ANSWERS: 33
  • You are pulling our leg aren't you?
  • Whoa, they should make a movie out of the two of you. LOL, why the hell not marry him again, considering you've done it 3 times already?!?!?
  • I guess if you can decide that if you do get married again and then divorce again whether it would be a 'mistake' or part of a 'pattern' you might be able to feel surer of whatever decision you end up making....and while a 'mistake' can be negative, a 'pattern' is not neccesarily so. Best of wishes to you both.
  • I am trying to avoid a flippant answer to this or something insulting. We don't know your ex/fiance, and you do. There is a clear pattern here. Is anything different this time? It sounds to me like you are stuck in a love hate relationship and it is virtually inconceivable that you wont just end up yelling at each other and divorced again in another 2 years. Do yourself a favor and find an interest in life away from this man, or someone else to place your affections with.
  • How about leaving off the marriage and just live together? Seems like there's a pattern here, and until you get to the bottom of what's causing that, it might be best to leave out the "til death do us part" stuff! :)
  • oh yes,the two of you can keep doing it until you get it right,keep trying.
  • tbh if it hasnt worked out all the other times - there wont be anything different now will there???
  • I do believe in marriage. But marrige is a contract to be partners through thick and thin it only gets stronger. You guys got married and divorced 3 times. Have you worked out the issues from those experiences? Do you have to be married?
  • I would think by now you both would of learned if you two were really meant to be with each other. How ever it turns out. I hope it turns out the best for the both of you.........M.C.S.
  • Sure get married again but only this time, live together every other day. That way it just may work forever:-)
  • If you two kept on gettign married and divioreced then there must be somethign wrong in the relationship. I might be best for you two to go talk to a marrige counsler so you guys can work out your problems and see what the real hard thing is that you two keep getting divorced over. But the fact that you guys have done it three times, it's a little rediculas and you will have to eventully move on and see other peope or you guys will just keep goign through that porsses for the rest or your lives and keep gettign hurt.
  • ummmmmm, I'd say it's probably a BAD idea. Plus, it cost too much to keep having weddings and getting divorced. Just keep having sex and let him buy you things!!!!
  • Love is not a contract, and divorce shouldn't be used as a weapon. It sounds like it is time to put down the weapons and symbols and see who you both really are without those things to hide behind. I suggest getting into couples therapy so that you can have a 'real' relationship and learn how not to run away when the going gets tough. You really have nothing to lose by doing this.
  • marriage is something very serious INHO and should not be taken into lightly..you obviously love each other but cant get along for long periods of time ...I would say IF you are both sure this is for good and stick to it..great but marriage takes a lot of work from both parties..neither of you can walk out when it gets bad..
  • You did not specify what led to the three earlier divorces, so it would be a tough call. I would strongly suggest you try living together for a year or so first. I mean, unless you plan to have children (or more children as the case may be) I can see no really useful reason to tie that knot again. My husband and I divorced in 1988 and have been happily back together (without getting re-married) since 1992. It works great for us not being married. Marriage itself I believe puts a great strain on an otherwise perfect relationship.
  • ever thought about just shacking up?
  • Good lord, what a wast of lawyers and money just give up on the wife and hubby thing and live together., i dont know what else to say.
  • Wow. I'm with Supergirl, just live together.
  • Have you tried counsling??? Really you must love each other.. But do you like each other? 4 Marriages is crazy enough but to the same person is Sopa Operaish.
  • why dont you stop getting married? clearly it doesn't work for you if you are on your way to number four. just date each other!
  • I got three words......Are you serious?
  • You either aren't good for each other or you have no concept of what marriage really is. There's obviously a pattern emerging here and unless you've both done something to change your behavior toward each other there's no reason to think the pattern won't continue. You could try a couples therapist to help understand why you either can only live together short-term or why you're so quick to end the relationship. Marriage is about the hardest thing you'll ever do if you do it right. Whatever you decide, good luck.
  • Let me translate your question for you. "I keep sticking my hand in that fire, and it keeps hurting. I've done it 3 times. Do you think I should try it again in the hopes that it won't hurt?" Unless you want to enter a record for the number of times someone has married and divorced the same person, I'd say not. If you insist on going forward, then please do some couples' counseling first.
  • You all need to cal Dr. Phil and if he doesn't want you then probably Jerry Springer.
  • I'm not sure what you should do but thank you so much for the laugh!
  • It sounds like you are perfect for each other.
  • I'm with them...just live together. Who needs a piece of paper?
  • Go ahead, it's nothing like trying. Good Luck and let it last forever this time.
  • Nah! I say you guys should just date if you guys want to be together...no need in wasting money, court time,etc. if you guys care about each other enough then I'm sure being together and not being married will be fine!
  • I think the most helpful and sensible answer may have been the one to live together and not marry. In all honesty I think this will rapidly go wrong the way it did before, but if you try it you will know and without the wedding it will not be so difficult to unravel. I would love to be wrong.
  • Wow Ann C. What a true amazing tall tale. Sounds like your life is so boring you have nothing better to do than watch Days of our Lives, All My Children, General Hospital, Search for Tommorrow and get opposed with the storylines. So did Cliff Warner make a good fourth proposal?
  • What, you think you're Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton?
  • *sniff, sniff*....I think I smell a troll named Ann C. You really should stop watching soap operas and Jerry Springer and go get a job and a life!

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