ANSWERS: 31
  • Instead of them having access to each other's emails, it might be good to set up an email account that they both can use. That way their other email stays private.
  • Ofcourse, there is nothing you should hide from your partner. Having trust is having good marriage..
  • Tricky...there should be a trust factor here somewhere. I have access to all mine's passwords, but actually accessing and reading his e-mail would seem like a violation of his privacy?
  • Yes, I think they should share one email account that has both their names.. As a married couple their personal email should be as "One"..
  • i think you should have access, ie know the passwords etc. but using it would be a violation of his/her privacy.
  • I think each spouses should have 2 accounts, 1 for personal and another for business/financial. It is up to the couple if the want to share both accounts or one which is the business. Recently an acquaintance passed away and his wife didn't know the password to their accounts and emails. it was pretty troublesome. So, in a way it is good to share but if you want extra privacy, keep one e-mail account for your personal matters.
  • I don't want to have access to the wife's e-mail. I trust her to tell me anything that I need to know. Besides, I wouldn't want to take any mail she gets out of context. That could destroy a marriage.
  • Sure why not? there should be nothing to hide in a marriage
  • I have absolutely nothing to hide and we know each others passwords, but I have absolutely no reason to want access to his email. I trust him without question.
  • I think they should. When Donna and I married we became one person in the eyes of God and all that is mine is hers and hers is mine. We have nothing to hide but yet everything to share! -Buddy
  • I had access to my fiance's and he had access to mine. That's how we squashed the trust issues. Any questions or worries feel ffee to have a peek. What should be a red flag is when your partner is almost hostile to the whole idea of sharing this information unde rthe premise of "privacy". Privacy is one thing, but that's more like secreacy and that cause trouble.
  • no not automatic....always ask before you do look at the better halfs emails ...its the same as going into a ladies bag or purse ..you don't do that unless you ask first... so emails are the same thing , if they object then it might and I stress might be something up but if they say cool then its cool ..but ask first even married couples deserve privacy
  • Yes. There shouldn't be anything to hide.
  • I favor a joint email account for them to use for family communications, and each to have a business account if required for satisfying non-disclosure requirements. Regardless of the arrangement, it is the matter of intentional deceit that is the big problem, and undermining trust must be avoided. There should be an atmosphere of complete confidence and trust present, and whatever it takes to produce that is the way to go. If it takes a single shared email addy and no information protection is required, that is simplest, although it tends to get sloppy over time unles strict housekeeping measures are enforced - good luck with that.
  • No comment
  • If they have a good marriage, sure.
  • no. every person is allowed to have a few secrets (in my book). i think the key is trust, and access to an email account can't give an insecure person that.
  • Good question, no
  • No. I think they shouldn't be married if they don't trust each other.
  • I say yes, not that I would bother
  • No, that would just increase the divorce rate.
  • they should be able to read what is in each others email, i had a situation where i did have access and im glad i did,it brought to lite an affair that had started up with my spouse and another man, privacy is one thing, being dishonest is another. had i not had access i would have continued in that relationship not knowing that which was going on behind my back. it helped me get closer and also move on.
  • Access, yes. Using that access without regard for your spouse's privacy, no. Hubby and I have access to everything in each other's lives. But we don't use it to snoop. There's a trust factor involved, and a respect issue on top of that. +5
  • I dont think its should be like a written rule or anything but I think that it shouldnt be a problem to share or have access to one anothers if they have nothing to hide. I think it would be sort of suspicious if it was kept all secret.
  • no, i don't. there needs to be enough trust that you don't open each others mail does not matter if snail or email. +5
  • No, what if there's something you don't want him/her to know about?
  • We both have access but I don't check hers and she doesn't mine. But we use the same computer so its very easy to look if you wanted to.
  • access and passwords, yes should the partner use it to spy, if there has not been a violation or betrayal of trust, no they should not. if there has been a betrayal, well, when yu stab your spouse in the back, if they give you another chance you should assume that you have lost your reasonable expectation of privacy.
  • I too think the same. I have a private life similarly he too has his own. So its not advisable to force each other to share their email. If it is mutually decided amongst u both then its fine.
  • Sure I think it would be a good thing. +5
  • Nope. I'm thinking of my boyfriend now. He talks to different people in different ways. What if I read into what he said the wrong way? What if I read into an e-mail a way that he never intended it to be meant? I trust him. Why would I need access to his e-mail? I know I'm not married to him, but still.

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