ANSWERS: 12
  • Extremes always blind us to some extent, whatever they are. Our expectations are tilted in one direction or another, and we often fail to allow someone to simply be human, with all the imperfections that implies. This is odd really, as our extremes are part of our own imperfections. A bad thing? No, not always, but it's not really 100% healthy either. We can be encouraged by love to ignore faults which otherwise might cause us to spend less time with a person and lose as a result. Equally (and obviously), we may also ignore important signals which should cause us to turn away from someone and leave them be.
  • Yes I think it is a bad thing.If you can love them despite their faults then you have a chance. If you hate them so much you cannot recognise any good points, maybe some of the hatred is irrational. I know I suffer from the second on occasions.
  • I do think it can blind one to the truth, and I tend to think it's not the most healthy or productive way to create a positive relationship. I have assuredly made this mistake before...more than once...and it didn't prove to be an optimum situation at all in my opinion.
  • I do believe that 'love is blind', at least for a time. When you deeply love someone, whether a love interest or family member, the natural response is generally one of defense. One simply cannot fathom that someone they care deeply for is capable of being cruel. The defense of a loved one is a sacred thing, in some respects. It is so important to feel that there is someone out there that will always take your side and stand by you, no matter what. But, can it go too far? Of course. Sometimes, even a treasured loved one's clay feet become so muddy that they can no longer be ignored, even by those that love them the most. 'Hate', or at least 'dislike' invokes a similar, visceral response. We do not like to feel as though we are 'wrong' about someone if we feel strongly about them. We all like to feel as though we have someone 'pegged'. When that person breaks out of our mental mold by doing something good or selfless, we feel unsure about our own opinions and have to step back and reassess our judgement. It is a grudging reaction, usually, if we are able to take that step at all. Admitting we are wrong about someone takes humility, and the humility pill is a tough one to swallow. Thankfully, many of us do this daily. If not, enemies would never become friends and some friends would never be viewed in a different, less flattering light. Our ability to critically think is what has saved us all through time and allowed our humanness to keep our societies and this very planet a decent place.
  • I don't think it's so much that our emotions blind us to the truth as it is that we often lie ourselves out of fear of our own emotions. It can be almost akin to an addiction, in that the "Drug" itself may impair our perceptions, but that only goes so far, and beyond that it's just the "Addict" making whatever justifications they can to defend their vice. Embracing their emotions is something people are naturally inclined towards, it's just part of human nature. Therefore, feeling things, be they positive or negative, satisfies some innate aspect of our selves, and people who can't find ways to fulfill that in healthy ways, can sometimes become "Emotional Addicts", locked into a destructive cycle of embracing (Often unhealthy) lies because of their emotions, winding up getting hurt as a consequence, lying to themselves as a means of simply justifying their emotions rather than truly facing them... And so the cycle begins again. Embracing some of the things that our emotions inspire us to believe or do isn't necessarily a bad thing, if no one ever believed what they felt, there would be no art, no love, no beauty in the world. And that would be a truly miserable world. But there's a difference between embracing your emotions and being truly *Aware* of them. If you just feel you emotions, it's all too easy to relinquish yourself to them and accept whatever lies you have to in the name of gratifying them. But if you keep your mind and heart separate, and remain aware enough to observe and try to understand what you're feeling, it becomes much easier to keep passion and logic in balance. It's not good to lose that balance in either direction.
  • Strong feelings, whether love or hate, narrow our field of vision. It's as though we are looking through a tube that blocks out all but a very small opening. It's not always a bad thing when love keeps you from seeing negative qualities that might otherwise make you less inclined to hang around your loved one. But when it blinds you to serious issues that need to be dealt with, it can be very bad, indeed. Blind hate is always, always bad. It doesn't allow you to ever see any value in the object of your hate. This devaluing can lead to all manner of problems.
  • in the case of my ex, it was a bad thing. I was in a very low and lonely point in my life. and then someone comes along that "loves" me. there were many reasons (and red flags) that I should never gotten involved (including it was long distance). and then I started realizing all the lies. hearing all the criticism. she demanded I even lie to my family to protect "her." and I'm 99% sure she cheated on me...but she will never admit it. I guess being desparate for love and attention can make a lot of us choose the wrong person sometimes...
  • Being blinded to the truth is usually a bad thing. I can't imagine it being good. It's the kind of thing that keeps someone staying with an abusive partner because "she's better than the last one," or "at least he doesn't hit me," or "nobody's perfect." Feeling hate for someone, and having it blind you, probably doesn't affect the person you hate, but it has all kinds of negative effects on you.
  • It just happens. We don't want to believe that that someone can be all that bad, when we all have some bad in us. I was blinded by my ex boyfriend for I loved him a lot, for I could not see all of the bad in him, for I put too much faith and trust in him when he hurt me a lot emotionally.
  • I think extreme feelings about someone will always distort truth...if you love someone, he/she can do no wrong..if you dislike someone intensely, everything that person does will annoy you or aggravate you. You tend to love with a "blind eye" and you tend to intensely dislike with extreme prejudice. I think each extreme is probably a negative thing because you are looking at "truth" using different measuring sticks..one for those whom you love and one for those whom you dislike.
  • I think some people confuse love with desire, need, obsession and attachment, so they do not see the person they only see their own image of that person. Hatred seems to be confused with resentment, which is refelt hurt and unexpressed feeling, mixed with unwillingness to look at their own part in things. Resentment blinds as hatred does. Once again projection of one's own feelings hide the truth of the matter. True love can really never blind, it only seems to polish the lens.
  • Yes, it can. No, it is not always a bad thing.

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