesn't want himself. That's a difficult proposition to try to enforce. What can you do? Frankly, there's not too much you can do other than to: 1) Try to get him to change his mind and be the monogamous partner you want him to be, 2) Be with him, knowing that he may not be faithful, but that he loves you; or, 3) Move on and find someone that DOES share the same goals you have. I'd hate for you to spend a huge amount of time and effort trying to make someone something they're not, only to wind up right where you are now. If you're goals are different from his why not turn that energy into finding someone that DOES share your relationship goals? Many people make the mistake of believing that there is only on "soul mate" for them in the world. In fact, there are thousands! Who knows how many of them you've past on waiting for this guy to the man you want him to be? It's something to think about anyway. Good luck, much love.... -------------------------------------------

I'm very sorry, i can only imagine the hurt you must feel. You can't punish yourself for their cruelty. You will get through this, even if it seems like things aren't going to get better, slowly but surely it will be fine. And you've got all us AB'ers to talk to! :D Good luck hun.

why would you want to give them the satisfaction of killing yourself?It is painfully clear that they have no respect for each other let alone you,Keep living and make there life a living hell for everyday they see you they will always remember that night that they thought they had destroyed you,And that will piss them off ten fold.So stay alive and reap the rewrds that will be coming your way now.

if you kill yourself how will you be able to get them back? itching powder while oldschool still makes for a great laugh to brighten your mood

Well, 2 years might feel like a long investment in someone but come on now! Do you really think ending your life over some douchebag is what you should do? Of course not. Yes you're in a LOT OF PAIN right now but time heals and every day will get a little better. And shame on your sister! Tell her she can have your sloppy seconds and as for you: life goes on, this will just make you smarter and stronger.

Threatening suicide is not the answer walk away good luck to your sister, he'll do the same to her guaranteed.

Uh yeah! It's not worth it! Gid rid of him! And try to remember that blood is thicker than water! I know how ya feel my girl! How old are you all? I had this happen to me when I was 18, he was 19 and she was 13!!! >:O(

Your sister never should have done that to you. But maybe she is jealous of you and wants to be like you and have what you have. It was still wrong. Your ex, I hope he is your ex is the biggest loser in the world and you are too lucky to be rid of him. Thank god you found him out before you married him or had his children. This will pass and you will find someone someday who you are happy with. First you need to concentrate on you. Be happy with you. Set some goals. Make something great out of yourself. Then find someone who wants to share everything you have accomplished with you! Suicide is not the way you are too good for that.

Why should you suffer and die? They are the bastards. Let them have each other. THey deserve the misery they will get when one of them betrays the other as they have betrayed you. And you will have the last laugh.

Wow... that's a low blow. There's tons of reasons not to kill yourself, a big one being that you'll eventually find someone that would NEVER do that to you.

Yes there are MANY reasons not to. You many not know this right now, but there ARE people that need you. The pain will get easier, you just need time to heal. Allow yourself to feel the pain and express it in constructive ways. I know that reading what I have told you here may not mean much, but you are in my thoughts and I hope that you find peace because I know how much that kind of betrayal can hurt.

Yes, because you have not learned what life is trying to show you yet. Be strong, time to find a new BF and put some distance between your sister and your SELF. There were probably signs of trouble before this event. RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO LET THE ACTIONS OF OTHER CREATE ADVERSE EMOTIONAL BEHAVIOR IN YOU. You are better than them, the only difference will be if you show it.

What? Kill yourself??? No silly... you'll find plenty of other men down the road. Yes, it may have been wrong, but your life is worth more than a boyfriend. Be the bigger of the two... just take care of your own needs and let things go... easy to say, but hard to do... but you must not let this destroy your life... It's just a relationship gone bad... you get involved with another relationship where the guy will treat you like a women!

A million reasons you shouldn't kill yourself...how about reasons you shouldn't kill HIM.

You are going about your thinking all wrong. You should be wanting to kill HIM (and your no good skank sister) NOT yourself. Plese find someone to talk to.

Why would you kill your self? Dump the so called boyfriend,now!You can't dump your sister but, she needs to explain to you why she did this.Listen and try to work it out. She will always be your sister. Most important,Dump the jerk.

ok ya I can give you a good reason or two. Why should you die? They are the two jurks who should be feeling bad. With sister like that ...sheesh, and hey count yourself lucky you didnt marry him then find out this is how he is. Dont take this lighly it is just really messed up that they would do that to you. But at the same time, take care not to take it personal if he cheeted on you he would do it to anyone. its not you its them they are the messed up ones here. take care.

Don't kill yourself. It really isn't worth it. I am sad to hear that two important people in your life chose to hurt you in such a way. The only advice I can give to you is to keep your head up. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Life is a learning experience. Everything you go through I believe there is some lesson to be learned or some room for you to grow. He wasn't the right person for you and that show by him sleeping with your sister. You will find the right person and when you do you will know it. He won't want to hurt you or ever let you go.

People hate quitters. Don't be a quitter.

Uh, yeah! First of all, the biggest reason is that you will validate your boyfriends actions. Most people in your shoes (and I've been there) think their "loved one" will see what they did to you and will feel guilty and sad you're gone...when in fact most of the time they just think, "hmm I was right. that girl obviously has issues." Don't let him be right! Remember, the best revenge is a life well lived. Don't worry about him. Now is the time to focus on you. Decide what you want to do and do it. The happier you make yourself, the more you will realize you don't need anyone else to make you happy. Once that realization comes, so will the love of your life. As for your sister....usually someone who does something like that to someone they love has their own issues. You said she was younger, and she is obviously seeking attention. Feel sorry for her. Pray that one day the obvious void she has in her life will be filled by her own sense of self...and not by lying on her back.

your life is not worth loosing over an asshole like himself. just say Fuck it and let it pass. ill go away sooner or later dont answer his calls dont have anycontact w/ the guy and you'll be over him. go out w/friends enjoy your life w/o him and see how fast you bad memmories fall away.

DONT KILL URSELF JUSS KILL HIM AN FIND SOMEONE ELSE

Yes - you have still to meet a good guy and be happy - this one was clearly a bad choice but there are good ones out there :) DUMP HIM SO FAST and don't look back - except to laugh at him for being such an idiot. Your sister will hopefully learn what a stupid thing she has done - but I hope it will not be because her best friend does the same to her....

Yes. Most people spend 20 bucks on two tickets to see that same story line in a movie. On top of that they get popcorn, sodas, and candy. So all totalled, to see that same story line in a movie might cost 50 bucks. Now, for that investment, even if the story wasn't that great you'd probably stay until the end right? Well think of your life as a movie. Stick it out until the end. Most times the good guy wins.

If he did that, then he is an ass. You want a MAN, not a kid. It's just one guy out of the whole world, and sweetie, you deserve better than that. Mistakes don't do anything but make you stronger. Keep it up!

Because you have yet to dismember your boyfriend and push your sister out of a third story window?

Every reason. Revenge is sweet and you don't want to miss out on it!

Yes! You are better than that! You have a full life to live! Obviously he is not good enough if he cheated with your little sister! Don't give up! Things may seem horriable but forgive and forget.

NO!!! Just because your little sister and your boyfriend betrayed you is no reason to kill yourself. Move on.

Yes, you can save this moment for a future episode of Jerry Springer. I'm sorry. I caught my husband of 5 years in his car with a 16 year old mounted on top of him (he was in his late 20s). It IS painful, but you have to let it go and move on with your life. The pain fades with time. . .I promise.

Missing the opportunity to get revenge?

Wow, nice sister...nice boyfriend. They will pay for that dearly, don't worry. Just wait...everything has its own natural consequence. All you have to do is leave the boy and wow...I don't even know what to say about the sister...too bad you are stuck with her!

You're stupid boyfriend and clueless sister are NOT worth you killing yourself. Ditch both of them and continue to be your radiant, wonderful self...there are people you might not even realise that love you and need you in their lives.

Why, neither one of them is worth that much effort. Let it go. Your sister is incredibly unkind and unloyal and same goes for your ex boyfriend. :(

Their actions aren't a reflection on you!You can't control what other people do.Best to find out now rather than actually marrying him someday.As for your sister,there's nothing you can do.Don't let other people dictate your happiness.Good luck!

don't kill yourself!!!! there are plenty more guys in the world!!! u can make them 1.)really jealous and 2.) really sorry! p.s how old is your sister??

Tell your sister she can have him. Don't ever think about killing yourself over a man, they simply aren't worth it. You'll find yourself a much better guy soon enough.

You don't kill yourself over a guy. You make your sister's life hell. Forget the boyfriend, you'd expect that from a man but NOT your sister. What a bitch!

Yeah, you didn't do anything wrong...the best revenge is LIVING WELL... Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on...as for your sister...hmmm she has some serious splainin to do...

im really sorry that is truly unforgivable. but everything happens for a reason .. it was meant for you to find out and a good thing!

Absolutely. That man is a douchebag. You are not. What they did is horrible and terrible, but it's not your fault. There are people out there who aren't cheating assholes- and you can't date/marry/find/love them if you kill yourself. Besides, that just gives them power over you- and they don't deserve ANY power. I'm so sorry to hear you went through this- but you will get through this. Just take it one day at a time.

In this situation, the goal is to distance yourself from your sis and your ex, as digging into them only makes it worse, as it solves nothing. If your sis and ex are that loose, and are that brazen about doing that behind your back, neither one of them are at all good influences. Find a new guy who has some character and some morals, because if he is a stand up guy with some dignity and morals, he shouldn't be a problem with one night stands with your sister. Also, if this guy is mr. right (and yes, he's out there), he won't be susceptible to flirtatious charms, and he will stick to you like a man that you need.

Your so much better than them, remember that!

It's a learning experience. At least you found out before you were married. You should watch the movie "In Her Shoes." Boyfriends are a dime-a-dozen. Your sister, on the other hand, may be a more complicated issue. You can't dump her, but you can choose a guy next time around who is not as prone to such indiscretions.

You should totally not kill urself because there would be no point in that. I mean end ur life because your bf slept with ur sister? Just ditch them both and find a new guy to be with. I guarantee that there are acutal pretty nice guys out there. So please dont kill yourself because of that because that would be horrible.

Simple, they are stupid and proven themselves not worthy of you. You have proven yourself worthy even if they don't appreciate it. Just forget about them and get yourself a brand new day without them messing it up.

I think you should just move on with someone else but first get rid of the relationship between him and your younger sister [if they have one]

What you may want to consider.. would be killing him!

OMG no you shouldnt kill yourself but now you know who to trust an just how much respect your sis has for you. i dont have much advice for this but i want to say good luck and keep your guard up.

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It's not worth it............

Most of the women I've known would not be thinking of suicide as their choice of homicidal action to take.

because this guy is obviously a f*cking dickhead and doesn't deserve you at all. there's no reason to let a douchebag like him control you and whether you live or not.

Because he is NOT worth it.kill him or your sister. no not really but thats bullshit right there. you deserve someone WAY better.

SIMPLE! There's plenty of other fish in the sea! I feel the major population of the human race puts too much emphasis on love and relationships. Love is unconditional, so regardless I know you're hurting which is normal! But he's just ONE MAN! Open your eyes; you're GORGEOUS, young, and obviously well-educated. You shouldn't be comtemplating suicide, you should be trying to figure out when's the soonest possible time you can GLAMOUR up and go out with your friends. Think of this as an opportunity to focus on yourself, your success/goals/ambitions, and all the many new possibilities out there. Don't tell me you never checked out other guys when you were with your bf? Here's your chance hun. From my point of view, he answered your prayers, because deep down inside, all along, you knew you were too good for a jerk like him anyway. *wink*

Yea i have a good reason theirs more guys out their make him see what hes missing dont take it from him or her.

nah - your sister and bf aren't worth it. You were the loyal one in this.they just aren't. You've got character, babes.

Never compromise your self respect because of someone else's actions. Better to find out now than later. You now know you cannot trust your sister and this guy is a sleeze and would have cheated with someone else anyway.If you want to forgive your sister I recommend counseling for the two of you.This is a cry for help, she apparently has some issues with you that she needs to address. Do not go near this guy again, you deserve better. You will find the right guy one day and he would never think of doing this to you. Pick your head up, say thank you for leading you to a better life and find your soul mate.

This question was posted last month. do you mean to say they did it again. castrate him chemically, sterilize her.

Of course there is a reason not to kill yourself. There are TONS of reasons. This guy was obviously a low-life slump who had absolutely no respect for you! It's not your fault, so why kill yourself? It's ok. You can get over him! As for your sister, wow. That's just sad. I wouldn't talk to her, but that's just me. good luck!

Because he isnt worth it. If he did that to then that just shows you that the Lord has a much better man for you. Its going to be hard to get over him, but you have to know in your heart that you deserve better...and that better is out there waiting for you. Just let him go and live your life

No just get your own back and move on!

Cuz obviously your ABOVE them. Morals, instinct, respect and loyalty is something they lack.

OH HONEY, DON'T KILL YOURSELF............IT'S THEM THAT NEEDS TO PAY....PAYBACK IS A B***H!!! SUGAR IN GASTANKS, EGG THEIR HOUSE, YOU KNOW......WHATEVER MAKES you feel better. worked for me!!!

Dump that chump, disown the sister, and live like you are the best thing since sliced bread. If you don't let it get you down, you'll find someone even better, and that will show them you are too good for the both of them!

Yes, because that S.O.B isnt worth your life.

Hell no. If you want to get back at them let your sister have the dirtbag. It's not like you should be protecting her as she clearly didn't care enough about you. Be happy. You just got rid of a sleazebag.

Why would you give so much power to your boy friend and your sister. Them sleeping together is not about you it's about them, and their dishonest ways. They have to live with that guilt. Your sister was wrong for betraying you (blood should be thicker then water. Your boy friend should should be history.

Yes, you will miss the next america's election this year. Your vote counts.

I say go for it. You only get one life, so if you're that dumb then there will be less people like you to reproduce.

yea it might make them feel shitty but why take the blame on yourself i mean take it out on them its your bf and your sister both people who u thought u could trust make their lives miserable not yourself and what about ur other true friends and family u dont want to feel miserable im not trying to say kill ur bf and sister just maybe do something to ur bf beat the shit out of ur sister u know just not to urself it wouldnt do any good

It may not seem like it, but you will find someone better. Its nicer that it was only two years and not your whole life that it took to find out that guy was a prick. You still have your whole life ahead of you to find your perfect guy. =)

WTF? Yes there are many reasons not to they are just hard not to see right now. Your boyfriend and you sister are lacking a lot of class...my god. remove yourself as far away from the situation as possible and for the longest time. If you aren't living in the same house as either of them that is a great start...if not then you might want to get another place to live...

yes god made you who you are you can't change what happened but you can learn from it he doesn't sound like much to begin with whats the deal with your sister did you have any kind of good relationship between you?

plenty of reasons...does he have a brother?? or a dad??

dont kill your self...guys are jerks...well most of themmmm... no guyy is worth crying over especially suiciding over..

Yes, here's a reason or two. How about, the fact that no guy, not even the "perfect" guy is worth destroying your life and the peoples lives around you. Usually people don't stop to think about all of the family and friends that would be destroyed emotionally if they were to act on something like suicide or any other kind of hurtful activity. Another reason is that no matter what it seems like now or maybe even a year from now, I promise that the pain will eventually go away. It's hard to see someone you love, and who you thought loved you in bed with someone else whom you love. This is some kind of hurt that I can only imagine. I am sorry on behalf of all men for your boyfriend's actions, but don't let one idiot ruin everything in your life that you still can look forward too. There is always tomorrow to fix yesterday.

its normal to feel sad.. but its not a reason to kill yourself... why1!! he is not even worth tear!! that guy is totally a jerk!!! with capital "J"!! you dont deserve to go to hell/.. he do!!!