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  • This guy that I am starting to see called & said he had something to tell me. He said I have a past that I really don't want to talk about but when I was younger I was on drugs & am a convicted felon. I hope you still want to see me because I'm a really nice guy & I'll be good to you, I was just once a crack head & I really don't want you to know about my past. Please give me your thoughts. My daughter likes him but thinks I can be very naive
  • Give the guy a chance. Let him earn your trust and take it from there. There are a lot of felons that don't deserve to be. And a lot of free people that deserve to be felons.
  • Lisa I assume the man never lied to you about his past previously. He just chose not to tell you about it til now. Can't fault him for that. Especially if he is truly ashamed of what he did. I say the past is the past. If you like this guy and have no reason to distrust him on anything else I say take a chance. Just be careful and don't get taken for a fool. That;'s about all I would day.
  • Every body makes mistakes,give him a chance!
  • If he has served his sentence, that means he has already paid his debts to society. Everyone commits a mistake once in a while. He deserves that second chance. Give it to him.
  • I do know a convicted felon, my brother. He's a drug addict and a theif. He's also a very good con-man. He's told the "I'm all clean and turned over a new leaf" story so many times I know it by heart. He also claims to be a real nice guy when he first meats a girl. None of it is true. If you have a daughter you need to be very aware that any little thing could send him right back to old habits and that puts the both of you in danger. As a mother I would never date a convicted felon. It's just to risky.
  • You are just starting to see him; be glad he came clean. At least there is honesty, right? Anyway my boyfriend is newly a felon.... he is in prison for something he did not do. (He was here with me when the crime happened.)
  • F*ck that. Not to seem narrow-minded or xenophobic, but I just wouldn't tangle with someone who's been down that path. People change, yes. But you never know. If you must see him then I would proceed with caution. Crack and felonies are not things to take lightly.
  • how long ago was his past? Folks can change, while I am not a convict, I can say that I have changed considerably. I can look back and see myself 10-15 yrs ago and I wouldn't have liked me then so, I am living proof that people can change. You will know a tree by the fruit that it produces...check his fruit and go from there. I wish you lotza luck. -Buddy
  • The love of my life is now a convicted felon. I was there when he was sick, when he broke the law, when he got sentenced and visit him every chance I can. He is a good person who was very sick. Being a felon is something that we have been told is bad, evil. It means nothing except he made a mistake. We all do that, just some of us on a grander scale.
  • my dad is a convicted felon hes not bad its just a mistake at least he told you so you didnt have to find out the hard way give him a chance
  • Well, we know how this played out. Chuck is a bad boy.
  • there are all kinds of convicted felons but "crackhead" doesn't start a very desirable profile. you might want to know what did he do to get convicted? was anyone hurt? how did he behave inside?
  • I have a very close friend who is a convicted felon. He was addicted to meth, and had to steal to support his habit. He ended up doing a year in a work farm, and a lot of community service. It was over 20 years ago, but he has always been totally truthful with friends and g/f's about what his crime was. I would be very concerned that this person is not willing to tell you the details of his crime. He must know that if you are together for any length of time that you will find out. I do not know the web address but I know you can enter a persons name and find out what they have been/are being charged with, I suggest you find one of these sites before you find out the hard way that he is a convicted sex offender or a habitual drug offender or some kind of con-man.
  • My ex husband is a convicted felon and had to register as a sex offender. That is why he is an ex.
  • My boyfriend, the love of my life, was once a heroin addict and has a past though he never was in jail. He has 10 years clean. He's the smartest man I know and I can't imagine him being where he is today if it wasn't for his past. ~A lot of great men are born from great failure (sara griffin quote, i'm awesome because I quote myself)
  • If you're talking many years ago, and know he's not participating in the same activities he was, I'd take it slow, read the warning signs, and give it a shot. He was honest with you, volunteering some personal information. Many would not bring it up, unless they were backed into a corner. You can always look up court records to see what exactly the charges were. I know someone who was a convicted felon for armed robbery 20-someodd years ago. He's a great guy now, who had a rough past.
  • My husband was a convicted felon. He stole a beer from a convenience store when he was 18. Because he knew how to pop the lock on the case, they called it premeditated, which is a felony. No big deal. He went to jail for 30 days, then rehab... and it's expunged from his record. Now, if he had been arrested for hardcore drugs, or killing someone or something... Yeah... I'd probably stay away from him.
  • my ex is a convicted felon. He was an abuser and after I left him his next girlfriend wasnt so lucky!!!
  • I just entered this question a bit late in the day, but from what I gather, Lisa, the man has shown himself in his true colours? Well, I have to say that drug addiction is harder to erase than say, youthful 'joy-riding' or shop-lifting as it's a dependent personality problem that leads to addiction, so the chances of relapse are quite high. I know some felons and I have to say they are just people, like you and me but with a high-risk factor added in. So, they'll always be liable to do things differently, impulsively maybe, and dangerously sometimes. It's the way they are. Nice as friends, not as live-in partners, the risks are just too great.
  • My sister -- felony forgery (5 counts) My uncle -- armed robbery My dad -- 2nd degree murder and drug possession I'm probably missing a few more, but I don't associate with my family.
  • My brother is in prison right now.
  • I know of a few. Apparently my brother can't legally posess a firearm due to a B/E back in the 70's. Other than that, I think the rest that I know are the domestic violence idiots. Notice I said know, and NOT friends with. The path you're choosing to take may not be the best one. Sounds like fortune cookie stuff doesn't it?
  • Yes, my ex boyfriend. We met, went to lunch, got along very well, then went to happy hour later that week , and had even a better time. We formed a very close connection, and the chemistry was great! About a week later, he told me he had been to jail for DWI, 5 yrs, and got out about a year ago. I was impressed that he had the guts to tell me, so I continued to see him. As we continued to date, we had so much fun together. It has now been over 2 yrs. and as I look back on everything, he did drink throughout our relationship, but never seemed to get out of hand. More time passed and there would be times when he drank too much, then I found out he was also taking some type of pills. It eventuallly got to where he was out of control and unfortunately one night caused property damage to my home while he was high and totally drunk. I loved him soooo much and I know he loved me, but he is now in another state. We still communicate and he still wants to see me and is still trying to win me back. He told me he went to rehab and it is my understanding, through a family friend, he never went. Sometimes people like this, are sooo good at lying and covering up their tracks that it takes a long time to finally realize what the heck is really going on, especially if you are in love. I have never considered myself a dense or gullible person, but this man did a number on me. Some men are soooo slick, they tell you what you need to hear when you start to question them. I have been working through this for at least 5 months now, trying to make sense of it all and wonder, why cant he just stop drinking and become more responsible so that he can provide a stable secure foundation for our relationship. Please be very cautious and watch for the signs, if there are signs he has not changed, dont put yourself thru anymore agony.
  • Well I can say that being arrested and convicted can be a positive life altering event. One of my fraternity brothers got popped with 168 grams of coke, 1 kilo of pot, and $20,000 in undeclared cash. He is now a convicted felon. That was possibly the best thing that could have happened to him. He now owns his own business and has had not other legal issues since.
  • Yes I do know someone who is a convicted felon. But the crime is very old, over 10 years ago. One thing to remember, are you the same person you were 10 years ago? I would suspect you have gone through a lot of changes in those last 10 years. If it is an old felony, and he has turned his life around, and has learned his lesson, then shouldnt he be given a chance by you? I mean it is your life, good luck in the decision you make.
  • I know one. It depends on what his crime is. A pedophile can never be rehabilitated or trusted, just never. They just keep on. A serial killer probably needs to kill again. Bank robbers find it hard to stop. And so forth. The main thing is to find out the OFFICIAL record, don't believe what the felon tells you about the crime - it will be the greatly expurgated, Readers Digest version. Meet their parole officer. If it's a crime against a person, find out from the actual victim what really happened - again, don't take this felon's word for it. Go into this eyes wide open. After you've gathered the real facts, not the facts he wants you to hear, then decide for yourself. This is the most important part: Anyone who is truly repentant for what they did and is hell-bent on taking the honest and open path will UNDERSTAND why you have to research this so thoroughly. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in ANY way about getting third-party information about it, then pass up this opportunity.
  • Yes, my ex husband is a convicted felon..He is a COMPULSIVE LIAR, CON-MAN (his own mother called him that once, said she couldn't leave her purse out around him) THIEF (BIG TIME) I was a widow when I married him with two little boys. He had a very large POT HABIT that I was unaware of and after ten years of being with this leech he finally got in big time trouble with the City of Roswell police (GA)He was charged with Felony possession of pot With Intent To sell and Distribute...he got off with 40 hours community service and 3 yrs probation. He charmed his way out of that one. Beware of this man (we are now divorced for almost two years now) He uses girls big time so they can pay his way. He works in the Self Storage (NOW at STORAGE ADVANTAGE - Marietta, GA location) Industry and has been fired many times from this industry for LIVING IN A STORAGE SPACE and stealing money (from the business) and stuff from people's spaces. He runs a scam operation with a guy on the outside so when the units go into FCL he cuts the lock and takes out what he wants and either sells or keeps it...HE THRIVES ON STEALING. He runs to his mommy whenever he needs money and cries to her just to get this $$$. She is stupid enough to give it to him. I stood by this piece of SH-T when he was facing jail time and he moved out in February 2008 when I was at work...taking whatever he wanted....He is now living with a girl who has no idea about him. He HATES to pay rent! He will mooch off any woman he can...he wants someone to cook for him and do laundry while he lays around on his lazy ass watching tv. He is 48 yrs old, and his name is BARTON SCOTT EVANS. He a chronic (according to the state of GA Courts) marijuana smoker - he takes a hit every 15 minutes. He is still dealing and selling drugs....he has NEVER STOPPED ! He will try to charm everyone...but sooner or later he reveals his real true self which is an ASSHOLE-Loser...which is what he really is. BEWARE
  • I have a girl I'm in love with , Dawn, she's a crackhead and in jail now...she's been in and out of jail 30 times. While I'm handsome and financially secure...can't seem to win her over. Don't know what I'm doing wrong...she's my passion and dream but she's too busy messing around with addiction and prostitution. crazy world we live in. I guess God doesn't really want her for me. I naively thought I coul dbe her man...home, security with all the trimmings $, but silly $10. crack rock wins every time! When I die and become a spirit body I'm gonna kick satan's a.zz and win!

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