What do you think of parents who disown their children because of their child's sexual orientation or gender identity?
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andrew_ftm
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I call it stupidity! Unfortunately it is happening more and more.
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Not alot
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I think or hope that those parents will have just exactly the kind of people at their bedside when they are old, ill and dying as they deserve.
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I think they are dispicible human beings who have no business being parents in the first place. Any parent who turns their back on their child/children just because they didn't turn out as they expected (no matter what reason) should not be surprised if their own children disown them! I think there should be a test or licensing involved before anyone can become a parent.
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I don't see how ANYONE could dis-own their own blood! There is something wrong there.
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i think they should have a good look at themselves. its not their choice, its their child's, and they should respect that.
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I think it's heartless.
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Horrible really. I would never disown my kids for being gay. I would love them no matter what!
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Personally it confuses me. As a mother I do not understand how a parent could ever stop loving their child. Especially when it is something that is not the fault of the child. To me, it is like saying forget your livelihood, and personal happiness. Forget about ever finding the right one for you. You must be straight (or gay- I guess it could go either way) or I will not love you. This is insanity to me.
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I think it is terribly sad to throw a child away. It makes me wonder what type of parents they were in the first place.
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I think the parents are very selfish and bigoted.
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I have some understanding of why they do it, but I still think it's wrong. My dad disowned me because I left him to get married without his permission. (And that was marrying someone in the same religion and of opposite gender.) I do understand on some level why he did it, but I'll never understand how he could. I have children, and I would NEVER disown them for anything. They're my children, through thick and thin, and they're not always going to do what I think is right or best, and I will love them anyway.
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I think anyone who disowns their child for that, or any reason really, is heartless. I may disagree with my child's decisions but he never has to worry about my disowning him, especially not for something like being gay. There is nothing wrong with his being gay, if that's who he is.
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they do this because it makes them feel better about their own bigoted and backward thinking's and beliefs...they see doing this a justification for their own short comings and to protect their own reputations at the expense and sacrifice of their own flesh and blood...I feel sorry for them ..but not a sorry as I do for their kids
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They are a dying breed.
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I think they need to be taken out and shot. A little rough, but I think called for. As a father of 2 kids, there is no way I could or would ever turn on my children due to something as insignificant as sexual orientation. A person's orientation is only one small aspect of the whole person. It isn't a reason to throw your kids away. I don't see how anyone ever could.
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I think that the idea that you can dis-OWN your children starts with the idea that you own them. The idea that you can dictate their personality, sexual orientation, etc or life decisions beyond age 18 supports the idea that they think that they own their children. Children are not property. I think such parents are self-righteous control-freaks who need an enema.
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parents own their children?
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Not the parents I would want. I believe a child is a loving gift from God. For us as Parents to bring up with love & care. The so-called parents that would disown a child because of their gender or sex should of never became parents in the first place............M.C.S.
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It makes me sad.....very, very sad.
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i think, they shouldnt of been parents in the first place. they are not near mature enough yet. if they are mad about the "gender" there is a bitt of a problem there. ://
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I think it's cruel. If they're going to be like that, then I'm just going to have to start up my own little orphanage. Parents? hah!!!
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Such parents should be charged with child abuse/abandonment. I'd do anything to help any kid that happened to.
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They are among the most disgusting people to have ever lived.
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Superficial, loving only with conditional love. Closed minded. Controlling. Ignorant. It's ironic how some parents say they don't care what gender their child is before they're born, just that it's healthy. I think it should be the same for an offspring who decides to change genders. The bottom line is, it's your child, no matter what their gender or orientation.
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well i think they are way out of line here,how can you disown your own child and especially for something like that,i love my children i would be a bit upset its natrual but i would get over it i love my children :)
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I think that they need to love their children regardless of whether they are gay, or not. Parents who reject their children because they are gay should be punished!
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I see it this way: being "gay" is either genetic or environmental. If it is genetic, it is the genes of the parents. If it is environmental, it is highly correlated back to the parents. Perhaps it just hits too close to home. ;)
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People are who they are and they can not change it. I have been disowned and I do not understand it, but do not condemn my parents. They grew up thinking and beleiving that it is wrong. I can not change their thoughts, just as they can not change mine. I still love them and know inside they love me as well. We can't hate those that hate, becasuse that makes us what we hate. We can not hate ourselves. All we can do is love with all our hearts and try to show the world that love is more powerful than hate.
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No, they should kill them like any good Christian would! It's in the Bible! Book of Johnboy, between where the lord created nascar, and where the Lord said we should kick all those foreigners out of America, like Indians. If it's in the Bible, it must be true. (I wonder how many people are going to overreact to this?)
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it says more about their selfish attitude than their love for their child, parental love is meant to be without reservation, by disowning their child they are announcing that their beliefs are more important, this shows them as bloody awful parents with no real love, I find it interesting that it is often fundamental(being te operative word) christians who take this line in direct contradiction to the teachings of christianity (the cornerstone being unconditional love) but like all fanatics their bigotry/ hate blind them to real human emotions.
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Oh do you REALLY want to get me started on this?! I think that they are not "parents" at all! Part of being a parent is giving and receiving UNCONDITIONAL love! Who cares what your child's sexual preference is?! So long as they are happy that's all that really matters right?!
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Well, I think that's a pretty mean reason to disown someone.
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They never loved their kids to begin with.
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I thought parents were supposed to love their children unconditionally. I guess there are some parents that don't feel that way. Maybe they should be put down or something.
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Well, while I don't approve of the parents i question, it's one of those 'free will' things that we can't fully condemn them for. Like those Neo-Nazi types that scream 'freedom of speech' when you try to stop them from lighting a Hispanic guy on fire. I guess I would say it's wrong, but it's also their right to be wrong. Maybe they'll learn, and if not, maybe karma will even the scales.
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I hate them, they have no right to be parents, and should have the rest of their children taken away.
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>>What do you think of parents who disown their children because of their child's sexual orientation or gender identity? We call such people "Christians" and "Republicans."
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I think it is extremely stupid. Regardless of how your kids turn out they are still your kids and you should want them to be happy no matter what they prefer. Just because they are LGBT doesn't mean anything they are the same person you gave birth too and raised they just like someone of the same sex. I would give anything for my girlfriend not to lose her parents when she tells them that she is "marrying" a female, even though LGBT are not allowed to legally marry, because since she isn't straight her mom will want nothing to do with her.
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they need help...
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I think it is an act of extreme cowardice. i don't understand how a parent would support their fully grown girl/boy when they murder someone or do something horrible, but if they are gay, they automatically abandon them. That is utter bull crap.
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Intolerante bigots who need to get over themselves. I have no sympathy for these people. (Harsh I know but I feel very strongly on the issue.)
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I was actually disowned for this, it was like being smacked in the face. One moment you tell your parents, "hey I love someone." They were all smiles, happy that I finally found someone that I could let down walls around, but the moment I told them it was another woman, it was like a switch had been flipped my mother was silent as my father started yelling for me to get my stuff and leave, to get out before I contaminated his home further. I was punished by some of the people I loved the most because of falling in love with the most incredible person in my life. Next thing I know I'm shacking up with her in her apartment and getting papers to sign to acknowledge that I have been formally disowned. It disgusts me at how cold-hearted people can be, even your own flesh and blood. I can never hate my mother and father, but I can say that I have a stone heart to wherever my family is concerned.
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I think it is sad. I am a parent. I love my children. I am straight and do not agree with the gay lifestyle for myself or my children. I am a grand daughter of a pastor but I would nor could ever turn my back nor disown my children. I have friends that are gay and just found out my sister is gay. I figured she was but didn't want to say anything. She just had to trust that I could handle the truth. I love her girl friend. She is down to earth and has a great heart. I try not to be judgmental.That is not my role to take on and any Christian who does judge apparently has misread the bible. It tells you not to judge, lest you be judged yourself by the creator. I hope that any one who has been disowned due to being gay can move on in life because it is the parents that have issues that they need to resolve and my heart goes out to them.
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Lack of education and understanding. Disgusts me.
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Come to think of it, these parents are usually part of the blame for their children's gender confusion. They are morally responsible for disowning their child, and it is wrong indeed for doing so.
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It was probably best for that child for those parents to disown him. Why be a part of a family who can not accept you for who you are?
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when i came out as a transman, my mom didn't talk to me for almost a year. my dad didn't care. i think parents who can't get past it are absolutely idiotic. being a parent means loving your child unconditionally.
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I think they are assholes.
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i feel bad..for all parties..but you know what? i have no idea what anyone must feel..i've never experienced it and a topic as sensitive as that doesn't just deserve an opinion
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